lola said:
xtcgrlatl, I'm curious about condoms breaking - I've had that problem before with the Durex thin condoms and with the Durex avanti, which sounds a bit like lifestyle ultrathins. Since you obviously have a lot of experience using condoms, how often do you find this happens? And do ultrathins preform as well as thicker ones on that front? You also mentioned putting lube inside the condom as another way of making it less likely to break, so let us know if you have more tricks up your sleeve... Nx
I think I've had a total of maybe 2 condom breaks in my career in escorting. In so far as I recall neither of them were lifestyles ultrathin. I honestly cant remember the brand. Probably the big red durex bulk pack of unlubricated ones cause they were the cheapest so I used those for the longest time but found out that even if you add your own lube that they kind of hurt me to use. Then when I got an STD test they gave me like two big strip of condoms that turned out to be lifestyles ultra thin, I noticed a big difference in the way they felt on my end (a lot less painful after seeing multiple guys in a day) so I've stuck with those so far.
Anyhoo, One of the breaks was because the guy just wanted to do me anally for like over half an hour and the longer you go with any given condom the more likely they are to break. Doesnt help matters that the guy wanted to do long deep almost totally in and out strokes.
Can't remember the other break that well except for it happened. Probably due to similar circumstance. Guy just wanting to straight up fuck for the whole time he was with me, deep strokes, and taking forever to get off.
Now if I am going more then 10-20 minutes of actual fucking, I suggest a change in position and while changing position also change the condom.
I've also had a guy doing me a little extra ecstatically in some position I cant really remember that forced the condom inside me all the way and it just kind of slid off inside me and i had to fish it out. Not fun.
Thus far my track record is pretty good. I think if you keep your condom useage time controlled to 30 minutes or less, and use plenty of lube on the inside and outside of the condom, MAKE SURE IT STAYS IN PLACE, then you're gonna be relatively safe. It also probably helps if the guy controls his strokes and doesn't do deep in and out motions and uses shorter strokes.
Relatively recently on a providers board someone posted about how they found lifestyles brand to be prone to breakage but that doesnt match my experience at all. I suspect that she doesnt do the lube on the inside of the condom trick. I think that must help a lot with breakage.
I don't know for sure if it makes things feel any better for the guy then fucking with just a condom on so honestly I would actually appreciate it if a guy would try the two ways and let me know if it makes a difference in sensation.
Also keep in mind that on the girls end that natural lubrication is going to come and go as sex continues so it probably wouldnt hurt to have a bottle or tube of lube handy and not be afraid to add extra to what she's already making.
Since my sex life is...lets call it...overbooked. I almost never make much in the way of natural lubrication because I'm damn near impossible to physically "turn on" through conventional means.
Soooo.... I always use some lubricant. I tried the super ritzy silicone based stuff that was like 20 dollars for a tiny little bottle and didnt care much for it, the advertising said just a drop or two was enough but I found that I really needed much more then that, maybe it works better if the girl is wetter, but my experience was that I went through that 20 dollar bottle in like 2 days. Now I just stick to astro-glide and it works out ok for me.