Sounds like a very good funeral--it's what they should be: mourning a death but celebrating a life. The sadness of loss is a given, but when just thinking of the person also inspires a deeper appreciation of life itself--the energy of a brass band, the stories of the impact a person's life has had, the emotions we are capable of when we let our guard down, the example of courageous living he set--a memorial can be a powerful thing that radiates ripples for a long time. Families offer such diverse opportunities to know people deeply that otherwise we might just pass on by.Untimely deaths are so tragic...
My uncle died and I went to the funeral wednesday. He was of a barely 'retired' age and had been handicapped for most of his life. However because of his positive outlook he fought to be able to walk, paid a lot of attention to the lives of others (it may sound crude but I know first hand that there is ironically a good side to having free time on your hands because of disability, if you use it well..) and he taught himself. It's really inspiring what people may do in the face of disability.
Even his death was still untimely, although it was probably for the best that he didn't have to suffer beyond that point - his body was so spent in general..
I am really sad, but it was also a good thing to be touched by the wonderful goodbye with family and friends.. seeing him from different perspectives... the brass band that accompanied us to the grave, typical for him how there is something lighthearted about such a heavy thing.. seeing how many family members had aged each in their own way and phase of life, coming together.
Have found a lot of gratitude through it. I am going to remember him a lot when I make French style ragouts like right now.. he loved to cooked like that and now so do I