I can't believe I just found out about this. I knew him in person (we met on BL first). I was going to raves with him and others BLers and having parties at my house with him and his girl back in like 2001-2002. He is the one who introduced me to ketamine. Even though we lived ~90 minutes apart we hung out for a lot for about a year and then I moved out of the region and didn't talk to him much after that. This one hurts.