People get addicted to all sorts of things. Why quibble about physical dependence vs psychological? The addiction which is killing the world and damaging the most people is addiction to stuff,or consumerism. Gambling, eating, sugar, self-harm... there are a lot of addictions out there. To me, it is only important to ask one question: is this behavior truly your own or are you owned by it? I know for myself its an uncomfortable question sometimes.
I hear you about the minimizing though. I love weed and I have always loved weed culture (not so sure about it anymore but that was inevitable). But I stopped for years (most of my adult life ) because it made me more anxious than I naturally was, and I thought, who needs that? Many of my friends found that they had to give it up for what it did to motivation 9most of them, artists). I'm back in love with it these days, having conquered anxiety by other means, but I try not to over-glorify it. It's not that I won't talk about it favorably but I want to stay sensitive to the fact that it truly is not for everyone and particularly around young people this can become a message of "there is something wrong with you if you don't like pot". I never liked alcohol and hate the high from it and that made me overly sensitive to all the hype and advertising that goes into it and ends up in the national vernacular as humor on everything from greeting cards to T-shirts. I don't want to see that happen with weed but it will.