Yup, run like hell. That is the norm with treatment in America, so it doesn't really surprise me though. Generally when I find that there are a significant client population (like 10-20% or more) who are being forced into treatment either by their families or the courts, the quality of treatment (generally not to high to begin with) suffers tremendously.
Finding a program where clients are their through their own volition and not primarily their to appease powers that be is generally going to lead to a much richer recovery oriented culture. Even when it comes to hardcore bible thumping abstinence only programs, those that are at least made up of people genuine about moving forward in their lives for themselves are going to be infinitely better than those filled with coerced placements.
Have you thought about finding an mindfulness based stress reduction course in your area? It won't be covered by insurance (at least this would be unlikely; good ones should run between $500-1000 for everything) and they only last for like six weeks, but they can provide some really life changing resources. As well as the folks you meet there, particularly the people organizing it, can help provide good referals to quality treatment.
I found in my own case that the only positive experience I had inpatient or outpatient was when I got a worthwhile referral. From the outside it is really hard to judge the quality of care provided at a program. Then again, if you don't have a doctor you've been working with for a while and trust, this isn't exactly a sure fire solution either.
When looking for treatment, and it breaks my heart how rare this actually happens, the patient/client should be taking an approach of like how someone would hire a contractor or business underling. The client really needs to interview, in some cases interrogate, program staff (clinical direct, doctor, psychologist(s), counselors, etc) and current patients in order to get any sense of what the thing will be like or if it is right for them.
This in itself is a skill. It is good to remember to not take the word of the folks who works there at face value simply because they are authority/work there, because they have a vested interested in getting more clients in treatment for, if no other reason, maintaining financial solvency (clients=money for employees). And to take things said by former clients with a grain of salt as the current model of treatment is all about behavioral conditioning and many patients who successful complete a program will be biased toward that program.
I find that looking at the current client population and seeing if one identifies with them and also checking out the style of the counselors (are they professional? do they use therapeutic tools that frighten you or interest you? etc) is the most practical way of judging whether a program is a good fit for someone.