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BDSM and feminism.

tracedwards313

tracedwards313

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I find it ridiculous how many people use BDSM as their "go to" kink. Its actually sad and they are so lame they dont even know what it means.

A little choking, spanking, hair pulling doesnt equal true BDSM. Yet, so many have fallen in to this Hollywood version of sex. Its cool to "say" but watching "fifty shade of gray" doesnt make you a freak.

Whats hilarious is I know women who claim to be feminist, as well as liking BDSM. When in reality they dont know what the true meaning of those words mean.

Any girl I have ever been with that truly enjoys being dominated doesn't call herself a feminist.

Oh well.
 
Why can't a girl have a political opinion and be sexually active?

Maybe her safe word is "equal pay." That would trigger you more than anything else most likely, making you the one who truly doesn't understand BDSM.
 
The feminist movement has many factions and does cover virtually all of the political spectrum in a lot of countries and whilst it is a big tent, there will be disagreement, for example, betwixt the small sex negative factions and, for example, French style cultural feminism, and certainly the scattering of folks of very conservative to reactionary politics who come to the movement in the broadest definition . . .

How much a hankering for B & D and S & M is inborn or determined, socialised, or whatever hasn't been settled to any degree, but I do believe it is a neurological thing considering where in the brain is involved in sex and violence. I am not aware of studies on it, but I do know that there are those who think there is a correlation betwixt S&M and/or B&D and domestic violence and forcible rape. I know that under-reporting by victims of the latter two makes studying those two abominations particularly difficult. And the reverse could also be true, I suppose, as in these folks sublimating a great deal of intense energy this way . . . there could also be zero correlation.

I once knew this lady who let us know during a threesome that she was a knife freak . . "Can you at least use the dull side of a butter knife please . . ."

How much of it has to do with submission and dominance I don't know, but when I have worked for accomplished and aggressive or assertive ladies as what these days is called an administrative assistant or secretary -- I always liked the rôle reversal especially on ideological grounds in particular, but with those who jumped my bones, our go to kink was threesomes and ceiling mirrors.

By the way, did you know that S & W is people having sex and vomiting or spitting root beer on each other?

local.theonion.com

S&M Couple Won't Stop Droning On About Their Fetishes

SANTA FE, NM–According to friends of Jason Roder and Gina Von Poppel, the sexually adventurous couple won't stop droning on about spanking, caning, ball gags, erotic photography, fetish parties, leather, rubber, PVC, latex, whips, floggers, and countless other S&M-related objects and activities.
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w01fg4ng said:
BTW, the movie Secretary is soooo much better. What movies do you recommend?
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The Sound of Music, It's A Wonderful Life, You Can't Take It With You . . .

You know, the pr0n meisters could make a complex and chillingly eloquent pr0n film with just about any political and para-poltical subtext that they desire about the situation in the United States at the Fox News Channel. I have actually heard on the street that presenter Bill O'Reilly being gone for three weeks before the formal announcement of his sacking had to do with his victim being a dabbler in mixed martial arts and she had 15 kilos and the better part of 36 cm on him, and manifestly several dozen IQ points -- i.e. he got his face broken. So it would be a pr0n film, documentary, and martial arts film.
My suggestion for a title? A Streetcar Named Recalcitrance or The Penis of Darkness
 
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Nicomorphinist said:
S & W is spitting root beer on each other?
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Nah man that's A & W you are thinking of.


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My ex who got me really into it & got me to accept a certain thing I have that I felt guilty over used to be 100% sub before she got with me.
On the first time we got down she was a bit shy etc but she soon got the hang of it & still to this day I get weak at the knees when I think back to her & the way she could do her thing. She also learned she had a natural gift from god, she used to think one part of her body was really ugly etc but when she got with me she learned different, now she makes bloody money off guys via the Internet doing cam work thanks to me.
 
dont people in power like politicians always want to be subs?

bdsm is about the ying and yang in ones whole character

also subs are kind of domineering _tie me up, hit me (chill out and stop giving orders sheesh)
 
Zopiclone bandit said:
50 Shades of Grey is terrible.

Salò.
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I'm pretty sure the title 50 Shades of Grey was, consciously or not, cribbed from a line in a speech by Reverend Pat Robertson in Des Moines, Iowa during January 1988 when he was running for president . . . I have heard the local equivalent of 100 shades of grey used in reference to internal politics in the Front National back in the Bruno Mégret days circa 1998, à propos of what I wish I could remember.

I first encountered 120 Days of Sodom when some wit decided to put it in the literature rack at church -- there it was along with Lives of the Saints and issues of The Catholic Worker, Commonweal, America, The Catholic Register and so on . . .
 
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tracedwards313 said:
I find it ridiculous how many people use BDSM as their "go to" kink. Its actually sad and they are so lame they dont even know what it means.

A little choking, spanking, hair pulling doesnt equal true BDSM. Yet, so many have fallen in to this Hollywood version of sex. Its cool to "say" but watching "fifty shade of gray" doesnt make you a freak.

Whats hilarious is I know women who claim to be feminist, as well as liking BDSM. When in reality they dont know what the true meaning of those words mean.

Any girl I have ever been with that truly enjoys being dominated doesn't call herself a feminist.

Oh well.
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There are varying degrees of BDSM. Also, a woman can be a feminist or for sex/gender equality, and into BDSM and submissive or a consensual slave.
 
pofacedhoe said:
dont people in power like politicians always want to be subs?

bdsm is about the ying and yang in ones whole character

also subs are kind of domineering _tie me up, hit me (chill out and stop giving orders sheesh)
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Haha, your reply reminds me of a gay white collar sex pig I used to know. He worked in computer programming and finance, and sexually he loved having men choke him, spank him, spit on him, or put their bare hand or hands wearing leather gloves around his throat or over his mouth.

He had stopped doing anal sex sometime in the early 1980s and it saved his life as he was/is passive or the taker/bottom type, did not use condoms as safer sex/AIDS were very new then, and many of his gay friends who still did anal sex got infected with HIV and died due to complications of HIV/AIDS.

I once asked him how many men he had choke him and he said he had no idea how to calculate how many he had been with over the decades. He would basically get with almost any guy-even sometimes male prostitutes, or some real sleazy guys into unsafe sex and hard drugs who wore leather gloves or who would choke him and dominate him while calling him nasty names, and 'forcing' him to suck cock. He also wanted men wearing leather gloves to gut punch him and had kidnapping fantasies.

I told him to be extremely careful as there have been cases where bisexual and gay men went to meet men who they met online, in bars, via apps, or some other way or location and they were murdered.
 
Nicomorphinist said:
How much a hankering for B & D and S & M is inborn or determined, socialised, or whatever hasn't been settled to any degree, but I do believe it is a neurological thing considering where in the brain is involved in sex and violence. I am not aware of studies on it, but I do know that there are those who think there is a correlation betwixt S&M and/or B&D and domestic violence and forcible rape. I know that under-reporting by victims of the latter two makes studying those two abominations particularly difficult. And the reverse could also be true, I suppose, as in these folks sublimating a great deal of intense energy this way . . . there could also be zero correlation.
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My understanding has always been that sexual development is primarily determined by environmental factors, right? That there may be some predisposition determined genetically which scientists still don't completely understand, but that is predominantly environmental (which is why scientists have had difficulty finding the "gay gene", for example).

Something like BDSM isn't even as fundamental as a sexual orientation, either...it's more of a kink that could exist within a fairly conventional hetero or homosexual relationship. So I'd be surprised if there were actually some kind of "inborn" component to it. Maybe there is though, who knows

tracedwards313 said:
A little choking, spanking, hair pulling doesnt equal true BDSM. Yet, so many have fallen in to this Hollywood version of sex. Its cool to "say" but watching "fifty shade of gray" doesnt make you a freak.
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That just sounds like rough stuff

Why is it surprising that BDSM is a popular sexual kink? All BDSM does is take one aspect of many sexual relationships (the active subject/passive object dichotomy) and underlines it, and adds a symbolic/ritualistic component to the whole affair. (That kind of made me sound like a douchey anthropologist, but yeah, lol) Hence all the focus on foreplay involving restraint, pain, humiliation etc. If you understand that domineering and submissive impulses exist within people to varying degrees, and understand the importance people place on shared symbolic life, then you understand the appeal of such content.
 
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