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Update: Since stopping my antipsychotics I have been losing weight and am probably not going to be plus sized much longer.

But it’s still hilarious how a lot of men on here read this thread and then insult me for being fat elsewhere on this site when I disagree with them.


Ok, so I am a plus sized 26 year old woman (US 12-14) and tbh I am really insecure about it.

Is it true that men and women prefer skinnier women?

Basically I see my body as disgusting and repulsive as I do not even have big tits or a big ass to balance out my huge stomach...

I honestly wish I had the ability to actually starve myself but I seem to have lost that (I have a history of eating disorders)...and I suck at purging.
 
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As an average man... it's complicated for me to answer.

I am speaking as a 31yr, single male. 6'0" 170lbs.... I'm not large, but I am very out of shape with man tits...

For a blunt answer, at first glace, yes I am generally more attracted to skinnier women (at a first glance). However you need to understand my immediate thoughts after a "first glance" - which is PRIMAL in nature. What is her personality? Are we even compatible? Is she going to like me?

I can't speak as a woman, but as a man (being single) when you see an attractive female there is this signal that goes off in your mind and then you try to rationalize it. When you're a teenager and you get a boner towards anything -it's a little different... you just follow your boner which leads you to shit like instagram or porn. That's simply primal instinct.

But when you get older it totally changes. Some of the most beautiful women I've met were bigger than me. When you get older looks matter much less, and it's much more of a personality and life paths that matter more.



P.S.. I was anorexic as a man at one point in my life, trying to be sexy.... and it's not. It ends up just being an ugly side of yourself you wish you didn't have trying to impress other people.


BEING HEALTHY is much more sexier than being skinny to me at this age, and that's something I'm still working on myself so no judgement.

Just my 2 cents.
Love yourself, before you can be loved....!!!
 

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Just a quick follow up... if you are unhappy with your physical appearance you and I both already know the answer to that, don't we? Eat better and exercise.... I couldn't state that simply enough because it is that SIMPLE and we both know it. I'm putting words in your mouth but I already think we both know that I'm right.

Do you know how many times I've tried to diet and then started a serious fitness regime and FAILED? ... in an attempt to get women? or at least make me feel better as a man?

Shit....

I have p90x DVDs that are so worn out and old they are nearly falling out of their case.... FROM THE 90s!!!!!

they are classics at this point... and I borrowed those DVD's from this gym crazy douchebag "alpha" coworker I had like 10 years ago.

I don't really know where I'm going with this.... kinda drunk and high on LSD, but I think I have a point here.

me, as your average man who I guess a lot of girls think I'm hot (but I don't agree - but I'll admit I have a manly ass full beard).....

I think sexiness is based on how hard you work to BETTER yourself. (as I am doing myself, is this turning myself on? IDK)

Fuck I'm rambling... honestly too high to be posting anymore... but fuck my ladies

My message remains

healthiness > skininess

and at age 30, there are SOOOOO many more words I could use to describe beauty than skinny (which makes me think of girls too young my age).

Just speaking my mind (maybe a little too much) and being real

-snafu
 
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Quickfixgrrl

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I went from an tiny 49kg to... I'm not even gonna say, since I started fucking anti psychotics. I rarely eat during the day; the appetite just isn't there. I basically (and I know this is unhealthy) live on ciggies, weed and diet Coke. I might eat once a day. I never "feel" like eating, yet I've gained like a fucking bush pig because the only things that heal my brain ruin my body.
 

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Wait, what? 12 - 14 is considered plus size? I thought that was about average.

I personally do not like skinny women. I think they look like children, and I'm no nonce. So yeh, rejoice in your curves and I assure you that many men (and women) prefer the fuller figure.
 

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I know fuck all about dress sizes but from a quick google US 12-14 doesn't exactly sound obese or anything, but rather just a bit chubby and curvy no? A lot of guys are fine with or prefer this.

I would guess you don't look nearly as bad as you think you do, just based on literally every woman who has said similar things about herself.
 

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Ok, so I am a plus sized 26 year old woman (US 12-14) and tbh I am really insecure about it.

Is it true that men and women prefer skinnier women?

Basically I see my body as disgusting and repulsive as I do not even have big tits or a big ass to balance out my huge stomach...

I honestly wish I had the ability to actually starve myself but I seem to have lost that (I have a history of eating disorders)...and I suck at purging.
Looking at the last few people I've been with, I prefer them to have some weight on their bones. I have a big dick and like to fuck so it's almost impossible if they're thinner than me (and if they are I don't really get to fuck like I like to...)

I think there's men out there that prefer women with curves.
 

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Idk curvy girls are cute as fuck if they got a pretty face and a nice personality/energy about them. In fact a lot of the models I've liked most and girls I've known personally I've found most attractive were closer to plus sized than rail thin.

Plus (from a logistical standpoint) I'm already too skinny if my gal ends up being rail thin the sex is gonna just be like bones grinding together lolol

Women who are fairly fit are also attractive to me personally, in fact the only chicks I dont seem to be into from a body type perspective are really really thin or straight up obese. Curvy & fit are both delightful.
 
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Tons of men prefer thinner women, but there are also lots of men who prefer plus sized women.

I am and always will be plus sized. I am built like a brick shit house. I used to long for a shorter frame and a slender body and delicate features and then one day I realized that I am pretty fucking awesome.

Then I met my husband, who also thought I was awesome. I never had to tone down my abilities to make him more comfortable, or feel like more of a man. The stronger and more powerful and capable I was, the more he loved me. He is 6'5 and when we met he scooped me up mid jump and spun me around like a child.

I knew I was going to marry him when we were at work and I picked up a set of 250 pound French doors on my back and carried them across the job site, and all he said was "that is hot as fuck"

Find a man that celebrates you, and who you really are. If you have to starve yourself for the attention of a man, fuck him.

I am almost 6 feet tall. In this photo I am about 225 pounds. Happy as fuck, running and lifting weights everyday. I will never be a size 6, and I have learned to be okay with that.

Also, I can kick my husband's ass.


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I've always preferred a bit of meat on my bones. More cushion for the pushin' 😆

Pretty sure it was @Captain.Heroin who said:
"meat is for men - bones are for dogs"

Skeletons are not attractive. In my opinion. Everyone's different, if course. But this thread almost proves most men like meat on there bones and also I would agree that 12-14 is not large, it's healthy.

I'm 32 and I've had (not being big headed) quite a lot of girls over the years, only 1 would I class as proper 'skinny'. And she was only around for a week or 2 before I moved on lol (it wasn't actually looks that made me leave her, she was a straight up psycho but still)
 
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