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Help need advice for son

Just remember there's hope for every addict. I was like the worlds worst alcoholic. All of the doctors and specialist had me down as a lost cause and told me I would be dead before I was 30. I am now 3 years sober. Trust me, if I can do it ANYONE can.
[can't wait until I'm 30 to go and show them how well I did].
 
hotfriesmmm said:
So sound high yourself. Your posts really are not very coherent.
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A lot of people just don't communicate very well through writing. I really don't think this post was very helpful. The OP is not on trial here, even if they are high, it doesn't change the point of this thread. Please be kind in this forum, we're with people in pain and delicate situations who come here for support, not judgment. Thanks for understanding.
 
Shadowmeister said:
A lot of people just don't communicate very well through writing. I really don't think this post was very helpful. The OP is not on trial here, even if they are high, it doesn't change the point of this thread. Please be kind in this forum, we're with people in pain and delicate situations who come here for support, not judgment. Thanks for understanding.
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Judgment it's a way of fixing things if you didn't knew, sometimes at least it has it's point. So, my advice it's that the OP needs to educate and grow up and his kid to be an adult on his dick.

Edit > Having friends and goin outside is bad for some people who envy others because they are broke or simply don't have anyone around them and spend their time alone in front of a screen whatever you want to say here, you have one life and your son it's living it, bad good it's his not yours.
 
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Seen the best of parents rear the most incorrigable hellions.
Seen the worse produce the greatest minds and decent people... my thoughts are it's all a roll of the die.
@OP:
It may be possible that the son has pre-existing emotional/psychiatric issues. I suppose (as I am childless) that he will either snap-out of all this sh** or stay in the downward spiral. It will come to an end at some point but I do pray that the outcome is healthy.
If possible withhold judgment and offer support (other than monetary).
From personal experience down-trodding a MF can back-fire and leave us in a world of hurt.
As far as getting outside... just put the got-damn dumb-phone down and go speak to a MF. It is really that fu**ing easy. It's all going to come crashing down one day: Why be that dumb a** that has no life skills, no social skill and no idea what is past that glass screen that steals our intelligence?
Ya'll younger generation best come up with some robots quick as the work ethic is gone and you will need AI to wipe your a**es and everything else to keep you alive.
Fu**ing makes me sick being around the new "work-force" as they are a fu**ing JOKE!
Edit: apologies for personal outburst....
 
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I just want to thank everyone that replied and gave me support. I understand everyone has their own opinion. But i lay my head down at night and know i made another day sober for years. No i have not been the best mother in my past but i cannot change my past. Only my future...and i am currently walking my son into rehab?...i am so happy for him and will do what he needs ( if anything) to successfully get thru this. Just remember ...sometimes people that don't have anyone may just need a little positive feedback or support. Thank you for the positive comments...
 
Buttercup25 said:
I just want to thank everyone that replied and gave me support. I understand everyone has their own opinion. But i lay my head down at night and know i made another day sober for years. No i have not been the best mother in my past but i cannot change my past. Only my future...and i am currently walking my son into rehab?...i am so happy for him and will do what he needs ( if anything) to successfully get thru this. Just remember ...sometimes people that don't have anyone may just need a little positive feedback or support. Thank you for the positive comments...
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I'm so happy for you and him that you're taking him to rehab. ❤ You're obviously a good mom and he's lucky to have you caring for him. A lot of peoples' families give up on them after taking so much abuse and heartache from their behavior during addiction.
 
Wow SM, spot on, I have given up on my son, he's a 44 yo speed addict and has behaved disgracefully towards everyone who has ever loved him, including his mother, his sister and even his own children. Fair play Buttercup25 you have a bigger heart than me.
 
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I didn't realize you had a 44 year old son, leet. I'm sorry it's been so painful for you. :( I'm fortunate that my family supported me through everything, though I never stole from them (except a bottle of vicodin my mom was throwing away once). It probably helped that I lived 700 miles away during most of my addiction and they didn't even know about it until shit hit the fan. I remained pretty functional the whole time, maintained my home and job, but I went $40k into debt and wanted to die and had to declare bankruptcy.
 
To be alive is to be forced to face impossible conundrums and dreadful decisions. Any creature so embattled will act according to its nature but the glory of humans is they can choose to act with grace, unselfishness, humour and dignity in the face of the most dreadful adversity

Edit: that and telling stories
 
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Well done to any parent who loves their child and let's them know it. Who helps or tries to help instead of adding to the problem ?.
 
I say I have given up. That’s not true, he is the person who has decided to give up on everyone in his family. He even told his 20 yo daughter that she was dead to him. She is a strong person but I was devastated. He said she doesn’t come to see him enough, she is four hours away by train in university.
 
Shady's Fox said:
Judgment it's a way of fixing things if you didn't knew, sometimes at least it has it's point. So, my advice it's that the OP needs to educate and grow up and his kid to be an adult on his dick.

Edit > Having friends and goin outside is bad for some people who envy others because they are broke or simply don't have anyone around them and spend their time alone in front of a screen whatever you want to say here, you have one life and your son it's living it, bad good it's his not yours.
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i agree
 
Buttercup25 said:
.im afraid to call police because i dont want him charged with felonies
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If you're either in the United States or in Canada, police finding him in a state of psychosis would generally mean they send him to the nearest ER for an acute psych eval, and he'll be seen in a facility for around a week if they decide to keep him in the hospital. In that case, you generally aren't charged.

However, there are cases of American cops being outright dicks to people with mental illnesses too, but that is a rarer occurrence. Most just want to send them to the hospital and go about their own way.

Edit: In fact, after reading some of the other stuff you wrote about his behavior, it certainly sounds like psychosis. I strongly recommend taking him to the ER, you can even go to court to get him there if you believe he'll be a risk to himself or others.
 
Fantastic news on the rehab!!! He needs a brake from what he is living as a life..
It all people get it in rehab the first time, but I have Never seen anyone come out Worse ????
 
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