What do you meant by "service user" I never heard that term before. btw I totally get what you are saying about the "upmarket" thing...and about AA/12 Step methodology, language and the typical male drinker type you get at rural meetings. I saw London by your name, thought maybe you are in the city. Its same here in Canada- if I lived in small city i NEVER would have gone to AA- small town AA is full of mostly white, very low bottom, blue collar men and they have a VERY antiquated, rigid view of AA (like God forbid you mention drugs- they go ballistic, practically tar and feather you if you won't say the Lord's Prayer, which I refused to do for 9 years when I went!). I'm lucky in Toronto because we are big, like London or New York. There are meetings of all different kinds-very progressive I swear lets say you are a left handed, south african librarian, who practices sourcery and prefers to sleep with men only during the full moon, with women during half moon, and stay celibate for the rest of month, there is at least one or two meetings for a group of folks just like you where you feel comfortable (dont mean to be crass- or make fun of anyone - just mean that Like EVERYONE can find a meeting that suits their lifestyle and preferences)...because of huge population, you get a HUGE cross section and you can find groups where there will be like minded sorts. Am so glad to hear you actually met some nice women at the meeting in the City- don't be afraid to actually call them! If you actually liked the meeting I bet one of em would pick you up and take you there- they really do like to help..(.but only if you can stand the meeting and find it helpful of course). It blows my mind how people on this message forum are everywhere in the world.. yet our struggles are the same. I think I've figured out how to PM people on here-which I will try to do and will say hi privately. I also find it a bit confusing as I am new, and only active since the system changed. Will def keep in touch, do the same ;-) I'm thinking of starting a thread to talk about getting clean tips and support or something. Is alcohol your D.O.C.? Or have you done the opiate dance too?Ah thanks so much for the response , I’m in the uk not near enough to London to go to meeting there which imo are so much better as there’s more choice of style .. some are more upmarket ( not a good choice of word at 5am) than others .
I’ve used AA over the years but to be honest it’s just never been updated the methodology Or the language , personally I ( and I’m a service user) associate it with older predominantly male drinkers.
it’s definately not young and vibrant but you can find that type of group in London.
I can’t believe it but I went last night I found a group in a nearby City and although the same it was helpful and I got some contacts 3 women who were really nice .
Thanks so much for your message I’m just working my way around these boards as it’s all changed compared with when I used to log in ..
Please keep in touch and thanks for the kind words xx