Babygirl25
Bluelighter
Ok I'm going to clarify just what I mean. In this day and age of sexual equality why is a younger man with an older woman treated like the young man is "a lucky little bastard." Yet a younger woman with an older man is seen as quite negative as far as the older man is concerned. Not as prevalent as it was. But still an older man will be perceived quite often as a "dirty old man."
It's not the same for an older woman who most times will be seen as a sexual educator, like in the "Graduate." A Mrs Robinson. Even the term MILF isn't exactly detrimental and something I've taken as a compliment in the distant past. Men don't seem to be perceived in the same light when they date a younger woman. I just wonder why the sexes are still not as equal as they should be. Personally I believe the pendulum has swung too far towards female causes and men don't seem to get a fair shake.
Just one more example. I have a friend who recently retired from an intensive care psychiatric unit because 3 times when coming back to work after leave he found a suicide. He couldn't do it any more.
When he and his girlfriend split I was quite shocked as they seemed to get on really well and they had just had a child together. Then he told me. She was physically abusing him and he just couldn't handle it. I asked why he didn't get help. He asked me who he could talk to.
I didn't know what to say to him. When he disclosed the injuries he'd received I was shocked and asked why he hadn't gone to the police. Then he was shocked. He wanted to know how a man can go to the police about domestic abuse. Yes, the law has changed, unfortunately society and it's views of these things have not.
He was scared of the derision he felt he'd receive for admitting to being beaten up severely by a woman. He couldn't face it. I'm aware that there are places that men can get support from but does it seem a little one sided to anyone else? Ok I'm just asking a question, not trying to look for a fight about the equality of the sexes. So pleased keep that in mind.
Ps. Just want to say that their child's care is shared and she's a good mum, just not a good partner. And yes she needs to address her issues and deal with them. That's not the point I'm making. Although if the child has witnessed these incidents that's where kids get screwed up isn't it. That's where learned behaviour comes in isn't it?
Babygirl. X
It's not the same for an older woman who most times will be seen as a sexual educator, like in the "Graduate." A Mrs Robinson. Even the term MILF isn't exactly detrimental and something I've taken as a compliment in the distant past. Men don't seem to be perceived in the same light when they date a younger woman. I just wonder why the sexes are still not as equal as they should be. Personally I believe the pendulum has swung too far towards female causes and men don't seem to get a fair shake.
Just one more example. I have a friend who recently retired from an intensive care psychiatric unit because 3 times when coming back to work after leave he found a suicide. He couldn't do it any more.
When he and his girlfriend split I was quite shocked as they seemed to get on really well and they had just had a child together. Then he told me. She was physically abusing him and he just couldn't handle it. I asked why he didn't get help. He asked me who he could talk to.
I didn't know what to say to him. When he disclosed the injuries he'd received I was shocked and asked why he hadn't gone to the police. Then he was shocked. He wanted to know how a man can go to the police about domestic abuse. Yes, the law has changed, unfortunately society and it's views of these things have not.
He was scared of the derision he felt he'd receive for admitting to being beaten up severely by a woman. He couldn't face it. I'm aware that there are places that men can get support from but does it seem a little one sided to anyone else? Ok I'm just asking a question, not trying to look for a fight about the equality of the sexes. So pleased keep that in mind.
Ps. Just want to say that their child's care is shared and she's a good mum, just not a good partner. And yes she needs to address her issues and deal with them. That's not the point I'm making. Although if the child has witnessed these incidents that's where kids get screwed up isn't it. That's where learned behaviour comes in isn't it?
Babygirl. X
