There is a guy who I met through my boyfriend who is part of our "group" - he's very large, and I mean REALLY large, obese even. I think he weighs 150kg, or possibly more (?).
Anyway... he is the most BEAUTIFUL soul you'll ever meet. I love talking to him, he's intelligent and funny and just an all-round top guy. Over the years I've gotten to know him I hardly even see his weight anymore, and I flirt with him (as I tend to do) just the same as all the other guys in our group, winking at him, giving him cuddles, kisses on the cheek.... you know, just harmless flirtatious stuff with your boyfriend's friends.
The other day I dragged him up for a dance at the pub and was sexy dancing with him, doing twirls and stuff and tango moves around him. When we sat down he turned to me and went all serious and said "Thankyou".... I'm like "What for?" He said "Because you're the only girl I know who treats me like I'm normal."
I never even thought about it but obviously it meant a great deal to him that I would flirt with him as if he was half his size...even though there was nothing in it (and we both knew that) it made a huge difference, a huge ego boost. It never even occurred to me NOT to treat him normally because, as I said, I don't even see his size anymore. I just hope one day he finds a girl who can look past it too, because that lucky girl will discover a Prince.
I think I make a difference in SLR, too.... well I hope so, anyway. I might not be the best person in the world (I can be self absorbed to the max), but I have a lot of compassion, which stems from accepting people for who they are and not judging them for what they do.