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Will i ever give my girl an orgasm?

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ovenbakedskittles

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im not asking for advice on easier or faster ways to get her to orgasm because i look it up all day everyday but when the moment comes i always end up forgetting what i read and going with the flow... but feel free to gimme some advice on how to do that anyways...

me and my girlfriend have been having sex every other few days or so for the past four months (except for the past couple weeks cuz she had to go somewhere)

i have still not been able to give her an orgasm... its frustrating sometimes... thers times when she has said that she was close to having one but we have never reached that point... i wanna give her one so bad!

what is it? do i just need more time? more practice? is it because we dont do it frequently enough? what do you guys think? is four months too long? should i have given her one by now? am i just not putting enough effort?

idk

please tell me you guys thoughts
 
Are you just fucking or is there a strong emphasis on foreplay? A lot of girls won't orgasm vaginally, it takes clitoral stimulation or a combination of both. My girlfriend has a very high sex drive and we have sex an average of twice per day, but a large percentage of the time she doesn't cum. Some girls are easier to get off than others. For her, it takes a lot of foreplay, oral sex, and fast hard penetration for a long period of time combined with clitoral stimulation. It's quite a task, but the more time you spend intimately with your partner, the easier it will be.

One thing that helps is watching your partner masturbate. You'll get a good idea of how she likes to be touched and what kind of stimulation works for her. Making my current girlfriend orgasm requires a totally different technique than with my ex girlfriend, I've had to figure that out through trial and error and watching her touch herself.

As I said, it's not always easy, even if you have a lot of experience. It seems that for women the emotional element is almost as important as the physical element. Having a deep and loving connection while also paying attention to every physical and verbal clue she gives you will definitely put you on the right track.
 
You could always try going down on her too if youre both comfortable with that.
Even if you have never done it before, experiment. Find out what she likes.
Honestly, my girl doesn't get off very easily either. But we make it happen. Its trial and error man.
Each girl is different.
 
Try g-spot simulation, clitoral stimulation and oral sex - most women won't get off from only penetration. I agree re watching her masturbate - she will know her body better than anyone else, just ask her how she makes herself cum :)
 
I think if you stress about it too much or stress her with asking her if she orgasmed after each time, it will make it harder to reach because you're not focused on enjoying it and itll put lots of pressure on her. I think that men seem more worried about making a girl cum and judge their abilitjea based on it, while women aren't as concerned and aren't judging you if you can't. This is just what I've experienced with men in the past, so it may not be what you're going through emotionally.

Ask her what has worked for her in the past. Some of us have trouble cumming just from sex as others have said. Foreplay is a must, and if you make her cum that way, it'll help you figure out how to stimulate her durimg sex, and youll reach your goal. Don't over think it, enjoy each other and have fun getting her there. :)
 
Some females can't orgasm from just sex. Some need clit stimulation. Some are good with g-spot simulation. I can only finish from oral. I have NEVER had an orgasm during actual intercourse. My partner is amazing, very attentive to me, but intercourse.... no. It took him a good few months after we started dating before he figured out how to get me to orgasm too (and he had plenty of prior experience).
Females are complicated in that way. Some are easy to please but some of us take quite a bit of work to have an orgasm.
Definitely ask her, see what she likes. Have a night dedicated only to her where you aren't even trying to get off yourself, you are just trying to please her. Hopefully then you can really understand it and then, the next time, you can both finish :)
Also, keep in mind that people don't finish every time. Even when she starts to, she's not going to every single time (I mean you might be lucky and she does.... but likely won't haha). :)
 
My girl never got orgasm from penetration sex, however sometimes id go down on her an lick like a hero and she would come.
However, we decided to spice up our sexlife and bought some sextoys. These toys kinda worked for her and gave her more pleasure, but what REALLY spiced it up was a toy I bought her after trying to understand what makes her tick.....

I bought her a JimmyJane 2. Its a vibrating clitstimulator were theres two arms that the clit lies between, she loves it and uses it on herself while I penetrate her. Now usually she gets off first, while I penetrate she uses it on her clit, than after she comes she demands me doing her doggystyle and I come from this, sometimes she comes a second time while doggy. Its THE ultimate toy for her and I recommend it.

clitstimulation ftw..
 
cool... ill try to remember all of this haha... i honestly think that i can give her one by just penetration... but wouldnt hurt to take your guyss advice and speed up the process a lil bit ;) thanks!
 
ovenbakedskittles said:
cool... ill try to remember all of this haha... i honestly think that i can give her one by just penetration... but wouldnt hurt to take your guyss advice and speed up the process a lil bit ;) thanks!
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Haha good luck with that. If you really cared about your ability to give a woman an orgasm you would be taking the advice that has been given to you and not be so sure of an orgasm from penetration only, especially when every poster has told you that oral, g-spot stimulation and clitoral stimulation are the way to go.

Out of curiosity how old are you?
 
Actually don't bother replying to that, I've just seen in another thread you lost your virginity four months ago.

Do me a favour and listen to the people in this thread, ALL of us have a lot more experience than you do. Good sex is a skill that is developed and frankly your cockiness of 'I can give her an orgasm from penetration' is ridiculous!

Stop with the bullshit and just listen. Start practising oral, g-spot and clitoral stimulation - you won't be amazing straight away but no one is so get to it!

Also feel free to completely ignore me and continue on your quest for penetrative orgasms only. I'm sure you'll leave a large group of satisfied women behind you. Or not.
 
I guess you have to really want to make a very pleasurable effort to have your woman get an Orgasm every time just like we do. Preliminary sensual, sexy dating, taking a longer time to get there, try to reach it together, etc..
In my opinion it's quite worthy and fair, but it does require additional care obviously. This is the idea, right?
 
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