MazDan said:
lol.........Umm, I dont get it.
Meaning I dont get why you wouldnt want to talk to a listener?
Umm isnt it a bit self defeating. I mean whats the point of talking if you only want to talk to someone who isnt listening?
If I get the impression the other person is not taking in what im saying then I just stop talking.......often mid sentence.......I just cant see the point in continuing.
I never said I don't WANT to talk to a listener
That would be absurd! Everyone wants to be listened to, I just said it annoys me that thing where they'll stop, and pause for the count of maybe 5 or 10, before answering you or offering an opinion.
Me: "So what do you think?"
Them: ........................
Me: *twiddles thumbs*
Them: ...................
Maybe it's not "listeners" necessarily that do this, just slow speakers. It seems to take some people a very long time to form a sentence.
I used to go out with a guy who'd spend 10 minutes saying what would probably take me 10 seconds. It used to bug the shit out of me, I'd want to finish his sentences all the time. Clearly that wasn't going to last.
I've probably misrepresented myself somewhat; I'm a very good listener - I'm just what you'd call a "fast interactor" - I like conversations like tennis games, back and forth and snappy.
I believe you can comprehend what someone's saying, make a connection and format a reply quickly, and that doesn't necessarily mean you weren't listening. On the other hand, it can.
My boss for example is the very worst example of this behaviour. He'll ask "So how are you today?" and before you even open your mouth, he's jumped in with "Right - so that meeting today...." Clearly he didn't care how you were today in the slightest. I don't believe I'm anywhere near this extreme!