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would/did you keep you married name after divorce?

i never changed my name, and i don't think i will down the road. but if i took my husband's name, i would change back to my own if we divorced.
 
I kept my married name for several years after I divorced because it is a pain to change it. But when I bought some real estate, I changed it back to my maiden name. I didn't want my new home connected with the past.
 
If a woman, I wouldn't take my husband's surname (or we could both hyphenate/make a new name up/trade names/etc. :P).

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the only situation i would think would really be acceptable to keep a last name after a divorce is if the woman has children with her ex-husband, otherwise i see no point.
 
It depends if I had kids. If so, I'd think about it. If not, I'd change my name back :p
 
I never changed my name when I was married. I doubt I will ever changed it, because it's just too much hassle only to change it back if something happens. I would definitely change it back if I got divorced, but I doubt I'll ever change my last name anyway.
 
The most recently divorced person I know hyphenated her name with her partner's. She has a graduate degree and is a practicing psychologist. I'll ask her whether she's un-hyphenating! Both have surnames in the top 25 in the USA.

I have never been married and I have no children, so it's still [Mariposa] [surname]. My future husband's surname will have to sound great with all of my given names. Oddly, one would give me the same name as a former Bachelorette!

I think I'll keep my own. :)
 
I won't change my name when I marry, so it's a moot point. The women in my family never gave up their name, married or not, so all of my cousins/relatives/whatever all have the same name. I think it's important to remain a part of my clan like that. It's such a rare name that I would feel terrible for not using it anymore. Especially since I'm related to every single person in America with the name. If I had children, I'd hyphenate their last name with [Dad's] and let them choose which one to go by when they became old enough.

eta: actually, no, i'd want my children to have my last name. so dad would have to be okay with giving them a family middle name, because the last name is mine.
 
I never changed my name. Too much trouble, and it's not worth it to me. Got divorced, and it was so much easier that way. lol

I'm not a fan of the hyphen names. Either you give up your name or you don't. Don't half-ass it.

I did come across problems, though. For instance, people called him by my last name when I would book things, and I used to go through more questions and security crap to get info about a credit card or something. When I went on his insurance, they wanted proof that we were married. We had to come up with proof on a few legal things, but it was better than getting a new social and going through the BS to change the name that is not important to me. To me, it's a form of "ownership," so I will never do it. I dont' really have any issue or see a big deal if others do it. That's cool. But, for me, I have too much of a history with men who wind up milking off of me than the other way around, so I haven't respected many men I've been with to go out and change my name for them.
 
^as i said above, my husband and i have different last names. i've never run into an issue, other than curious people asking why i kept my last name. i am on his insurance policies and such too.
 
My wife wants a divorce and I do not want one I beg for a 4 chance and she rip my heart out last night she sign the papers in front of me and I yell no and cried and fell to my knees
 
Pretty_Diamonds said:
Yes if I had kids.
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I'm pretty sure that's what my ex did. She said she wasn't gunna in the before divroce times. But her fam is weird. Her sister made her bf marry her after their kid asked why they all didn't have the same last name.

Side note. My mom kept hers because it was like 30 years on and it was just easier
 
animal_cookie said:
^as i said above, my husband and i have different last names. i've never run into an issue, other than curious people asking why i kept my last name. i am on his insurance policies and such too.
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and looking back, keeping my last name made it a hell of a lot easier when we split up :)
 
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