When he cums.

[temest]

And I don't think you understood mine as well. How did you come to the conclusion that you're sad because it's emotionless from my post? I'm proposing that you have a better chance of being sexually happier if feelings and emotions (His and yours) were left out of the equation. I'm simply proposing 100% carnal lust. Sorry you thought I meant differently.

 

[SpottedWolf]

I have has sex before, i watch porn i'm 23 years old...
Any time i seen a man cum he came in "one shot" yeah with spurts and all but when he came it all got out within those few seconds...

The man I am with has issues letting go... i'm not going to talk about it because it depresses me and i have no interest for sex because of how boring it got since i'm with him.

now this last almost month he says he is "cuming" in me but SLIGHTLY like a piece of cum just like one spurt a mini spurt... he says it happens 3-5 times per sexual relation this last month... i believed it because i felt him contracting inside of me.

Thinking though last time and then today after sex i realized what the fuck what i thinking to believe him when he already lied about it and anything related to his orgasms.... he still jacks of after sex next to me and i have to deal with sitting there and wait to finish my self alone ( he is super fucking selfish ) i have just realized i never have anything except my own wettness coming out of me and i know the difference...i tried to tell my self its just because its so little cum its not flowing out of me or whatever...

its stupid it hurts i cried when i realized it... i wanted to have hope he could finally cum because i havent had someone cum with me during sex or a blow job in YEARS (5) ive done everything and hated my self and tried tell my self it isnt my fault to letting him sext other girls and if he wants he is allowed to fuck them to trying porn which was the worst fail ever... everything doesnt work and hee i thought a man could do a mini spurt a millin times and then jack off after...

what this post is... is me venting because im in pain and hurt... and stupid me wanting hope and asking is this even POSSIBLE do MEN do that... and dont go on thinking pre cum men dont or barely feel that...

(Just read all of this and i think he might of been insecure with himself, he could have been lieing about ever having sex before and could of possibly felt like he kept letting you down) was he shaky at all? And did he like to do lots at the beginning of the relationship? As in make out go places just mainly spend time with you? Communication goes a long way in a relationship Lavender.Theres many reasons why this could happen, depression, anxiety, stress, possibly a sense of loneliness. Seems like you didn't communicate at all, did you ever ask him if he just wanted to talk? Seems like to me your biggest frustration was getting pounded into the matress which is always fun...But if he actually had feelings for you something like this could happen, disconnecting from eachother on a social level is the beginning of the end for a relationship! You also said he supported you which shows he obviously cared, did you have your own kid by chance when you 2 got together? Seems like theres alot more to your situation...especially if sex was that important to you i highly doubt you would of hung around for 5 years...

 

[trunkofmycar]

Does he use any drugs on a regular basis, OP?

Lots can cause inorgasmia in men. Opiates, antidepressants, benzos, and even amphetamines are all known for sexual side effects.

Another known cause for inorgasmia (during intercourse in particular) in men is a habit of prone masturbation. Prose means the majority of his masturbation is done facedown, BTW, seems silly, but Google it.

The only other reason for his difficulties coming inside of you, that comes to mind is this: is it possible that he's lying about wanting a family with you right now? Could he secretly not be ready for a baby, and just sparing your feelings?

 

[theredgiant]

its stupid it hurts i cried when i realized it... i wanted to have hope he could finally cum because i havent had someone cum with me during sex or a blow job in YEARS (5) ive done everything and hated my self and tried tell my self it isnt my fault to letting him sext other girls and if he wants he is allowed to fuck them to trying porn which was the worst fail ever... everything doesnt work and hee i thought a man could do a mini spurt a millin times and then jack off after...

what this post is... is me venting because im in pain and hurt... and stupid me wanting hope and asking is this even POSSIBLE do MEN do that... and dont go on thinking pre cum men dont or barely feel that...

You let him text other women and have sex with them? wow....you should not have done that...if he can do all this with other women why would he do anything with you. I mean you seem very understanding but too much of a good thing is a bad thing. You need to buys some toys and get yourself off....stop putting your pleasure second in life

 

[SpottedWolf]

Well said, this guy seems like a huge goof or has some problems...eitherway you deserve pleasure and i'd never let my girl even have the thought cross her mind i find her undesirable, let alone not be unfaithful unless it was going both ways...You need a nice hard fuck until you cant take another orgasm

Get rid of the bitch boy...fuck cheating end it! ?

 

[bamadawg21]

While reading your post and reading comments, my initial thought was drug use. Right on with what @trunkofmycar was saying. Some drugs (not going far into detail due to rules) make it a LOT harder to cum. I'm an ex drug abuser and everything you just explained is what occurs when abusing drugs.

Maybe I'm completely wrong, who knows?

Does he get drug tested at his job? If he does then it's out of the question but if he doesn't I can give you more info to try and find out if he is abusing drugs.