I'm pretty sure CE as a gay man has done a lot more with his rectum than defecate.
I'm straight but have experimented both with partners and alone a little bit and have never has these enlightening experiences that some people talk about.
Meh, I don't think I'll actively pursue anything further but I'm open if someone was to really know what she was doing!
Thanks for the response!
First off, gay or straight, it doesn’t change the fact that for the first ~15-25 years of one’s life, our rectums are a one way street. By the time we start experimenting with anal play, our brains have long tuned out the subtleties of rectal stimulation. Also, being gay doesn’t mean that one partakes in anal sex, just as being straight doesn’t mean that one doesn’t. Many gay men prefer topping, some prefer no anal sex. And many straight men enjoy anal penetration.
But all this is a moot point. One can have years of anal sex or penetrate oneself with all sorts of oblong objects, but none of this guarantees achieving the coveted prostate orgasm. It takes a certain type of stimulation, coupled with a certain type of arousal and a certain type of muscle tension to get there. It just so happens that the most propitious type of stimulation is with a relatively small non-vibrating toy, that one only manipulates with the pelvic basin muscles while avoiding touching the penis, and the best way of learning how to build arousal is all alone (at least at the beginning). So all this to say that, a man who has spent the better part of his life having anal sex with penises and dildos much bigger than the diminutive prostate stimulators—sex during which there is constant thrusting and probable simultaneous penile stimulation, both of which distract from subtle prostate sensations—well, that man won’t be aware of the quieter sensations the nerves of his pelvic basin have to offer.
I am one of the straight dudes that for years had anal sex with objects and fingers. I probably started around 15 years old, and did it maybe once a month until the age of 33, sometimes alone, sometimes not. It was always fun, enhancing my penile orgasms and expanding my sexual horizons. However I never had a full on prostate orgasm. At 33 years old I discovered the above links, did the reading, practiced regularly and learned how to have true prostate orgasms. That is, full on ego shattering, mind twisting, toe popping orgasms, lasting for minutes at a time and coming in multiples, often without an erection and without touching my penis. So again, prior anal play is not a pre-requisite and doesn’t necessarily give anyone an advantage, nor does it mean that a person is numb down there if they haven’t felt anything significant yet.
It turns out that prostate stimulation leading to prostate orgasms (super-Os, in the somewhat cringeworthy jargon) requires a very specific mindset and protocol (though this protocol varies drastically from one person to another, with each individual cherry-picking techniques that work for them). If it came easily, all men would be doing it. There are several major roadblocks however. First off most men don’t want things going in the out-hole. Too bad for them. Secondly, it takes a lot of reading (see links in my last post above). And lastly it takes practice. The practice can take days, weeks, months or years. Some figure it out quickly, however some men go 10+ years before figuring it out. Most figure it out within a year of weekly practice, I would say, based on what I’ve read. And even if you don’t figure out orgasms right away, there is still plenty of fun to be had.
So why do all this? Well like I said, there are the orgasms, heaps of them even. And these orgasms aren’t like ejaculatory orgasms; they are longer, more mysterious, and for many people they are stronger. Plus like I said they come in multiples because without ejaculation there is no refractory period. I have consistently had non-stop orgasms for 30+ minutes on end, and after all those dry orgasms still had an incredible ejaculatory orgasm. This sort of sexual play helps one learn to appreciate stimulation of other parts of the body as well, even to the point of having nipple orgasms, or orgasms from stimulation of any old body part. Want to cum with someone nibbling your ear? Fuck yes i do! You can basically learn how to become one giant clitoris. This sexual play also teaches how to be a better lover. It teaches slow sex, vulnerability, openness to others, and how to listen to others body language, amongst other things. And once you figure these things out, what is awesome is that there is no endgame. The more you do it, the more you discover!
And since this is a drug forum, I can tell you that prostate play is very compatible with drug use. Marijuana helps people a lot with it. Personally I can say that marijuana brings me to crazy places. When I take lysergamides and play with these toys, I basically orgasm for hours on end, to the point where I don’t do it often because I want to take advantages of my acid trips to discover other things about myself, not just to wallow in hedonism! I have had mixed results with Mdma, but recently it has been awesome. With tryptamines on mushrooms I have felt nothing down there, strangely enough. I don’t really take amphetamines ever, but my two Adderall experiences were wild with prostate play. I haven’t had opiates since I started prostate play 3 years ago. Alcohol numbs things in my experience but I quit drinking a couple years ago.
And what is awesome about prostate play is that even sober it is like drugs. When I play with these toys, I regularly feel like I am on mdma, I hallucinate frequently, and I have even had out of body experiences while “peaking” with these toys in (aka mid orgasmic plateau). And I sleep like a baby afterwards, cuz I feel stoned.
Anyways, don’t knock it till you try it. And trying it means reading the above link as well as the forum, buying an appropriate toy (aneros helix syn is the standard beginner toy) and giving it ye auld college try. Good luck, and I am happy to guide anyone who is interested. I want all men to discover these orgasms, because it would certainly make the world a better place.