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Why are females such dirty backstabbing sluts?

Oats

Oats

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I dont have very many female friends, and i have seen very many reasons why in my years. I'm honestly one of the very FEW women who arent associated with this type, ive had my moments i assume, but other than that...why?

Whats getting me lit: i have a boyfriend, im deeply in love with him and i know hes mine and only wants to be mine. this other female who knows him says she has a dream about him one day and basically was on his nuts for a few days. each time(thankfully) my boyfriend had shut her down..she even mentioned me in a few messages about how lucky i was to be with him, etc. but then would turn around and try to make him hers, she seemed like she was trying to be very persuasive. She knows he has me, why would she even step foot in that zone?
Ladies have you ever tried to "steal" someone else's man? if so WHY!? or has this ever happened to you?
how did you deal with it and men how do you feel about this. have you ever been in this situation? and what did you do?

im going to a party soon and shes a dj...like she doesnt have enough fucking brownie points...and she will be playing a set there, i believe she's the first one up there. my boyfriend and i will be at this party together, i dont want to participate in anything revolving around her. but this is the 3rd sequel to this rave. help?

this also isnt the first time its happened to me, so this is probably why im a little more defensive about it, also i love this guy more than i did the other guys i was with when this type of situation accord.
 
I've never cheated and never plan to cheat on any girl.

I think cheating manifests itself from insecurities buried deep down during child hood. An upraising in an environment in which trust and security were constantly on a razor's edge.

For women this is many times the fault of the father, who was unable to gather the responsibility and determination to raise a daughter properly.

In any case, relationships are a beautiful and fragile thing. It's sad that we live in a society in which cheating is divulged so lightly by the media. The heartbreak of having a girl you love cheat on you is so awful; I have done MMA for many years and it's greater than any pain I've ever suffered physically.
 
Some people just like to chase other people who are attached. They get a little thrill out of it, which I assure you, would be all but null & void if the person were single & not taken.
I wouldn't be taking it to heart or paying it as much mind as you have been. Get on with your own life & focus on the more important matters in it - your partner is clearly faithful, so you have nothing to worry about.
 
I think you should change the title of the post to something along the lines of "what should I do about the girl who likes my boyfriend" or something like that, as that is related to your post.
I'm not really sure what you want to do though. A girl likes your boyfriend, your boyfriend doesn't like her. What are you worried about?
 
I'd say don't worry about it, sounds like he's being faithful. When she is around just smile, have a good time. She wants what she can't have.
 
MissKiddo said:
P.S., by bf is my best friend and although I have others, hes all I could ask for.
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my boyfriend is my best friend too and i would never ask for anything more than him. hes my other half and a perfect addition and addiction to my life. bless him. but she can burn i dont care about that one.
 
It just worries me, sorry about the title admin. i was in a moment lol.
quasimodo..ive been thinking about it and i just might do exactly that...ill give it sometime i better be in a very chill state of mind before hand tho or i might just rage it. no way in hell though am i letting my love near her alone though, i trust him i just want her to stay a good distance away.

and to the guy up top, i was raised very poorly by my father and neglected of a father for more than 70% of my life. ive never cheated on a man before, ive always been cheated on. im being so protective now because i love this one dearly and sincerly. if anything were to happen to us, id crack to pieces and melt away or hide in the sewers some weird shit haa. but i love this guy i know he loves me and what we have is very strong. i just dont want anybody to slip in between the cracks, which i know he wont allow..but i also dont want females attempting either. mean people ='/
 
but i love this guy i know he loves me
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Let that be the answer to your worries about this other girl.

For what its worth, my ex-ex-girlfriend used to constantly think other girls were trying to steal me from her; I don't think it was really happening, but after this boosted my male teenage ego, it got really annoying. Her anxieties were ridiculous and it was impossible to persuade her that she was wrong; and the subsequent clinginess pushed me away. Though, to be fair, I was a right cunt back then, and most certainly did cheat on her...:| ;)
 
I've met and encountered a fair amount of men who are into cheating, love to cause drama, love to steal another man's BF, and love to backstab people who they're supposedly friends or in a relationship with.
 
i would NEVER do that to someone , but i know girls who steel boyfriends or have had there boyfriends literly stolen
this is something thats ALL on the girl ,if she wants him and if she wants to be a bitch shell harass him .
i know a lady whos husband was stolen buy IMO a slut . this slut would send this lady DIRTY letters telling her loads of sexual things the husband and her would do , insulting her and calling her names also, she would follow her husband around everywhere also constantly called his phone! she got what she wanted its been 10 years since that has happened and there still together. iv heard this story so many times thus im close to this lady(my bestfriends mom) shes very traumatized by this.

now this is the question you have to ask your self

do you stand your ground and defend whats yours Or do you leave him and not deal with the drama ahead if she decides to pursue him.?

what id do ..
i would drop it , im to prideful to fight for a man when there are plenty of them available
 
Sounds like you're pretty sure about how strong your own relationship is. Dont worry so much about what she doesnt have and enjoy what you have.

Oats said:
im going to a party soon and shes a dj...like she doesnt have enough fucking brownie points...and she will be playing a set there, i believe she's the first one up there
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Just to make you feel a little better, the shit dj's usually go on first anyway! Hopefully she'll take a couple of strong pills, she'll a play shit set and everyone will think shes a total nobhead for wreckin the party.
 
Don't sweat it. No sense in stressing yourself out over something that sounds as secure as you're describing.
 
Monkeybizness said:
now this is the question you have to ask your self

do you stand your ground and defend whats yours Or do you leave him and not deal with the drama ahead if she decides to pursue him.?

what id do ..
i would drop it , im to prideful to fight for a man when there are plenty of them available
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I messaged her, through facebook (its the only way i know to contact her) and we settled things. she explained herself, appologized and backed off. we settled things. this is a load of my shoulders. i dont feel as if i have so much to worry about now, which i guess i didnt before but now im not as uncomfortable and lots of anxiety is gone. WOOH
i stood my ground and she told me she respects me for standing up for myself and for my love.
 
Oats said:
I dont have very many female friends, and i have seen very many reasons why in my years. I'm honestly one of the very FEW women who arent associated with this type, ive had my moments i assume, but other than that...why?

Whats getting me lit: i have a boyfriend, im deeply in love with him and i know hes mine and only wants to be mine. this other female who knows him says she has a dream about him one day and basically was on his nuts for a few days. each time(thankfully) my boyfriend had shut her down..she even mentioned me in a few messages about how lucky i was to be with him, etc. but then would turn around and try to make him hers, she seemed like she was trying to be very persuasive. She knows he has me, why would she even step foot in that zone?
Ladies have you ever tried to "steal" someone else's man? if so WHY!? or has this ever happened to you?
how did you deal with it and men how do you feel about this. have you ever been in this situation? and what did you do?

im going to a party soon and shes a dj...like she doesnt have enough fucking brownie points...and she will be playing a set there, i believe she's the first one up there. my boyfriend and i will be at this party together, i dont want to participate in anything revolving around her. but this is the 3rd sequel to this rave. help?

this also isnt the first time its happened to me, so this is probably why im a little more defensive about it, also i love this guy more than i did the other guys i was with when this type of situation accord.
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one thing springs to mind about this women, jealousy. she seems to put you down because you've got the one thing she can't have your man. i would just tell the jealous slut to fuck off.
 
Sorry but I have to disagree. No ring on finger = fair game. Unless she's your friend, then she owes it to you to stay away from your BF. But otherwise, what could this girl owe to you? Your relationship with your boyfriend is none of her business. What is her business is that she fancies a guy who has no ring on his finger. She should go for it, otherwise she's stupid. It's up to your BF to tell her he's not interested. If you and he are solid, you have nothing to worry about.

Note: the above may not apply if you're in junior high.
 
^^This. You can't blame someone for wanting what they want. It would be wrong of her to try to break you up, but if you two love each other that's not going to happen, so why worry about it? It is good that you talked to both of them about it and it is in the open, but it isn't anyone's fault. Most PEOPLE are just pieces of shit. The only way to avoid it is to avoid people.

I had someone fuck up a relationship I was in, and I have probably played a role in fucking up someone else's relationship. When someone else meddled in my relationship things were already fucked up. We were "taking a break", which I took to mean letting things cool off and then reevaluating our relationship, but which turned out to be her dumping me to hook up with other guys. I was torn up about it, but in retrospect I was more lonely than in love, and it was all for the best. When I was the person fucking things up it was because I got involved with a friend's ex. They had been broken up for about a month, and I probably prevented them from ever getting back together. I lost a friend over it, but I don't regret it. I was always closer to the girl we were both in love with, even just as friends. I saw a chance to love and to be loved and to be happy and I went for it. If I had done anything different I would always be wondering what could have been.

Life and love are tricky, and when you play with matches you will get burnt. Probably over and over again. You can't control what other people do, only what you do, so play it cool and do what your heart tells you to. Things will work out or they won't. It isn't necessarily something you can control. It sounds like things are going well for you and your boyfriend, so stop worrying about everything that could go wrong and be thankful for the things that are going right. I should probably be more positive than I am. Here is a smiley face. :D
 
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