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Need Love Advice

Hi friends. I've decided to pursue a new man. I met him outside the adult bookstore the other night. I couldn't sleep last night, even though I got zero zzzz's on previous night, and it finally hit me. This man that I love with all my heart, soul, and body doesn't feel the same. At all. So, I am letting him go. Sounds funny now because he was never mine. Thanks all for your words of advice. Have a kickass day!
Well, that wasn’t so bad!
 
I'm sorry to hear you're hurting.
But leave this man - he's a manipulative motherfucker, frankly.
That he's got some moves in the bedroom, well, there are plenty of other dudes I'm sure would be willing to try whatever you likes.

He won't leave his wife. He won't stop fucking other girls. At best, he will just break your heart.

Cut the cord clean. Get a rebound.
 
Hi friends. I've decided to pursue a new man. I met him outside the adult bookstore the other night. I couldn't sleep last night, even though I got zero zzzz's on previous night, and it finally hit me. This man that I love with all my heart, soul, and body doesn't feel the same. At all. So, I am letting him go. Sounds funny now because he was never mine. Thanks all for your words of advice. Have a kickass day!
Ignore my previous post.

Good for you, go get it! 👊
 
Hi friends. I've decided to pursue a new man. I met him outside the adult bookstore the other night. I couldn't sleep last night, even though I got zero zzzz's on previous night, and it finally hit me. This man that I love with all my heart, soul, and body doesn't feel the same. At all. So, I am letting him go. Sounds funny now because he was never mine. Thanks all for your words of advice. Have a kickass day!
Do you work in the adult bookstore? Do they still publish and sell adult books or dirty books?

I used to go to an adult bookstore/porn store to buy porn on VHS, magazines, dirty books, and vibrators. I did not like being cruised by the other bisexual and gay men there as I was not of age, and not there to have sex with anyone. Also I would read about public sex stings where undercover police would arrest anyone that was in the store, even people not having sex, or the police would do a surprise raid and arrest everyone.

When I was well over 21 I went back and heard men a few years older than me having sex with this elderly man in the porn video booth who smelled like he had not changed his clothes or bathed in weeks! He smelled so bad and was fucked up on booze and drugs the clerk told him to leave.

I am not sure why they did not just go to any number of bars, dance clubs, sex clubs/men's saunas/men's only gyms, or on websites?
 
Do you work in the adult bookstore? Do they still publish and sell adult books or dirty books?

I used to go to an adult bookstore/porn store to buy porn on VHS, magazines, dirty books, and vibrators. I did not like being cruised by the other bisexual and gay men there as I was not of age, and not there to have sex with anyone. Also I would read about public sex stings where undercover police would arrest anyone that was in the store, even people not having sex, or the police would do a surprise raid and arrest everyone.

When I was well over 21 I went back and heard men a few years older than me having sex with this elderly man in the porn video booth who smelled like he had not changed his clothes or bathed in weeks! He smelled so bad and was fucked up on booze and drugs the clerk told him to leave.

I am not sure why they did not just go to any number of bars, dance clubs, sex clubs/men's saunas/men's only gyms, or on websites?
No, I work as a receptionist. Very buttoned up job. I go to the sex shops because I adore stockings and slutty clothing and buy them compulsively when high. It's one of my tweaks. I never have gone into the "rooms ". Although I dress like a whole I'm very particular who touches me. The man I'm going to pursue is a plug, so win-win lol
 
Do you work in the adult bookstore? Do they still publish and sell adult books or dirty books?

I used to go to an adult bookstore/porn store to buy porn on VHS, magazines, dirty books, and vibrators. I did not like being cruised by the other bisexual and gay men there as I was not of age, and not there to have sex with anyone. Also I would read about public sex stings where undercover police would arrest anyone that was in the store, even people not having sex, or the police would do a surprise raid and arrest everyone.

When I was well over 21 I went back and heard men a few years older than me having sex with this elderly man in the porn video booth who smelled like he had not changed his clothes or bathed in weeks! He smelled so bad and was fucked up on booze and drugs the clerk told him to leave.

I am not sure why they did not just go to any number of bars, dance clubs, sex clubs/men's saunas/men's only gyms, or on websites?
Dress like a whore not a whole. Although all men only see holes lol. Oops
 
If we’re gonna stop generalising about women’s whorishness and/or bitchiness in this Forum we can’t go grouping all the men together either. Congratulations on finding a potentially more suitable guy though. Lucky break.
My b. I will refrain my comments in the future.
 
My b. I will refrain my comments in the future.

Please dont, You have been a very refreshing change, with your heart felt honesty.
All is fair in Love and War, be smart and stay safe:love:

Yes @Shelbel69 - your threads and your comments have been really interesting and engaging. Please keep posting. The conversations have been great.
 
No, I work as a receptionist. Very buttoned up job. I go to the sex shops because I adore stockings and slutty clothing and buy them compulsively when high. It's one of my tweaks. I never have gone into the "rooms ". Although I dress like a whole I'm very particular who touches me. The man I'm going to pursue is a plug, so win-win lol
What do you get high on? What is a plug? I once made a man buying a large-or was it medium sized?-butt plug in an adult bookstore/porn store drop his money when he saw me. He might have also bought Amyl/Butyl/poppers? I was sort of nervous as I was there to buy porn and not on the make to pick anyone up. But I think he sensed this or understood it when I talked to him?

I never used poppers as it sounds scary, a friend said it is very bad for the heart, circulatory system, and immune system, and I heard the rush or high lasts maybe 5 or 10 minutes? Also for the price of a tiny bottle I could have bought a case of beer, a gram of pot, and ten hits of blotter acid, or multiple grams of Psilocybin mushrooms and gotten more enjoyment from these drugs.
 
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What does a girl do who is seriously, head over heels, can't live without, deeply in love with with a man who is in a relationship? They live together and I'm basically one of the side chicks. Yes, I know there is more than just me. I simply cannot cut him off, he got me the best job I've ever had at a time when I was near desolate in life. I don't even want to kick it with other men. They all bore me. You see this very special person let's me "do things to him" wink wink. Its almost overwhemling how utterly happy and literally giddy like a schoolgir I am with him. And when without completley lost in thoughts of when I can see him again and reliving the times we've chilled. I seriously have never felt this level of intense yearning for a human being in all my life and I don't know how it's gonna turn out, but I'm so invested at this point there is no going back. My coworker wants to throat punch me the way I gush over this man who is not up to his "standards".


Oh God, the feels.

There isn't much you can do when you're completely under a taken guy's spell, especially with work and all.

The most unethical advice to give would be to just live in the moment, DO NOT GET CAUGHT and most of all do not ever expect him to leave her for you.


Oh...a co-worker knows? Well, stop being obvious . That's not going to be kept quiet, who knows who isn't clear, his partner could well find suspicion from mutual acquaintances.


You are the side chick no doubt and would be hid secret. Something just for him and he will be rationalising this as well.


To be fair though, its not going to win you woman of the year award, this kind of thing. Infatuation isn't a great excuse for interference in another woman's relationship with her partner so don't be surprised if you don't find many sympathetic ears if you get found out of your heart broken.


He won't ever want to change the status quo and be with you, he has a partner he is with despite being horny elsewhere.

Even if he does, you will suspect him of doing same to you.

The thrill wouldn't be there and you might find him to be a normal, annoying sneaky little man who isn't a challenge anymore.

Infatuation doesn't last and it will probably fizzle out or he could just not be as keen as you and have other side women.


Will be better for you to have that happen as declining Interest in each other will be the best option.


Making yourself dump him yet still be around him might not work.



Its fairly common, which is a great reason to stay single.
 
Oh God, the feels.

There isn't much you can do when you're completely under a taken guy's spell, especially with work and all.

The most unethical advice to give would be to just live in the moment, DO NOT GET CAUGHT and most of all do not ever expect him to leave her for you.


Oh...a co-worker knows? Well, stop being obvious . That's not going to be kept quiet, who knows who isn't clear, his partner could well find suspicion from mutual acquaintances.


You are the side chick no doubt and would be hid secret. Something just for him and he will be rationalising this as well.


To be fair though, its not going to win you woman of the year award, this kind of thing. Infatuation isn't a great excuse for interference in another woman's relationship with her partner so don't be surprised if you don't find many sympathetic ears if you get found out of your heart broken.


He won't ever want to change the status quo and be with you, he has a partner he is with despite being horny elsewhere.

Even if he does, you will suspect him of doing same to you.

The thrill wouldn't be there and you might find him to be a normal, annoying sneaky little man who isn't a challenge anymore.

Infatuation doesn't last and it will probably fizzle out or he could just not be as keen as you and have other side women.


Will be better for you to have that happen as declining Interest in each other will be the best option.


Making yourself dump him yet still be around him might not work.



Its fairly common, which is a great reason to stay single.
Hi. Thanks for all the advice. I blocked him today.
 
Please dont, You have been a very refreshing change, with your heart felt honesty.
All is fair in Love and War, be smart and stay safe:love:
Thanks, I am honest to a fault. I see no reason for bullshit lies. Denial on the other hand has been my best friend most my life. Alas, I'm taking off the rose colored glasses and my eyes are now wide open to see all of it...the good, the bad and the ugly.
 
What do you get high on? What is a plug? I once made a man buying a large-or was it medium sized?-butt plug in an adult bookstore/porn store drop his money when he saw me. He might have also bought Amyl/Butyl/poppers? I was sort of nervous as I was there to buy porn and not on the make to pick anyone up. But I think he sensed this or understood it when I talked to him?

I never used poppers as it sounds scary, a friend said it is very bad for the heart, circulatory system, and immune system, and I heard the rush or high lasts maybe 5 or 10 minutes? Also for the price of a tiny bottle I could have bought a case of beer, a gram of pot, and ten hits of blotter acid, or multiple grams of Psilocybin mushrooms and gotten more enjoyment from these drugs.
I’m hesitant to comment on yet another, now entirely predictable, insertion of your random thoughts on degeneracy into an unrelated thread.

But for the sake of general education, “plug” in this context is I believe slang for a drug dealer or connect. The term is widely used across BL so I’m surprised you were unaware of it. Nothing to do with butt-plugs per se.

Poppers are widely used by men who have sex with men to facilitate and enhance receptive anal intercourse. Although plenty of people use them just for the head spins. I’m surprised you didn’t know that too.

With your questions answered let’s now stay on topic, which is @Shelbel69’s love life.
 
I’m hesitant to comment on yet another, now entirely predictable, insertion of your random thoughts on degeneracy into an unrelated thread.

But for the sake of general education, “plug” in this context is I believe slang for a drug dealer or connect. The term is widely used across BL so I’m surprised you were unaware of it. Nothing to do with butt-plugs per se.

Poppers are widely used by men who have sex with men to facilitate and enhance receptive anal intercourse. Although plenty of people use them just for the head spins. I’m surprised you didn’t know that too.

With your questions answered let’s now stay on topic, which is @Shelbel69’s love life.
Yes I know people use them for anal sex, and it used to be popular to sniff them in bars and dance clubs while dancing. My complaint about poppers is that they do not seem worth the expensive price at all.
 
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