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Sex + Drugs Meth & Sex Megathread

MoonPaws

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My bf and I sometimes party together for a couple days. It use to be fun but now all he wants to do is masturbate to porn for hours even days edging. He'll lay next to me and have zero interest in sex or playing with me. He actually prefers to watch me mess around with other dudes than actually playing with me. If and when he finally decides to have sex with me, he either struggles to get it up because his dick is beat up from 48 hours of edging or is so wound up from edging - he immediately cums when inserted.

Now he doesn't have interest in sex off drugs and the above is what the drug is doing to him.

What's going on with him and how can I gain his interest? I'm down with the partying on ocassion and we use to have amazing sex on drugs and off drugs. But it's over taken actual sex now to only me watching him frantically stroke himself for hours and hours and hours. He tells me we can call another dude over for me and I'm okay with MMF stuff sometimes but I love/want my bf.

I don't know what to do. Other than this, the relationship and he are amazing but the lack of sex and intimacy is getting to me.
 
Sounds like he needs to slow down on the meth or you need to both need to find something new that turns you both on when he's in these states. I'm gonna move this to a better forum for this subject.
 
Are you a woman or man? Have you talked to him and told him how you want to have sex when you use drugs instead of having him watch porn? I have never used meth but my friends who were addicted to it said how they would masturbate for hours or days, or go out and find someone or a small group of people to have sex with. Have safer sex both with other women and men and your man.
 
I suspect Bob's [hereafter he's Bob] emotional disequilibrium looks something like:

Bob feels insecure -> copes by masturbating -> feels more insecure -> more masturbating -> etc.

You can attempt to stop this by doing more affectionate/cuddly stuff. He can contribute to this process by taking a break from all forms of sexual stimulation for a little while. If Bob is anything like 99.999% of guys, you sleeping with someone else is going to make him feel a lot worse about himself, so it's probably best avoided.

However, the fact is that this is not actually that likely to work. A lot of times, meth addiction doesn't go away until the user quits. As a baseline, you need to get him to admit he has a problem.
 
he has a drug problem,

thats what the issue is

he needs to cut them out for a good while

this kind of thing isn't good to do regularly and ultimately its bad for you to have to put up with this
 
He's a drug addict. Sorry hun but he is going down the rabbit hole.........

You act like everything is fine and dandy...

but someone masturbating for 3 days straight.....

Is not all fine and dandy.....

That is a severe drug addiction.

Wake up.
 
He's got to stop using meth. I'm not a fan of issuing ultimatums but I would (&have) in this type of scenario. While sex might be the only issue now, most likely further problems will develop given his degree of abuse.
 
masturbate to porn for hours even days

This guy should be given some kinda award for that.
I've never smoked meth myself but used a lot of clean MDPV & I know how it must feel but my dick would begin to bleed after a few hours & it becomes way too painful to carry on.

I'm not quite sure how you could do it for several days myself but if he can pull it off I say more power to him.
 
Moonpaws,

First off I'd like to say I know exactly what you and your boyfriend are going through. I'm sorry y'all are at this point, it is however common and beatable, there is hope!

Short answer followed by long story here. Meth desensitizes you after you build up a tolerance from going too hard too long. At this point you become so detached that real sex is less pleasurable then just stroking yourself. What's going through his mind right now is that it is easier for him to go solo in order to get more out of it- the high, the pleasure, the meth is trying to squeeze as much recycled dopamine from the brain as it can and it becomes a calculation borne of desperation. Maximizing the crumbs of pleasure with the inevitability of reaching the end of the body's limits to gain from the drug. It also alienates you from others and your partner and these thoughts whisper to you from your subconscious and conscious sides, they are easy to confuse for the voice from your own head. I digress lest I start talking about the meth-self.

As the posters before me stated so eloquently, he is addicted. There is no easy fix and it takes communication, love, and support. However the above gives you an insight as to what he is going through. It took me a few months to taper off with many hiccups of relapse in between. I am over a year sober but mainly because I'm also deployed and when I go on leave you can guess what I'll be doing. Anywho let me continue.

I learned to enjoy actual sex again with my wife again after those said few months of sobriety so it is possible. Having her as a support system helped me tremendously with seeing the value in the love and hope I possessed, and it was a factor in why I wanted to get sober again. Your boyfriend will be lucky to have you in that regard.

The big thing is he must have a conversation with himself and be ready to take a break for himself! Even if the only reason is selfish like sobering up just to get that good first hit again! It must not because of obligations or reasons of practicality and logic, otherwise this will push the need to use deeper into the psyche and it becomes his only refuge. Whatever it takes to get out of the woods and lift the fog, bribe and trick yourself if you have to, trust me it gets easier as you let in life's pleasures again. But have a goal that awaits you while you're in the slump and you can see yourself through to the light again.

I got that way several times, behaving in much the same way you boyfriend is now. The hardest part is admitting to yourself you have a problem, the next is resisting the withdrawal temptations to use while your body, mind, and soul recover- for however long you want to. Luckily my goal I knew I wanted was to do the drug and not let it do me. To return to the sensation of that first great rush. It is a fine line and too often you don't realize how tight she has her claws around you.

I'm sorry for the long post, I wanted to be thorough and let you know you're not alone. It can and will get better if you and him let it.
 
^Very helpful and informative post, mate :)
 
Swillow,

Thank you! :) As y'all can see that was my first post. For years I've utilized blue light and sites like errowid for my own endeavors. I saw this thread and the situation was similar to what me and my now wife we're going through, so I thought I'd reply. It feels good to contribute by sharing my experiences and the knowledge I've gained from them. I hope they help not only Moonpaws but other readers as well. I look forward to more posts in the future!
 
Swillow,

Thank you! :) As y'all can see that was my first post. For years I've utilized blue light and sites like errowid for my own endeavors. I saw this thread and the situation was similar to what me and my now wife we're going through, so I thought I'd reply. It feels good to contribute by sharing my experiences and the knowledge I've gained from them. I hope they help not only Moonpaws but other readers as well. I look forward to more posts in the future!

I look forward to these too :)
 
Ok all those answers are 100% spot on about this issue. It's not gonna get better and he needs to take a break.

Now on thr other side of the coin, it also is that no matter his much you love a person, you want variety and porn delivers it. You want that next "OMG ! Your toes dug into the floor as your standing teetering back in forth with you cock in your hand half convinced your gonna just rip it right off but that your gonna have that mother of all orgasams!!

And that's ok.... those are great unless it's for days and days and days...
 
You want that next "OMG ! Your toes dug into the floor as your standing teetering back in forth with you cock in your hand half convinced your gonna just rip it right off but that your gonna have that mother of all orgasams!!

And that's ok.... those are great unless it's for days and days and days...

here's the thing about that, and why it happens so easily - the perceived strength of the orgasm just keeps increasing overtime. when you finally pop 12345346 hours later, it is SO epic that you literally move on to something else. normal orgasm results in an almost immediate disinterest in sexual activity for the refractory period - but on speed? i'm already planning out my next session, strategizing to not waste the remaining few hours of my high and pop out one more mind-bending orgasm.

@Mr.Wonderful11 put it quite eloquently:

Maximizing the crumbs of pleasure with the inevitability of reaching the end of the body's limits to gain from the drug.
 
Spending several hours masturbating to porn is pretty common (especially men) while on meth. I've also noticed A LOT of usually straight men get really into sex with other men while on meth and tend to prefer it quite a bit over women. I have no idea why this happens.

I've been in homeless hostels several times and they always have a pretty much 100% amount of drug-addicted residents. I can't even count how many completely straight guys who've begged me to either fuck them or give them oral while high on meth (or, less commonly, coke).
 
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Edging for as long as he is is VERY dangerous. An erection that lasts for more than 4 hours is classed as a medical emergency because there is an extremely high risk of blood clotting in the penis. This alone can cause permanent erectile dysfunction, but the real risk is of the clot moving elsewhere in the body causing cardiac arrest, pulmonary embolism, or stoke.
 
Meth exacerbates sexual desire and tolerance to normal sex. People need freakier and freakier porn to get off after awhile. Plus masturbating for days desensitizes the penis and makes it hard to enjoy less friction offered by orifices. He would have to stop doing meth and recover. Stop watching porn and get used to intimacy again. It can certainly be troubling for you and I can see why. What I said above is one solution but it takes time to get adjusted and he has to want it or he won't be successful.
 
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