muzby
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which would you choose???
would you give up a loved one to travel to another city for a job? if your career was becoming more demanding on you, would you sacrifice your love life? or would that time come from your friends?
i know love is quite important, but on the other hand, it is crucial to set yourself up for later in life by getting as far as you can as quick as you can, so you can ensure a secure future for you and your family...
i chat to a lot of people in my industry who are single, and who are only so because of their careers. they want to further their careers, their income etc, but at the expense of happiness with a partner.
i'm kind of the same... i've always been someone who has needed a significant other in my life, i've chosen not to pursue my career straight outta uni cause i was engaged to a girl (note to self, don't get engaged at 21. too young!), i basically worked retail plus night jobs to save money so we could travel.
anyway, a couple of years down the track, and i'm finding myself in a wierd situation. i've worked pretty hard to get myself into a great job, but the only problem is, it takes up so much of my time that i find it hard to secure a relationship outside of work. i'm constantly travelling around the country, working long hours, throwing a lot of my passion into my work.. but at the same time i'm hella lonely for a that feeling of love i havent felt in about 3 years.
its a little difficult for me as i've only just recently moved to melbourne, so i want to make my own friends, rather than just mutual friends of a partner, if you know wot i mean. yet, i work so much better, am more committed to my job and will absolutely blitz my work if i have a partner..
but then, at the end of the day, i don't want to be giving up my career (like finding a job that takes less of my time) as my partner is not going to further my career for me... and if we end up breaking up, i have lost everything...
damn decisions...
would you give up a loved one to travel to another city for a job? if your career was becoming more demanding on you, would you sacrifice your love life? or would that time come from your friends?
i know love is quite important, but on the other hand, it is crucial to set yourself up for later in life by getting as far as you can as quick as you can, so you can ensure a secure future for you and your family...
i chat to a lot of people in my industry who are single, and who are only so because of their careers. they want to further their careers, their income etc, but at the expense of happiness with a partner.
i'm kind of the same... i've always been someone who has needed a significant other in my life, i've chosen not to pursue my career straight outta uni cause i was engaged to a girl (note to self, don't get engaged at 21. too young!), i basically worked retail plus night jobs to save money so we could travel.
anyway, a couple of years down the track, and i'm finding myself in a wierd situation. i've worked pretty hard to get myself into a great job, but the only problem is, it takes up so much of my time that i find it hard to secure a relationship outside of work. i'm constantly travelling around the country, working long hours, throwing a lot of my passion into my work.. but at the same time i'm hella lonely for a that feeling of love i havent felt in about 3 years.
its a little difficult for me as i've only just recently moved to melbourne, so i want to make my own friends, rather than just mutual friends of a partner, if you know wot i mean. yet, i work so much better, am more committed to my job and will absolutely blitz my work if i have a partner..
but then, at the end of the day, i don't want to be giving up my career (like finding a job that takes less of my time) as my partner is not going to further my career for me... and if we end up breaking up, i have lost everything...
damn decisions...