"Definitely know your limits". Not sure if it's my illness but I've had all sorts of feelings that wanted to become actions, stemming back to when I was 19 and wanted to kill my friend because he was always trying to get me to imagine horrible ways that people could die, wanting to punch and kick people which I sometimes did, and then there were ones of driving a car to somewhere and suddenly getting a strong feeling to drive off the road and/or into a tree. I've definitely become more minimal about this way of life, haha. No longer have thoughts of wanting to hurt people or myself, but sometimes I do want to take an action to the extreme. But I think the important part is the bit you took from that. It can be hard to start a project, especially when it's expected to be more difficult than it actually is. Taking the first step begins the rewarding process.
In psychology these thoughts happen with certain conditions, you can safely talk it out with a therapist and sometimes even women get it and they're the kind who couldn't *stand* The thought of hurting their own kids, etc. Sometimes obsessive thoughts about these types of things aren't our true desires but ... in my mind ... neurological misfiring.
These are also largely for many people intrusive thoughts, meaning they occur and you don't want them to, so that's not really your mind you feel me? It's your brain making you think your mind is thinking it, from neurological misfiring.
This is largely how I have to keep reminding myself "self-hate, suicidal ideas, etc." are a neurological misfiring and that I don't actually have to give into what my brain is trying to (or inadvertently) delude/ing me into.
I think most people are good at heart, and most things people regret in their lives can be explained in this way. Most people deserve forgiveness (this would be related to Christianity *a lot* more than atheism by the way) but it's how I see the world.
Oh, and the tendency to have more of those thoughts and less over time = largely a trend observed in science/psychology, and can be connected to higher testosterone levels when you are younger (violence is observed in other primate species, fighting over mates for instance, etc.) does that mean they need to evolve and create A MONKEY PRISON? Maybe....maybe not. I don't know. I could see it both ways. The criminal justice system in America is one of the worst ones in the whole world. And the fact it has decreased in time = a very good sign, largely considered a recovery to the psychology world (psych world is inherently more worried about the serial killers who do it and then continue like Jeffery Dahmer LOL).
So if this is part of nature/science, then you can learn not to because we've evolved the past our base instincts. I.e. maybe DJT just had an "instinct" to grope all those women "and we should forgive him" LOL NOPE...hahaha. But...harboring resentment in my heart against the president is only going to cause me woes, ill health mentally and or physically, stress, etc..... forgiveness is a very freeing thing. Or at least "not forgetting but no longer resenting and moving on", depending on the circumstances.