Misc 25 years old and zero libido after taking sleeping pills for over a year.

[SangerRainsford]

just keeping a general 'pro-sex' (masturbation, fantasies, actual sex, flirting, etc etc) mindset, coupled with NOT obsessing over the problem, or how long it's gonna take, is your only real approach here. That, plus just staying healthy in general (low sleep, low fat intake, etc - random things in life that're out of line can hinder libido and/or sex).
Past that, there's *nobody* that can tell you how long it's going to take you, it's not really that kind of situation :/

/battered, deceased equine is battered
//shouldn't have taken 4p, but this is a pretty good example of why bl > therapists/dr.'s in lots of cases ;P

 

[shred81]

Like I was saying, it was a gradual thing that occured around this point. It definitely didn't happen overnight; what happened first is that I noticed the libido was gone, followed by a time of experimentation where I tried to force myself to be sexual. I could orgasm, but the orgasms were lame as my drive was not truly strong. This led to me not doing anything sexual for awhile as the drive was not there. Not long after this began, maybe one to two weeks, I happened to think of something sexual and got really turned on, took care of business and had an intense orgasm. This made me happy as it was the first like that in a long time. After that, I didn't press the issue and maybe 5 days later, I was extremely horny again. This led me to realize that for me, the way to get over this was to let my drive build up and not force myself to be sexual as regularly as I was before. Nowadays, I do go through periods of wanting sex daily for two weeks or so, but this is usually followed by two more weeks where I want it only sporadically. I think you just have to accept that you're in a stage of not really wanting sex right now and let your drive build. It will definitely build as time goes on without release, there are actually people who do this on purpose to increase their sex drive to astronomical levels.

If you don't have any sex or masturbation for two weeks and still have no drive, you may have something else causing this. If it is indeed a result of changes to the mind that are the underlying cause, I am very confident that within two weeks of your sex drive constantly building, you will notice it has returned with a vengeance. Don't try to force your sex drive to be there, let it come back on it's own and I'm confident you will notice the return soon (within two weeks).

But in reality, what else could it be? My libido left August 2010. Thats a long time ago. Now I continued taking Ambien nightly for many months past that point and didnt quit until 5 months after my libido left so I only worsened the problem. So in essence, since August 2010 I havent had a libido yet I am stronger, leaner, more muscular and am in better physical condition that when I had the libido. I mean the problem has been going on for some time so if I had a serious condition brewing inside of me, wouldn't I have begun to suffer from some real medical issues?

 

[Pegasus]

^There's no telling for sure... You're right that it is much less likely to be anything else, I'm just being as accurate as I can be when I discuss this, just in case.

 

[Kastr0]

I dont know much about either of those sleeping drugs but it sounds like they may have decreased your testosterone?

Try taking Tribulus Terrestric, I take it for working out (naturally and safely increases your testosterone) and I find it makes my libido skyrocket.. I can litterally take one tablet and in 2 hours once its fully digested im always all over my girlfriend.

Also, my girlfriend takes Doxepin (sleeping aid) which is non-narcotic nor habit forming if you still have problems sleeping and are going consider looking at something to take in the near future which will not interfere with your libido maybe it is something you should look into!

All the best!

 

[shred81]

I dont know much about either of those sleeping drugs but it sounds like they may have decreased your testosterone?

Try taking Tribulus Terrestric, I take it for working out (naturally and safely increases your testosterone) and I find it makes my libido skyrocket.. I can litterally take one tablet and in 2 hours once its fully digested im always all over my girlfriend.

Also, my girlfriend takes Doxepin (sleeping aid) which is non-narcotic nor habit forming if you still have problems sleeping and are going consider looking at something to take in the near future which will not interfere with your libido maybe it is something you should look into!

All the best!

Thanks for the advice. I don't think this is a testosterone issue for reasons I discussed. Also, doxepin is a drug which has sexual sides in almost everyone that takes it. I am obviously never going to use that. To be honest, if I do need a sleeping aid, I will use doxylamine succinate cause its over the counter. I am not gonna be using any sleeping aides after this horrible experience but if I did need one, doxylamine would prob be the one.

 

[TooMuch2C-E]

I'm a little benzo'd out right now, so I haven't bothered reading too much of this thread. I'm prescribed olanzapine (a radically different substance, an antipsychotic) and I'm aware that decreased libido is a side effect of it's use, most likely due to it's effects on serotonin-based mechanisms. I spoke to my doctor about it, and she said that if I so desire to have my libido returned, I should take some time without taking my medication, under her supervision.
Now, using pure hypothesis here, it is my understanding that Lunesta (Eszopiclone) has some cholinergic activity and acts as a GABA receptor antagonist, Gamma-amino-butyric acid being the chief inhibitory neurotransmitter. Perhaps it acts on you in such a way that the parts of your psyche responsible for libido modulation are overwhelmingly inhibited. Don't take my word for it though, I'm an amateur. I'd recommend exploring other treatments for insomnia (though I sure as hell don't recommend a benzodiazepine, which unfortunately, eszopiclone has mutual receptor affinity.) If you feel you can handle it, try going without your medication for a brief period of time and see if that helps matters. Melatonin might also help, which most health supplement stores would have in stock (In the event you do decide to briefly cease taking your medication). Just make sure you get the synthetic prepared form of melatonin. Also, note that an external source of melatonin may no be sufficient in treating some sleeping disorders.

 

[SangerRainsford]

srsly, if you start any post w/ the sentence you did, you probably shouldn't have posted it at all, and shouldn't expect many to read it

 

[TooMuch2C-E]

Yeah, I can't argue with you there. Just felt like contributing.

 

[Captain.Heroin]

Also, my girlfriend takes Doxepin (sleeping aid) which is non-narcotic nor habit forming if you still have problems sleeping and are going consider looking at something to take in the near future which will not interfere with your libido maybe it is something you should look into!

All the best!

Doxepin is a TCA, which could definitely cause a physical dependency. I don't think TCA's make for very good sleep aids IMO, although if it works for someone then that's great.

 

[SangerRainsford]

Yeah, I can't argue with you there. Just felt like contributing.

don't worry, no offense meant - I always feel like (and occasionally do..) post when benzo'd out. My general rule is no posting if I cannot legally drive a car ;P
/but benzos...damn they always make people do the dumbest shit! seem to be one of the worst drugs in the "did I really?" category

 

[shred81]

Like I was saying, it was a gradual thing that occured around this point. It definitely didn't happen overnight; what happened first is that I noticed the libido was gone, followed by a time of experimentation where I tried to force myself to be sexual. I could orgasm, but the orgasms were lame as my drive was not truly strong. This led to me not doing anything sexual for awhile as the drive was not there. Not long after this began, maybe one to two weeks, I happened to think of something sexual and got really turned on, took care of business and had an intense orgasm. This made me happy as it was the first like that in a long time. After that, I didn't press the issue and maybe 5 days later, I was extremely horny again. This led me to realize that for me, the way to get over this was to let my drive build up and not force myself to be sexual as regularly as I was before. Nowadays, I do go through periods of wanting sex daily for two weeks or so, but this is usually followed by two more weeks where I want it only sporadically. I think you just have to accept that you're in a stage of not really wanting sex right now and let your drive build. It will definitely build as time goes on without release, there are actually people who do this on purpose to increase their sex drive to astronomical levels.

If you don't have any sex or masturbation for two weeks and still have no drive, you may have something else causing this. If it is indeed a result of changes to the mind that are the underlying cause, I am very confident that within two weeks of your sex drive constantly building, you will notice it has returned with a vengeance. Don't try to force your sex drive to be there, let it come back on it's own and I'm confident you will notice the return soon (within two weeks).

I have to admit that since this problem is on my mind, I am trying to force myself to be sexualy aroused and it's not helping. I am really gonna do as you say and completely refrain from anything for 2 weeks. Additionally, if anyone is seeing this thread for the first time who has experience the same problem as me, feel free to chime in. Thanks so much.

 

[Jaylib]

I am in a similar situation myself but from taking a whole different type of drug. As well as having a very low libido, there have been changes with my johnson so to speak, and other issues. As young men I think we are bound to have trouble with doctors taking us seriously. As it is just low libido for you, you should see a doctor and check everything over but don't dwell on it.

Is there anything that at least gives you a temporary boost? any drugs, exercise, supplements?

 

[CheapHighMan]

Well whether the culprit is the sleeping pills or something else you could try a libido enhancing drug. My favorite is marijuana but you could also try an amphetamine or even caffeine (suprislingly works well from what I hear).

You could also try erection enhancers like Viagra and Cialis

Finally don't do any downers for a while. This includes alcohol you don't wanna make your problem worse.

 

[Pegasus]

I have to admit that since this problem is on my mind, I am trying to force myself to be sexualy aroused and it's not helping. I am really gonna do as you say and completely refrain from anything for 2 weeks. Additionally, if anyone is seeing this thread for the first time who has experience the same problem as me, feel free to chime in. Thanks so much.

Yeah man, forcing it is killer, definitely give it a break and I'm confident it'll rear back up in no time!

 

[Mora Fiend]

I almost forgot to mention that L-Arganine is very effective for stimulating the blood flow to the penis as well. It is very cheap and can be purchased just about anywhere. That supplement coupled with exercise will certinally help you with the libido problem.

 

[moonshield06]

OP: Have you considering going to see your physician? Sometimes it's best to just cut to the chase and get medical attention. To me, it sounds psychological. I don't think it's physical as you are able to have an erection, which tells me your johnson is working as it should. However your desire to engage in sexual activities has decreased. That makes me believe it's a psychological issue.

I'm sorry if this post is somewhat old, but I can't help but feel like I should submit my opinion and that is to speak with a medical professional. We have some very knowledgeable posters here, but no one can give you the best answer and a course of treatment like a doctor can. Perhaps a libido enhancer medication is in order? I wish I could be of more help. You took the first step, and stopped the sleeping pills. Next should be a visit with your doc. I would lay off any kind of downer as that'll just make matters worse. This includes alcohol. Caffeine can help, and marijuana helps as well. Getting good and stoned before having sex with my girlfriend always enhances the experience for me, and every touch feels that much better. I'm guessing you're not willing to start doing drugs, even if it's just weed, to help the problem though.

Best of luck to you. As a man, I can imagine how stressful this situation must be for you. Here's hoping you get the issue corrected, and go back to partaking in your sexual adventures.

Edit: I don't know if you're a spiritual man, but perhaps meditation could do you some good. Try to work on getting in the right mind-set. If you have a significant other, which I assume you do, talk with her about the situation if you haven't already. It's not good to bottle these things up, but if you've been trying and failing, I'm sure she's aware of something. If she doesn't know the full length of the situation, make sure you tell her. Have her help you try and get in the mood. Try new things. Visual stimulation. New techniques. Pleasure spots. Just explore and experiment. Perhaps a sex book(no, not a porn mag) could help open up new doors for you guys. Me and my girlfriend have this pretty big book that goes into the details of sex, positions, tips on increasing intimacy. It goes well beyond just listing the positions. It helps with the mental side of things, and can really help your sex life flourish. It is called "The Better Sex Guide". It has done a lot of good for me and my partner. We kind of hit a rut with our sex life a few months back. Everything was routine, and we found ourselves going through the same motions/doing the same things as we always have. It completely took away the "heat of the moment" aspect of our sex lives. Now we've completely changed up what we do. We've been trying completely new positions, new ways of foreplaying, the works. At first when she bought the book for us, I was like "Get outta here..I know what I'm doing.." but once I opened my mind, man -- what a difference.

 

[illuminati soulja]

I just wanted to say from a bunch of posts up by Pegasus that it really does seem like there is something with 2 weeks time and getting horny or needing to get off, i've been single since '07 (i'll be honest.. i assaulted my babies mama [paid my dues] and still haven't gotten into the mindset to find someone new since she is done with me and wayy past moved on, besides the connection we have between our kids) but the last time i had sex was with her those years ago, so all i have is my hand so i can forget all about getting off and then randomly within like 2 weeks time of last wacking it i feel the urge i gotta let a nut go.. so i do it and it's great, and then it all repeats itself again in about 2 weeks.. weird. And i noticed it's usually in the morning right after i wake up and am just lying in bed thinking, my mind just drifts into the spank bank (memories of shit i've done with girls) and re use those memories to bust a nut.

referring to post #79

 

[shred81]

Ok guys so I finally got bloodwork done. Everything seems normal. My serum test is normal, and my free test is high. My SHBG is high according to labcorps range but not high according to that of the Mayo Clinic. My shbg is indeed high according to Labcorp but my free test is also high. I am prone to anxiety and I think my libido problem is mental. Is that possible? What do you guys think about my bloodwork? Prolactin and Estrogen are normal too. Is there anything here that would lead to libido problems?

 

[shred81]

Also, the low neutrophiles are no big deal. I spoke to a well known cardiologist about it(he is my close relative and I dont want to discuss my libido problem with him) and he said that the low neutrophiles are because I was doing a keto diet to get shredded at the time of the blood test.

 

[SangerRainsford]

I am prone to anxiety and I think my libido problem is mental.

QFT.
Honestly, discussing the issue this much, it's not hard to imagine you having significant 'performance anxiety'. I bet just forgetting it will do you better than obsessing over it