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mal3volent

mal3volent

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So I definitely miss my best friend Richard who died a little over 10 years ago.
I miss my kitty, and my sweet baby Belle.
And all my other pets I've lost.

My estranged family, I have mixed feelings. I miss some of them but then again others I don't.

I'm thankful for the few awesome people I have. I don't take them for granted.

Who do y'all miss this time of year? 💜
 
Ah... 4 posts that will bring tears to my eye.

Yeah it is incredible. First Christmas without my mother and dog. Staying with my father to give him a hand.

Yeah as we get older it really smacks us in the face. Some people we love die before us and we are left alone. But everyone that gets older must feel that. I never knew.
 
VerbalTruist said:
My dad. He died a couple of years ago and I wish we could spend more time. Bums me out he’ll never get to meet his grandkids. He was way exicted about it.
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Very Sorry to read that, my dad got a bunch of medical problems and died last August, but after his wife aka my mom and sister died, he said I was the only reason he had too live for.

Which is really sad. He even got senile from all his medical problems and fell apart. He wasn't like me, he was well; people are shocked and are like what happened to you? drinking way way too heavily to put it mildly, no more thankfully.

No grandkids, that I know of, my sister didn't have kids and me, I ain't the family type. But he would have loved to have had grand kids, but knew his two children wouldn't probably ever find the right spouse and make good parents.
 
JackARoe said:
Ah... 4 posts that will bring tears to my eye.

Yeah it is incredible. First Christmas without my mother and dog. Staying with my father to give him a hand.

Yeah as we get older it really smacks us in the face. Some people we love die before us and we are left alone. But everyone that gets older must feel that. I never knew.
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It doesn't matter who you are or what you have or have not done with your life.
If you have decent or better parents it sucks when you out live them. Poor, rich, or middle class, it hurts the same if you loved them.

Losing a good dog, that can make any real man who isn't psychotic, cry and mourn that loss, sometimes more than people you know or even some family members. Cherish the time you have with your dad and have a merry Christmas.
 
Jnowhere said:
Losing a good dog, that can make any real man who isn't psychotic, cry and mourn that loss, sometimes more than people you know or even some family members. Cherish the time you have with your dad and have a merry Christmas.
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Thanks JN, back at you too. We will all make it through. Not quite like a Hallmark movie but maybe close? Or maybe not.

I admit I cried a lot over my dog, still do. Now my mother, well I did shed a few tears, but dogs become part of us and are with us 24/7 so it can really leave a hole. I admit I grieve animals in a much deeper way.
 
JackARoe said:
Thanks JN, back at you too. We will all make it through. Not quite like a Hallmark movie but maybe close? Or maybe not.

I admit I cried a lot over my dog, still do. Now my mother, well I did shed a few tears, but dogs become part of us and are with us 24/7 so it can really leave a hole. I admit I grieve animals in a much deeper way.
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Hopefully moreso with dogs, than cats.
They are their own best friend.
 
Jnowhere said:
but knew his two children wouldn't probably ever find the right spouse and make good parents.
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Absolutely you Both would have !! It is because you cared too much. My sibling and I are the exact same way.

No kids ( offspring ) only bad cum shots. loool I'm sorry its Xmas.


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I'm sorry. But me and my brother are like you two are. Real good like that.

No children. Loool I guess we were busy. Anyway ...


But you know I always wondered what triggered your Sister's epilepsy. That was very serious. I'm sorry

for her. I will say some prayers for her alright.

I think I remember hearing you ( or reading lol ) that you said she had a Grande seizure in college all of a

sudden. But I always wondered if something caused it to. I am really sorry for you. I can't I don't know

how you do it.

I think you all sound like a really amazing family. Anyhow.

Merry Christmas alright.


Oh I'm being on topic but if this gets ''' moved ''' I was wondering about it all

and that part already got deleted because I got dropped. It was a bad one.

The internet dropped and there was to connect even though there was a signal and a provider available.

Well until it all dropped.

Anyway it's good to hear from you when it was available.

Anyway real quick I'm back and much Prayers. 🙏🙏🙏

The emoti's wouldn't even work so I will try to send another one.
 
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My mother who I lost when I was 17 years old. Christmas was her favorite time of year. She'd start playing Christmas music around Halloween time, our house would be the first one on the block that was decorated, our house would smell of those damn Cinnamon scented pine cones long before Thanksgiving. She had a special way of making Christmas feel special. It truly was the most wonderful time of the year with her around.

She passed the night before Thanksgiving and now I struggle with this time of year. It's hard knowing she's not here to share her favorite season with us anymore.
 
Jnowhere said:
My immediate family.
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Thanks Mal; I was genuinely saddened to read about your family situation, I know what being alone on the holidays and even birthdays ( but then again after 21, it doesn't matter, till you approach 30, worse 40, and I imagine that when 50 comes rolling around, ugh... this can't be happening, no lol).

My, family situation, isn't the same but, still not being with one's family( don't care about presents, if I want something, I just buy it) but isolation from those you should be closest too, around Thanksgiving and Christmas sucks.
 
nobody....got all by my side....but this is a sad day for me....on that day-X mass my mother was born...on that day she died....40 years old...and it would be like anytime on X-mass Eve-on the table -a dish with food for her,glass of wine or whiskey....i wish she could be able to see her granddaughter.....but God decide other
 
My grandmother. She would always bake the same biscuits; jam-filled shortcrust with chopped almond topping and egg glaze, and 'black-and-white' which was the same shortcrust pastry, with one half mixed with cocoa powder and arranged in a chequerboard pattern. Didn't care too much about those, loved the jam ones. She also unfailingly bought a packet of dark chocolate-covered hands-down the BEST marzipan on the planet, which is Niederegger's from Luebeck. 10/10.

I miss my aunts from the maternal side as well. Aunt Ella who was a devout Christian but also had the greatest repertoire of irreverent religious jokes. Aunt Mieke who just never COULD get organized enough in all her many decades of life to manage wrapping the presents until about 15 mins before mass, with all her sisters shouting at her to hurry up.

Some childhood friends that were so dear to me back then, because life moves on and that just rubs it in how time passes and we change.
I couldn't imagine my life without these people at one time; now I barely remember their existence.

Even my useless arsehole father, purely because one of the few times we really bonded was when embarking on the designated 'man's job' of choosing, and bringing in, the Christmas tree (many arguments notwithstanding. I wanted the best looks, he wanted the lowest price.)
We would also drink 'water cocoa' (his concoction of dark cocoa powder and hot water with a little sugar) together in the winter mornings at around 7 o'clock.

My best friend. I still see him in my mind's eye when he showed up one Christmas Day totally unannounced, silver and green tinsel extravagantly draped around his shoulders, while carrying in one hand the sawn-off top of some actual Xmas tree, in lieu of a Xmas tree. Snow was falling and he was wearing snowflake pattern forest-green mittens. He had a beaming smile.
It was magic.
 
My father. We were really poor growing up, but he always made sure we had something for Christmas, one year we got these random ass donations too, idk if that was truly random or he set it up, but it was something I remember looking back.

And I miss Sasha, of course. I had not thought about her for a long time, but i have recently been flooded with thoughts about her. I visited her mother last weekend and went to church with her. She just had some serious emergency neck surgery. It was nice to see her though.

I even kinda miss my ex wife and our cats, but I'm loathe to say that out loud.
 
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