Yeah, I always say if people talk about me behind my back they are already in the right position to kiss my ass.All people have their own shit to deal with. Sounds like the neighbor consistently wakes up on the wrong side of the bed, to say it lightly.
Ignoring her does sound like the right move. And dealing with rage is tough, i know this.
For me i just try to remember what i said in the first paragraph.
If things get out of hand, sounds like the po po got your back.
Sounds like you have bad problem, but I think relationships need to be micromanaged in the small level all the time with small corrections, so the problems don't get big.Had the usual morning fight with my husband. According to him im blaiming every thing I don't want to do on my PTSD.
Yesterday I showed him this video about ptsd and stress response/anxiety in rats where they explained conditioning. My ex used to have these like 5 hours sessions where I had to account for something I did like every detail, and I could not even just say what was true because he just would not believe me and would keep me there until I had answered everything "right". That happened loads of times.
Tried to explain to my husband that that's why I get all quiet and can't really answer him properly when we have a discussion/argument. For me every "serious" conversation is super stressful. But my husband don't seem to get that it's not just me wanting to get out of an uncomfortable situation. It's like literally hell for me. Especially now with the police hearings and having to think about all this shit again
Sorry blue friends rambling here again as asual
^ This helped explain a lot I believe that's exactly how my husband is feeling.I have been in relationships where the girl would try to avoid the serious talk all the time and the thing is, the little things I wanted to talk about just grew inside me to big things and then I started snapping from little shit, because there was so much unsolved shit which I wanted to solve, but it was impossible because only one party wanted it.
Treatment for hep C has come a long way, it's treatable with just a few months of medication. I did it and did not even have side effects from the meds. Here in Sweden I still think you have to be sober to get treatment but soon they are going to make the treatment available even for active users as I understood.Been schizoing that i have hiv. Or c hep. Gonna get myself tested soon enough.
Did some googling and it's actually 5 to 1 ratio.^^ That's really interesting about the 4 fucks 1 fight.
I like that.
Well, I think you should make real effort to make things work out - since otherwise you've been just wasting your and his time.Thanks @DeadManWalkin' I've thought about some of the things you've said previously to you saying it but I think I needed to hear it from another person. Your whole post was much needed right now and got me thinking.
^ This helped explain a lot I believe that's exactly how my husband is feeling.
We are kind of at a breaking point now, im not even sure I want to continue the relationship, he does not seem to keen to either, but im gonna take the things you said into consideration and at least try to make our time together more pleasant, whether the relationship will end or not. I really needed a bit of scolding DMW thanks again : )