Opioids Clean of opiates - Sexual side effects please help!

[Zus]

Hello,

First thing I want to thank everyone on this forum who helped in offering advice in withdrawing. I made some pretty dumb decisions and got myself hooked on a combo of oxycontin and suboxone on off days for about four months of consistent usage. I decided this was not the lifestyle I wanted to live, I started struggling at work, my moods would shift wildly and the money I spent I'd rather not think about. Fifteen shitty days later here I am but I have a whole new set of problems.
When using my sex life was non existent. Maintaining an erection was a miracle and orgasming wasn't even an option. The drug use destroyed my sexual relationship with my gf and caused a lot of tension. For my own reasons I chose to stop because I love sex (and money and being successful and not living for the next fix to keep the sickness at bay but sex too). That said, now I have the exact opposite issue. Thinking about sex gets me rock hard instantly, having sex will usually be over faster than a Geico commercial. Needless to say, this is causing me a tremendous amount of stress and adding to the sexual tensions. My gf is constantly reminding me of my poor performance, and I can honestly say I have never felt more insecure/ low self esteem/ downright pitiful. I know it's a common problem and I want to fix it, what options do I have? How long can I expect this to last? I've read other posts on this forum but never really found a general timetable. Again this is day fifteen. Overall health wise this is the best I've felt in months, I can exercise again and generally feel pretty good minus this issue. Please help, willing to try pretty much anything at this point.

 

[szuko000]

Thats tough. Its only made worse by your g/f as I am in the same exact spot almost like it can be quite embarrassing but my girl understands. And she also understands that the complete lack of desire and sex drive was one of the more bothersome side effects of methadone and opiates for me, which is strange because sex was never something crazy important to me. Being a healthy male I do enjoy it but while i was on opiates i couldnt preform to save my life i couldnt even get into the mood. It really made me for the first time ever feel like less of a man.

Now that i am coming off methadone its over in like 5 seconds literally. But I always force myself through another session even if i dont really want to at first because i need to for her. Sure it ended for me in 5 seconds but i try to remember what that means for her, how i would feel if she did that to me.

Have you tried condoms? I find that sometimes they provide just enough of a break from the stimulation for me to "regain control" as it were. But really i get by with the double session second one being less then 5 minutes after the first. That and plenty of foreplay for her. Please dont take this the wrong way but do you consider her in the matter? So like if its over for you and shes disappointed, its not over for her right? It just seems odd that she would taunt if she was satisfied.

But i feel for your situation believe me.

 

[manboychef]

I ran into this when I was using. I would get hyper sexual after I would be through withdrawals and go out and find a girl, get all revved up and it would be over in moments. This was very awkward to say the least, which lead me back to active use.

When I was on morphine and didn't have a job, I used to get middle aged and older women to pay me for sex. That is the only time that not having an orgasm from opiates was a plus. (Hopefully that gave you a chuckle)

This doesn't last forever. Your body has been in a state of dulled senses for a long time. Your body is now like "holy shit, this feels amazing! Everything is awesome....colors are brighter, tastes are stronger, and if I could I would chop off someone elses hand so I could give vagina three thumbs up instead of two!". Your sense will go back to normal after a while. You will be back to imagining different women while your sleeping with your girlfriend so that you can orgasm in no time!(another joke, hopefully you feel better) If you value your girlfriend you will take szukos advice.

 

[smackydowners]

the only thing that really helps is time. condoms and controlled breathing can help, but only so much.

i understand that it must be frustrating for her but if she really loves you then she needs to get a fucking grip. you're going through a very hard time and you're going thriugh one of the hardest ordeals someone can face, and the last thing you need is your significant other taunting you when you're in a very fragile state of mind,

explain that this will resolve itself eventually and that if your relationship is gonna fall apart because of a short bout of premature ejaculation then she needs to look at why she's even with you.

she knows you're kicking drugs and trying to better yourself, right? if she can't be supportive in your time of need and takes the piss when it's clearly then maybe she needs to take a look at herself in the mirror.

or get a dildo.

 

[namnoc16]

Yeah that geiko comment funny shit! I can totally relate and it will get better over time. Until then I would get on top finish my business and then make her get on top of me and ride me. Usually if you still have somewhat of an erection you will get hard again by her going off on top of you(at least in my experience). My problem with that was after I'd blown my first load I was so disinterested that I'd make fake sex noises and come to a fake climax(to keep with the mood) it made me feel like a female pornstar(I'm a dude)!

I was with this girl and had these issues and we were doing some heavy petting(she was teasing) and I got a little carried way and came in my pants. It was funny because she was teasing me all night and I tried to be nonchalant and climbed off her(she didn't know that I impreganated my boxers)and was like you want to tease well fuck it I'm good. She didn't want to hear it but I had lost all interest(funny how semen and interest go hand in hand) and I rolled over(later sneaking off to get a shower.
You could go down on her and get her rocks off first then do your minute man shit and you'll both be happy. I know it sucks now but it'll stabilize.