^^ That's really interesting about the 4 fucks 1 fight.
I like that.
Did some googling and it's actually 5 to 1 ratio.
Don't try to google 4 fucks for 1 fight. I heard it in a video where some psychiatrist was explaining these things, but googling this shit will only lead to you getting cuck'd. I got lil cuck'd googling these things for you guys so I made the sacrifice, but my brain can handle it since I've been training resistance for years.
So, you should google "negative/positive interactions in relationship ratio" or something.
Thanks
@DeadManWalkin' I've thought about some of the things you've said previously to you saying it but I think I needed to hear it from another person. Your whole post was much needed right now and got me thinking.
^ This helped explain a lot I believe that's exactly how my husband is feeling.
We are kind of at a breaking point now, im not even sure I want to continue the relationship, he does not seem to keen to either, but im gonna take the things you said into consideration and at least try to make our time together more pleasant, whether the relationship will end or not. I really needed a bit of scolding DMW thanks again : )
Well, I think you should make real effort to make things work out - since otherwise you've been just wasting your and his time.
Lets say you got a business. Your business starts going downhill but you've spent years running that business. Do you just let the business run to the ground? It would be the easy choice. Hard choice would make changes in the business structure to make the business work in a way it's supposed to, which is to get return on your investments.
You can think relationships pretty much the same way. However, I think most people get more attached to other people than businesses, so in your case there should be even a bigger reason to give it a REAL try. Not something like "Yeah, we'll work this out."
Last time we spoke you were telling me something along these lines "I will leave him so it's better for him because I have substance abuse problems and he wants to be clean."
And here is the magic thing - get the fuck out of your comfort zone. Try getting clean. You aren't even physically dependent on anything.
You can't change him, but you can change yourself. And if you're having problems all around, the problem is probably in you and not in the world.
Good thing here is that you can change it.
I like to be the reason I fail, since if something else was the reason, affecting it would be much harder/even impossible than just changing myself. It needs a real effort tho.