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If you find someone really physically attractive in this day & age can you say so to them?

Zopiclone bandit

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I went to the local discount £1 earlier today to go get my dose of Bombay Mix as love that stuff, it is so tasty it's a gift from God. Anyway I've been going in there for several years & usually the people that serve in there are not the best looking to say the least but the last 3/4 months this woman around the age of 25-30 I'd say has been working in there part time & she has a look about her that seems to be of S.E Asia or some place close to there, she never wears any make up & just has her hair tied back in a ponytail but I'm not going to lie she is (imo) just stunning, I mean a really amazing beautiful woman, it is clear she doesn't spend hours in the mirror like a lot of English women with their fake eyelashes, god knows how much make up etc, she is what I call a natural beauty, if she put on make up etc she could do something like that Victoria's Secret & I'm not joking.

When I went in there today I've NEVER done this before but after I got served she smiled at me & I have no idea what came over me but I said to her "I just want to say you are so
beautiful" & she just smiled & then turned a bit red & tried to hide her face behind a magazine that was on the counter, I'm not sure if now she will think I am some pervert or I am guilty of being a #Metoo sex monster. I became so fucking shamed of what I'd just said I got my ass outta there so fast & now I fee like I've done something really bad by saying that to her. I'm really NOT one of these guys that goes around thinking his got some gift from God that gives him the right to talk badly to women, I'm not sure if I can ever go back in that shop now due to what I said. I DIDN'T try to come over as some pervert or lure on her as I find that thing horrific to say the least.

Do people think I have done something wrong as in this day & age a man has NO DIEA what is ok to say.
Would a woman be offended if a guy said that to them?
Should I now never go into the shop again as I have done something wrong?
 

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Men tell me I'm beautiful all the time. I always smile back and say thanks. It's only creepy when they start to follow you, or you notice them following you before they tell you that you're beautiful. Two days ago this happened:

I grabbed two starbucks coffee drinks from a local hospital. Both my hands were full and I was listening to my phone. I notice a guy stare at me, then promptly leave when I did. I noticed he was following me until he was literally right behind me. I stopped to wait for the light. He casually strolled up to the left of me.
"You got your hands full", he commented.
"Yes", I replied.
*light changes to walk, so we start walking*
"Do you work at ______ gym?"
"No"
"You work in the area?"
"Yes, in one of those building over there"
*reaches the end of the crosswalk*
*he pauses*
"You don't, by chance, have a bf, do you?"
"Yes, I do" (I lied lol)
"Oh, well you are very beautiful and he is very lucky"
"Thank you!", I reply and quickly walk in the other direction

So even though that it's something YOU never do, trust me, girls are approached all the time.
 

Delusional Thomas

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I can't speak from a woman's perspective... But I don't think you did anything wrong. You would probably be able to tell if it offended her. From the way you described it, it sounds like she may have been flattered. I wouldn't avoid going to that store for the rest of your life either. As long as you don't start stalking her like @Pretty_Diamonds said lol Also try to get that negative stuff out of your head. Especially if you happen to see her again. You may just psyche yourself out and make things awkward. A simple "How are you?" at the checkout won't hurt.

Now if you want to pursue something deeper with this random girl, that's a whole different discussion. But as far as what you did being wrong or having a reason to be embarrassed, I see absolutely nothing wrong and no reason to feel that way.
 

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WTF did I do?

I swear each time I do a few Zopiclone with crack & heroin I end up doing really dumb stuff & wake up the next day with flashbacks to stuff I did the day before. Why the hell didn't I just keep my mouth shut? I feel so shamed, I bet she has my photo under the counter now with a huge note saying "WARNING: He has no respect for #Metoo"

I've really gone & fucked up this time, how the hell can I ever go in there again?
 

Zopiclone bandit

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So even though that it's something YOU never do, trust me, girls are approached all the time
You don't think it is a bit creepy & weird?
I feel like the next time she catches sight of me she'll run off or try & push me in front of a bus.
 

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You didn't fucked up, you gave her a compliment that's it, you should give put compliments more frequently :))))

You didnt hit in her or ask her out or stalk her, it was a simple compliment.

Yesterday I asked a colleague out for a dinner but she didnt feel comfortable because of some recent ex-relationship, but I acted politely although in my mind i was " i don't want a relationship yo , just to get to know each other better " , I didn't even consider a dating period or so, I just digged her style and that's it.

I talk with random girls, some comply some deny but it's fine ZB you don't have to be ashamed or sad for saying something you felt or for being refused, it's ok, there are still many out there and if she really is thr one , you will find out later, timing is a big parameter too
 

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totally. fine dude, I remember in nye I was at a rave and at like 7 am I see this gorgeous girl(she was like a 9.5 on a scale to 10 no shit). I was smoking a cigarette waiting outside of the venue and saw her, I said to her "shit, you're really fucking cute u know". She giggled and a lady who sells water and beer outside parties started laughing. I couldn't care less about the old woman laughing I was coming down on so many stuff mdma, coke, poppers, 2cb, morphine and some alcohol. As I said that my friends came out and I just left, she stared at me as I walked off but not in a creepy way. haha that was a cool experience.
 

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this is not a big deal, but if you act like its bad then that is worse, next time u go in be confident and act like you did nothing wrong

how u think anyone could get laid if they never tell a strnager they think they are hot? wtf
 

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I went to the local discount £1 earlier today to go get my dose of Bombay Mix as love that stuff, it is so tasty it's a gift from God. Anyway I've been going in there for several years & usually the people that serve in there are not the best looking to say the least but the last 3/4 months this woman around the age of 25-30 I'd say has been working in there part time & she has a look about her that seems to be of S.E Asia or some place close to there, she never wears any make up & just has her hair tied back in a ponytail but I'm not going to lie she is (imo) just stunning, I mean a really amazing beautiful woman, it is clear she doesn't spend hours in the mirror like a lot of English women with their fake eyelashes, god knows how much make up etc, she is what I call a natural beauty, if she put on make up etc she could do something like that Victoria's Secret & I'm not joking.

When I went in there today I've NEVER done this before but after I got served she smiled at me & I have no idea what came over me but I said to her "I just want to say you are so
beautiful" & she just smiled & then turned a bit red & tried to hide her face behind a magazine that was on the counter, I'm not sure if now she will think I am some pervert or I am guilty of being a #Metoo sex monster. I became so fucking shamed of what I'd just said I got my ass outta there so fast & now I fee like I've done something really bad by saying that to her. I'm really NOT one of these guys that goes around thinking his got some gift from God that gives him the right to talk badly to women, I'm not sure if I can ever go back in that shop now due to what I said. I DIDN'T try to come over as some pervert or lure on her as I find that thing horrific to say the least.

Do people think I have done something wrong as in this day & age a man has NO DIEA what is ok to say.
Would a woman be offended if a guy said that to them?
Should I now never go into the shop again as I have done something wrong?
Yes. I do that sometimes. If someone has a particularly attractive feature, I'll tell them, too.
She's probably just really shy. You 100% said nothing wrong. If you'd said "nice tits" or something, maybe. But nah, you're fine man :).
 

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this is not a big deal, but if you act like its bad then that is worse, next time u go in be confident and act like you did nothing wrong

how u think anyone could get laid if they never tell a strnager they think they are hot? wtf
Totally,
word.
 

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WTF did I do?

I swear each time I do a few Zopiclone with crack & heroin I end up doing really dumb stuff & wake up the next day with flashbacks to stuff I did the day before. Why the hell didn't I just keep my mouth shut? I feel so shamed, I bet she has my photo under the counter now with a huge note saying "WARNING: He has no respect for #Metoo"

I've really gone & fucked up this time, how the hell can I ever go in there again?
Really? U think bcoz u complimented a girl she's gunna think ur ok with rape?
man u r FUKD UP!!! it would be the end of the human race if what u did was considered bad.if girls thought the way u do the human race would die out.you need to stop feeling guilty or seek counseling for the absolutely pitiful shame and low self esteem u have. If u didn't creep her out u did nothing wrong.were u bought up in a very religious household with a shameful view on sexuality? If yes that might explain a little bit but if not then u need to work on your self esteem or your confidence or something man.seek counseling and advice immediately.
 

Zopiclone bandit

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@morpheuspapaverus

I'm NOT one of these guys that thinks his something special, if I remember right you said you look like Jim Morrison & that gives you a natural gift if you look like that.
Also I'm white & she is clearly not from the UK, I got a feeling that may be an issue. Even though I do use Class A drugs I don't look these days so much like a addict since I cut my use down a bit & got some shape back to my face BUT I'm still no model. I got the feeling I may have offended her on some cultural etiquette aspect.

she stared at me as I walked off but not in a creepy way.
Wasn't it bugging you what she was looking at? When I'm high my levels of shame get dropped & I end up doing stuff I'd NEVER dream of when sober & when I wake up the next day I feel like I've been a right idiot.

how u think anyone could get laid if they never tell a strnager they think they are hot?
I personally feel in this day & age where you can offend someone by just posting a meme you have to watch out what you do & say. Most women in the UK these days would take it as you were being some "sex pest" f you did that, I just hope she isn't some militant feminist.

If you'd said "nice tits" or something, maybe.
lol
You do have a point there.

U think bcoz u complimented a girl she's gunna think ur ok with rape?
man u r FUKD UP!!!
So to you my comment came over that way? It isn't me that is fucked up my friend to say the least. I was a bit high when I posted that & was using the "#Metoo" thing as a loose metaphor but I guess that didn't come across. I'd NEVER make light of sexually attacking someone, that is some really fucked up stuff. The whole #Metoo thing was over being sexually forward to women IMO but maybe I am wrong there. Also FYI just because I have a "faith" based around Mexican Folk Saints & feel a pull towards Our Lady of Guadalupe that has NOTHING to do with my sexual desire or any inhibition towards sexual stuff, if you would acre to have a look through this actual part of BL in some threads you will see where my tastes sit & I'd bet I am more open minded than you are. I'm not sure how much MDPV you were smoking yesterday but I suggest you stop.

Show her your Bork porn collection
lol
she did look like the kind that would keep several Bichon Frise & dress them up in nice clothes tbh. There is another Thai/Laos/Cambodian looking woman that lives round here somewhere & she walk one in a pink jumper so maybe my luck will be in on that one.
I'd be happy to share my Bork porn collection with you any time btw.
 
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I look okish, I don't consider myself that attractive mate, over the years I observed 3 main things about me that attract the girls: 1. My intelligence and the fact that I know so much info about almost everything 2. Because I'm always mocking or joking so they consider me very funny 3. My thick dick
 

Jabberwocky

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Anyway looks matter only partially as long as you look like a decent human being and not a caveman, your personality traits really matter. Now it depends on what kind of girls are you looking after, if you are looking after girls that only care about looks then that's where you have to improve
 
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