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Casual sex?

Zopiclone bandit

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Just curious why people do this?
What do you get from using an app to meet a total stranger for sex apart from the obvious?
 
*pops some popcorn*

Can't wait to see some answers to this
 
Fun?
Release from sexual frustration?
Experimentation with things they would not be comfortable doing with their partner?
Emotionally satisfied in a relationship, but sexually bored?
Dunno, probably these and many other reasons
 
Like you said man.. Its actually mostly the obvious. I met a few girls on tinder and had an amazing time. What else is there to say than the obvious reasons
 
It is all matter of test, for someone casual sex is fun, for someone it is not, so just a matter of taste...
 
Sorry I was a bit fucked up yesterday, my point was for me I just don't get the point or how you gewt horny off meeting a total stranger & just going to bed with them.
I am quite sure the sex really cannot be that great, maybe it is just me but you have to know someone well before you can really have decent sex with them, for all you know the woman you meet may really be into anal or fisting for example but to raise those kinda subjects with someone you have just linked up with would cause most people to grab their coat & walk towards the door.

I would much prefer to stay at home & watch free porn online than have to go through god knows how many profile pictures of random folks, finally find one that you like the look of, make contact & hope they like your picture too, sort out going to meet them (while all along having in the back of your mind a worry they may be some weird serial killer or into some weird cult stuff & try to sell you online to some gay Nazi deathcult etc) & then have sex that isn't that great anyway.
 
I met a few girls on tinder and had an amazing time. What else is there to say than the obvious reasons

Was it great sex though really?
Everyone & I don't care how much you protest about it has sexual tastes they wouldn't raise with a stranger & to really bust your nut or to squirt if you are a woman some "buttons" have to be pressed.

To me the concept of just having sex with a stranger makes me feel a bit sick tbh, out of all your best sex sessions & your best orgasams how high did this sex rate?
 
the rush comes from the performance

there is something satisfying about meaningless instant perfection
 
*puts popcorn down*

Would those of you into casually hooking up on (insert your favorite dating/hookup app/site here) say that a lot of the time and energy that goes into making a profile, searching for compatible profiles, and planning an encounter is thrilling more because of the chase/hunt , anticipation, preformance, or that it is with a complete stranger?

I would be lying if I said I've never ended up going to bed with someone on a first date (I have always been extremely selective in these situations), however, I don't think I'd go hunting around for the only purpose of hooking up with a random stranger.

Perhaps it's preference, or some sort of mental block. Or maybe it's just the psychological makeup of being a female and preferring to be the one being chased after.
 
the low effort is part of the appeal^ so no a minimal amount off effort goes into it

thats kind of the point and why some people find it unappealing (cheap and lacking)
 
Right, because it's easy to be easy.

I suppose it also has to do with one's end goal.

Do you desire a relationship, or prefer to not become emotionally attached?

Different strokes for different folks.

It's not my style to hit it and quit it.

Keeping it classy, not trashy.
 
This just makes me more sure I am right in the way I see this subject.

A SUSPECTED cannibal couple lured victims using dating sites before drugging, butchering and eating them, it has been claimed.
Dmitry Baksheev, 35, and his wife Natalia, 42, have reportedly confessed to killing at least 30 people.

https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/4547472/cannibal-couple-hunted-for-victims-on-dating-sites-before-drugging-butchering-and-eating-them/


 
^^ Agree, wolfie. Might be the case for him but definitely not the case for many of us.
 
I agree with the both of you. I'm also in a monogamous relationship, but the very same relationship started with hooking up (no intention on my part to have sex, but sex happened) and I ended up staying the night and for like 4 days after that because the sex was so awesome.

Maybe he means to say that the longer you're in a physical relationship with someone, the better you get to know what does it for them, but that isn't always the case because some people might not be able to comfortably discuss their sexual needs, or might not know themselves well enough sexually to know what they like.
 
Was it great sex though really?
Everyone & I don't care how much you protest about it has sexual tastes they wouldn't raise with a stranger & to really bust your nut or to squirt if you are a woman some "buttons" have to be pressed.

To me the concept of just having sex with a stranger makes me feel a bit sick tbh, out of all your best sex sessions & your best orgasams how high did this sex rate?
Sorry just saw this. Believe it or not they were really good sex. One of the girls gave great blow jobs and one of the girls the sex was great. She even said wow we have great sex together. Lol i kid you not
 
This just makes me more sure I am right in the way I see this subject.
There's really no right or wrong here, it's just personal preference.

Personally I'm not into casual sex - or, more accurately, I'm not into deliberately seeking out casual sex, will come back to this point in a second - the few times I've tried it I really did not feel good about myself afterwards. But I wouldn't rule out the idea that I could have a good experience in the future, perhaps I've just been unlucky. However I am naturally a fairly reclusive and asocial personality type, and therefore the effort involved in putting myself in situations where casual sex is likely to be the outcome often seems great enough that I don't have much interest in bothering.

That said, I recognise that for people who are naturally more social and outgoing, the effort/reward ratio from seeking out casual sex is great enough that the effort invested doesn't even seem like an effort, probably it even seems fun and exciting.

Most of the time, to me, it doesn't, and obviously it doesn't to you either, but I would venture to say that is likely to be a healthier choice for most people to have casual sex sometimes, or at least vaguely try sometimes, ie, put yourself in a situation where casual sex might be the outcome, even if it isn't the primary objective - rather than just telling yourself everyone could be a serial killer and it's easier to stay home and watch porn.

Honestly, I think almost everyone who claims to be just not interested in casual sex can imagine a scenario in which they would be very interested in having sex with someone they barely know, even if that scenario is extremely unlikely to actually happen in reality. More likely they're just not interested in putting in the effort to seek it out because of a perception that the risk/reward ratio is not favourable (whether that risk is the risk of getting murdered, or just made to feel emotionally uncomfortable in some way).
 
I am going away soon to go see my ex, we have been split up for years but I still speak to her & she is one of a very small few people I actually like as a human.
We were talking on the phone 2 days ago & she made a comment that was clear she is expecting us to have sex when I get out there, I tried to tell her in the best way that I wasn't going out for that & she got all weird about it & went mad.

I'm 50/50 if I should sleep with her, what would you lot do?
 
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