Women are....DAHHH!

[Frankthetank41]

Posted a while ago on this thread and got some great advice. Up for round 2 this time and will try to cut the story short.

Im madly in love with this girl. Have been for the last 4 years. That "love at first sight" thing is the real deal from which I noticed first handedly. The second I saw her, i knew she was the one. It was crazy, it still is, but I love it. Shes perfect for me and I want her forever. But damnit, it seems like the timing is never right. We go back and forth with liking each other, both in and out of other relationships. But at the same time, I feel like I put much more effort into this "thing" (if you want to call it that) than she does. Anyways, she is currently in a long distance relationship with a boyfriend in Texas who is training to be in the marines. Long story short, its obvious she has feelings for me as she said so herself as did her friends. To an extent it is very difficult to hangout with her while she has this boyfriend. Its honestly a royal pain in the ass having so much fun with her and knowing that we 100% have something on a romantic level, but cant do anything about it. I want to tell her but I dont want to get in the way of them, and potentially ruin two relationships in the process. I dont want to be "that guy" so I am keeping lips sealed. Its a very agitating itch that I cannot scratch. One of the biggest problems I have with her is that if we dont talk for a while, i slowly lose feelings but then the second we talk its like OH HEY YOU I FORGOT I LOVE YOU!8(

Do i just continue what Im doing and act like nothing is going on?
Should I continue to wait?
Should I drop it and just try to move away this girl?

What would you do in this position? Thank you my friends!
- alex

 

[Gamal]

Shes perfect for me and I want her forever.

Don't try to own her.

What would you do in this position? Thank you my friends!

Go get that girl or you'll go insane at some point.. If it works out: Great. If not, then you know what's up and can go your way.

Take risks whenever possible, or you'll maybe ask yourself in 50 years "What would have happened if...?"


Good Luck!

And if it works out, you both, just tell the other guy the truth - don't offend him.

 

[Tude]

Holy infatuation, Batman!

There's no love at first sight, only lust. You say you knew she was the one. Yeah, the one you wanna stick it in. You have to actually know someone inside-out to love them.

 

[303milehigh5280]

Its a situation your going to have to deal with for sure if you really love her u got to tell her and be about something like have a crib a car a job show her your the shit that other foo in the army is gone its your chance take it or leave it you might not get another chanc ive been in similar situations if she says no than fuck it she aint worth it anyways than show her how a playa can do it do your thig have fun theres always other girls out there that are great just don't get down on yourself bro

 

[Dunno]

I say fugggedddaboutit!

There's more important things in life, and when you get to those important things in life you'll realize how stupid this is (not dissin you G)

 

[llama112]

Holy infatuation, Batman!

There's no love at first sight, only lust. You say you knew she was the one. Yeah, the one you wanna stick it in. You have to actually know someone inside-out to love them.

^^^ Truth.

OP, if she was actually into you, she'd break up with her boyfriend and start dating you. Unless she's in a poly relationship with her boyfriend, don't be the jerk who helps her cheat on her boyfriend. She has to figure that out first, by herself.

 

[purplefirefly]

If she truly felt the same way that you do then there would be no issue because she would just be with you. There wouldn't be a dance around one another. Have you ever communicated your feelings to her before? Maybe she doesn't know how you feel. Also, have you asked what she is getting out of her relationship with her boyfriend?

You don't want to be "that guy" but it won't hurt to ask her some questions.