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Pansexual, bi, gay or just full of shit

Juniper Bruhmomentius

Juniper Bruhmomentius

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So I have memories as early as like 11 years of age where I had some gay thoughts, but started to cry and buried whole thing deep. I was raised with "gay people are bad" mentality.
What I find confusing is that I still find women beautiful etc. masturbate to them. It seems that the personality matters a lot in who I find sexy in real life.
If anyone has same kind of experiences, please help me figure this shit out.
 
schizopath said:
So I have memories as early as like 11 years of age where I had some gay thoughts, but started to cry and buried whole thing deep. I was raised with "gay people are bad" mentality.
What I find confusing is that I still find women beautiful etc. masturbate to them. It seems that the personality matters a lot in who I find sexy in real life.
If anyone has same kind of experiences, please help me figure this shit out.
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To me it seems like you're bisexual. The only way to figure it out is to have a gay experience with a man. If you like it, Youre bi, if. you. don't you're str8. Simple as that, i had the. same. doubts like you a. few years ago so said fuck it and had a gay experience with a friend while coked out of. my mind.Let him suck my dick and i sucked his dick. Didnt like it, so now I know im 100% im straight. Good luck finding out ur sexuality, theres nothing wrong about exploring it. ❤️ Cheers, NZN
 
nznity said:
To me it seems like you're bisexual. The only way to figure it out is to have a gay experience with a man. If you like it, Youre bi, if. you. don't you're str8. Simple as that, i had the. same. doubts like you a. few years ago so said fuck it and had a gay experience with a friend while coked out of. my mind.Let him suck my dick and i sucked his dick. Didnt like it, so now I know im 100% im straight. Good luck finding out ur sexuality, theres nothing wrong about exploring it. ❤ Cheers, NZN
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Thanks <3. This seems like the only way to find out the truth.
Also borderline people, how do you find the luxury of having bpd affects your sexual behaviour.
 
schizopath said:
It seems that the personality matters a lot in who I find sexy in real life.
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It does, and this is true for most people I believe independent of their sexuality. However, it's important to note that personality is more about compatibility in relationships than it is simply about sex. There are different levels of compatibly. Just because you are friends with someone, doesn't mean that the sex will be good. Also, just because the sex is good, doesn't mean you can be friends them. The ideal long term intimate relationship (which you never mentioned) has both personality and sexual compatibility.

You are currently figuring out who you are and what you like. You don't have to muddy the waters just yet by finding the PERFECT relationship.

Experience will help you tremendously figure out what you like, but it's not as easy as just randomly having sex and then you know for sure. Many first time sex experiences are far from good, again completely independent of the persons sexuality. Imagine if all the awkward first time sex experiences with heterosexual couples convinced them that they are gay. That doesn't happen for a good reason. Sex isn't always good, especially when you don't know what you like it's most likely going to be bad.

If you are going to take the advice of trying gay sex to see if you like it and since you are not currently looking for a relationship, I recommend being superficially picky about the man you choose. A friend might sound like a good idea, because you like their personality, but again you aren't looking for a relationship in this thread you are looking to find out what you like sexually. Find a man that excites you sexually and try to have sex with him. Of course, take all necessary precautions with safe sex and protect yourself.

Many people figure out their sexuality prior to having sex. Not everyone has it so easy, especially in a socially oppressive society.

You are bi-curious. It's possible you are bisexual.
 
schizopath said:
Thanks <3. This seems like the only way to find out the truth.
Also borderline people, how do you find the luxury of having bpd affects your sexual behaviour.
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How did BPD affect my sexual behaviour? Well, in my 20s I was insatiable. I felt very empty and lonely inside. I craved love and affection. I went out a lot. When the impulse took over, I found someone online and left home.
Sex was almost like an addiction back then. It filled the void, but only temporarily. BPD doesn't affect me anymore. I think I grew out of it. Still bipolar though.

You have to get out there and get some experience! Have you ever been with a man or a woman sexually?
 
schizopath said:
So I have memories as early as like 11 years of age where I had some gay thoughts, but started to cry and buried whole thing deep. I was raised with "gay people are bad" mentality.
What I find confusing is that I still find women beautiful etc. masturbate to them. It seems that the personality matters a lot in who I find sexy in real life.
If anyone has same kind of experiences, please help me figure this shit out.
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personality always matters in every situation

with sex everyone is different

if u wank to women then you find them attractive

you havent stated anything about how u feel sexually towards men so how can we help?
 
Thanks for the answers! When I got out of army I had sex with couple of prostitutes at Amsterdam like 5 years ago. Then Last summer I had threesome with male friend and his female friend. However I have never had an orgasm during sex..
I have always found men handsome and depending on the man sometimes sexy, and sometimes I have been even attracted to them. I guess Im going to give gay porn a chance to see how I feel about it.
 
It is really simple folks & to hell with all you lot saying to try gay sex etc.
I've never had the idea to suck dick come into my head no matter drunk, high on MDPV etc as I find the whole thing revolting.
Yeah some vaginas do look like a punched kebab I admit but a hard dick in my face HELL NO.

Some of you lot really make me wonder I swear to God!!!

nznity said:
so said fuck it and had a gay experience with a friend while coked out of. my mind.Let him suck my dick and i sucked his dick. Didnt like it, so now I know im 100% im straight.
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You sucked dick & now think you are 100% straight?........yeah ok that logic really stands up.
 
@mal3volent

How did I get the feeling you would get offended over it huh? What a shock to my system.
Here you go as this I'm sure will put a smile on your face.
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It is simple as this dick is dick & vagina is vagina folks.
I personally don't care what the hell people get into or do apart from dead folks, kids & animals so don't think I hate on gays etc as I really don't care but to say some of the stuff you lot have on here is really mixed up to say the least.
 
Are you sexually attracted to men or their genitals? If so you are bisexual, and no you do not have to have had sex with both sexes/genders in order to be bisexual.
 
schizopath said:
So I have memories as early as like 11 years of age where I had some gay thoughts, but started to cry and buried whole thing deep. I was raised with "gay people are bad" mentality.
What I find confusing is that I still find women beautiful etc. masturbate to them. It seems that the personality matters a lot in who I find sexy in real life.
If anyone has same kind of experiences, please help me figure this shit out.
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I'd say you were probably bisexual, which is completely normal and natural.
Btw, "Pansexual" is such a stupid term made by millennial who wanna feel special. Even "pansexual" people I've met have admitted to me they have no idea in what way it is different to "bisexual"
 
schizopath said:
Thanks <3. This seems like the only way to find out the truth.
Also borderline people, how do you find the luxury of having bpd affects your sexual behaviour.
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Okay I felt bad for you before. Now I hate you. BPD is the most painful mental illness a person can have (or physical for that matter). It is the psychological equivalent of your entire body being covered in burns. Every slightest touch and movement causes agony. It is NOT a "luxury" it is an evil fucking curse.
It is extremely difficult to offend me, so congratulations.
I'm also super lucky enough to also be Epileptic. DAMNNN those seizures make me feel ALIVE!
 
Zopiclone bandit said:
It is really simple folks & to hell with all you lot saying to try gay sex etc.
I've never had the idea to suck dick come into my head no matter drunk, high on MDPV etc as I find the whole thing revolting.
Yeah some vaginas do look like a punched kebab I admit but a hard dick in my face HELL NO.

Some of you lot really make me wonder I swear to God!!!



You sucked dick & now think you are 100% straight?........yeah ok that logic really stands up.
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Sucking dick doesn't make you gay (see what male drug addicts will do). LIKING it makes you gay. Or bisexual.
 
Yeh.....plus. if you got coked out and played with a friend or anybody......with or without coke. You might not enjoy THAT experience. You already said that personlity is a big influence on whether you like them or not. I am the same way. They may have a good personlity to have as a friend but someone else is better suited for sex. I am bicurious myself but i know women turn me on. I also know that the IDEA of another man turns me on. Can't say that it is like with women where I see a hot dude in line at the deli market and wonder. For one, I am a man and am married. I have also had threeways (before i met my wife) with another guy and not really enjoy the attitude of the other male. My wife and i want to bring in another person but she has fears of bringing in a female and I just cant let any random disrepectful dude have my wife with me. Sorry, got off topic a bit. Anyways, i cant really say i enjoy random hook ups even with females, theres gotta be some kind of sprark. And trying to find an attractive male to have my first experience qith has proven quite difficult because i dont think i view males in the same way when it comes to sex. I dont like most mens aggressive assertiveness. I guess my point is I dont think you can determine 100% sexul orientation by one experience alone. Fuck, i mean there`s plenty of drunken nights going home with a hottue and i walk away thinking, well that was not enjoyable. She just laid there or it was awkward for some reasome, or she just plain didn't have anything going for her than physical attractiveness.
 
ChemicallyEnhanced said:
Sucking dick doesn't make you gay (see what male drug addicts will do). LIKING it makes you gay. Or bisexual.
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Only if you don't make eye contact, if you do that not only are you forever gay but also acquire pro level hair stylist, ballet dancer and fashion designer skills and an allergy to pants that fully cover your ankles.
 
ChemicallyEnhanced said:
Okay I felt bad for you before. Now I hate you. BPD is the most painful mental illness a person can have (or physical for that matter). It is the psychological equivalent of your entire body being covered in burns. Every slightest touch and movement causes agony. It is NOT a "luxury" it is an evil fucking curse.
It is extremely difficult to offend me, so congratulations.
I'm also super lucky enough to also be Epileptic. DAMNNN those seizures make me feel ALIVE!
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It was sarcasm bro :) Im most likely borderline too so I know how hard it is. Or Im just an sociopath idk, anyway I was just joking cause thats how I try to keep positive. :p
 
I think people worry too much about labeling themselves.

It shouldn't matter who or what you are. I say just be you and don't worry about it. Labels are conveniences for others, not for yourself.

If I were forced to label myself, I'd say I'm straight, but to be honest I've really never worried about it. If I were sexually interested in another woman, I wouldn't let some label used for the convenience of others get in my way. And I wouldn't spend any time at all worrying or wondering about if I were still straight, or gay, or bi.

I don't think anyone would be confused about their sexuality if they didn't try to put themselves in a box.

That's my take it on anyway.
 
ChemicallyEnhanced said:
Sucking dick doesn't make you gay (see what male drug addicts will do)
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Not sure what kinda sick in the mind addicts you hang with but I'm yet to meet one.
The addicts I know are more inclined to cut your dick off if you don't hand over your cash than to be paid for sucking it.

Middle class junkies that read The Guardian are a strange bunch it seems.
 
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