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Would You Date Someone in the Sex Industry?

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If you met someone who was captivating, attractive and totally into you, would it matter if they worked in the Sex Industry? I'm referring to any number of jobs including:

-Stripper
-Prostitute
-Porn Star
-Pimp
-Brothel Owner
-Web Cam entertainer
-etc,...

If not, why so? If yes, are there any stipulations? Like, he/she should be trying to get out, etc

If you happen to be in any part of the industry, do you date? And do you tell?
 
I would date a prostitute, a cammer, or a porn star...would date a mistress or a madame too.

If I were to get seriously involved wit them, they would have to stop doing it though (only if they were hooking or being a porn star mind - the others are OK for whenever in my book) - I definitely wouldn't want the mother of my children to be fucking for money...

...but I would be OK with it if we had just started seeing each other, and she was enjoying her work, and getting paid good money.
 
Yep. Porn stars, strippers, etc. are people too. And some do it because they enjoy it.
I probably wouldn't date a prostitute though.
 
No.

My personal experiences have soured me in some respects.

I feel that someone who can and has made a career out of a physical barter has only that dimension to offer me at the get go.

If a truly strong emotional and/or intellectual connection can be forged, I have yet to know a serial sex-capader that knows how to/or is willing to maintain such a fragile and multifaceted enmeshment.
 
I know one in real life. From what they alone have told me, many are severely unfaithful and might be seen as too "emotionally/mentally damaged" to want to be taken on in a relationship. An all too common stereotype now adays but... to say the least, don't judge someone just because they work in the sex industry. There's a big difference between an actual prostitute exposing themselves potentially to HIV, and an internet webcam model. ;) I think a lot of us would be more comfortable having a partner who would possibly include us in such a thing in the last thing, than to have a straight up prostitute as a significant other. But, hell, drugs make people do things that other's wouldn't I'll say that much ;) I would never be in a relationship with a prostitute though. 8(

Noodle said:
No.

My personal experiences have soured me in some respects.

I feel that someone who can and has made a career out of a physical barter has only that dimension to offer me at the get go.

If a truly strong emotional and/or intellectual connection can be forged, I have yet to know a serial sex-capader that knows how to/or is willing to maintain such a fragile and multifaceted enmeshment.
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I'mma take a different spin on this for SLR's sake.

Some people who are "employed as prostitutes" in massage parlors are actually sex slaves being held against their will, and some of these people just want to be free in the USA just like you and me, and they are more than likely praying to god for that day to come where they do their last trick and then finally get to stop doing it for the rest of their life.

Many men who frequent such places have no idea as the women aren't going to casually chat with them... especially as they fear cops busting them, they don't want a cop knowing what's actually going on because it may threaten their well being if their "employers" are physically/psychologically abusive.

So, if you met a girl who was basically working as a prostitute but they were tricked into it, as many modern day sex slaves are unfortunately - could you love them knowing they'd never want to return to such a lifestyle once they got out of it? This is different from a hardened hooker who just sees you as a penis with an even bigger wallet they want to get their fingers into ;)

IMO try to keep in mind some people, if they don't "earn their way into the US", the places they came from, typically equate to a lifetime of impoverishment compared to what I have just living in Los Angeles as a US citizen, despite how poorly the United States takes care of the poorest citizens among us. That's a whole separate side-rant though.

I could see myself doing it but like Noodle I feel certain personal experiences have also soured me too so I'm less likely to actually be able to fall in love with someone like that.

llama112 said:
Yep. Porn stars, strippers, etc. are people too. And some do it because they enjoy it.
I probably wouldn't date a prostitute though.
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I also wanted to reinforce llama's point that some porn stars aren't sex fiends, still have regular partners off set, and only do it for the money/because it just seems to easy compared to getting a real job/because you get to use drugs at work too :p =D

B1tO'RoughJack said:
I definitely wouldn't want the mother of my children to be fucking for money...

...but I would be OK with it if we had just started seeing each other, and she was enjoying her work, and getting paid good money.
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So you'd never be with a prostitute who only charges enough to get high on heroin, but a prostitute who charges $10,000+ per hour, then you'd consider it? I'm just trying to crystallize what your'e saying here. :)

It kind of correlates to you want to date the person who brings in more money than you do, not less =D
 
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I was thinking more of and talking most specifically about those who chose to barter their physical person of their own volition.

:)
 
Noodle said:
I was thinking more of and talking most specifically those who chose to barter their physical person of their own volition.

:)
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Yeah but considering sometimes people assume some sex workers are doing just that when they're actually not, my question is, what if your favorite "prostitute" came out to you and that they weren't actually hooking but for real a sex slave, had maybe 12 days left to the job, was using protection with every client, had a 3rd party to protect them in case of a violent john, etc... - could you fall in love with them? - That was my inquiry.

I don't know if I could, I don't see so many vulnerabilities in a single person as a turn on but I could see someone willing themselves to do it just for the better life and sometimes finding someone with such a strong will power to force themselves through something like that, might actually be a person worth knowing.

Just my 2 cents. I'm not sure how I'd fare with such a person IRL!!! Just asking what you all think.
 
Captain.Heroin said:

I also wanted to reinforce llama's point that some porn stars aren't sex fiends, still have regular partners off set, and only do it for the money/because it just seems to easy compared to getting a real job/because you get to use drugs at work too :p =D
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I hate that stereotype, that everyone in the sex industry uses drugs. Very false!! Legitimate porn companies will NOT allow them to use drugs or alcohol while at work. Some higher up ones actually do drug checks.

I'm mostly talking for the people who are in this because they enjoy it. I'm not talking about forced prostitution. I'm talking about the people who just do porn, webcam work, etc. and actually enjoy it.
 
I would date any of them but my only rule would be that they have to be using protection (which is industry standards anyway) and be willing to not have sex with me after a customer (so not see a customer at 8 and then do me like 2hrs later without showering and such) without cleaning properly.
 
No, I wouldn't. It's their job... It's not only about them loving sex, but earning money at it. What are they going to do by dating you - go flip burgers? I'd have a big problem with that because the chances of them stopping their job fully and completely are nil. They also joined into the sex industry because of their love for it. Unless you can keep them obviously satisfied, their perception of sex is already skewed.
 
Was a stripper for 14 years. Had several long term relationships while stripping. Always was very open with what I was doing as a job, even told my son's father on our first date. However, the job was a big factor in the demise of our relationship as he became insanely jealous about it.

Wasn't sexually abused as a child, nor am I drug addict. One strip club I worked at briefly, the management would provide the girls with lines of really pure cocaine (I think just a ploy to get them hooked on it) and for some reason I always made more money while high on coke, though I never bought it, nor became addicted to it.
 
I wouldn't date somebody 'because' they were in the sex industry but I don't think I would have a problem dating somebody that I found funny/attractive/etc that worked in the sex industry.
 
no it wouldn't matter at all to me, there all sexy women who work in that type of industry. plus they usually have less clothes to take off than anybody else.
 
I might date a male stripper, a pimp, brothel owner or web cam entertainer provided they were not engaging in actual sexual activities with their clients. I wouldn't date a prostitute or porn star because I'd be too scared of STD's. I take that back, partially; I would date Mr. Marcus cause I love the hat and socks, so sexy!
 
If you can handle the heat by all means if you can deal with the whole ordeal then why not, some people can't deal with their SO being in the sex industry. Its all up to the person
But IMO if you are going to get with someone in the sex biz and try to change the person your just wasting your time . If you are gonna be with them just accecpt them as they are and layout the rule, go with it . Expecting someone to change for you is the first step to faliure
 
I've dated strippers, escorts and a porn/cam girl. Each one of them was fucking insane and not always in a good way...
 
When I was younger I though I would love to date a stripper or porn star. What bloke wouldn't want a woman who knows how to be sexy and up for anything sexual.
Now I know I wouldn't be able to handle them doing their job if I truly loved them.
Then again if she had massive tits,I may just have to reconsider the situation. ;-)
 
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