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Wolfmans_BrothEr

Wolfmans_BrothEr

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if the girl you love cheated on you twice, dragged u up to a new state to live with her, leaves u for a guy she meets up there, then calls you one day saying she wants you back

ill regret posting this tm but im drunk so fuck it
 
I wouldn't trust her. I don't know how much time you have invested in this girl.
But it's a bad idea taking her back, given the description of what's she done already.
 
My boy was in a similar situation. He was with this girl for 5 years and she would always cheat on him, break up with him get a new bf. Get back with him, break up, get a new boyfriend. He finally one day kicked her to the curb and he is the happiest I have ever seen him
 
She sounds like a manipulator with lots of issues.

Lots of people don't do seconds as a rule. They're pretty smart.

Some of us are into risky behavior more than others. I've gotten into second, third and fourth flings with several past partners including my ex wife and nothing but sex has ever come of it. If that's all you're looking for it's ok. But re-reading the same lesson over again isn't going to teach you anything, though it usually progresses through the failure of relationship faster than the first time, sometimes all in a single afternoon you realize just why you left (or they left) the last time.

I've only known one couple that got divorced and remarried three times. I think they were actually happy when they finally settled down to it. But then tragically, he died in a car accident and she later remarried someone who I swear looked just like her first (second and third) husband and they ran off to be nudists in Florida.

Otherwise, I personally have nothing good to report regarding having "seconds" and generally it just blocks you from meeting the next person you're supposed to be with learning your next lessons on relationships...

It's difficult for a person in love to see past the "wonderfulness" of a person to their failings. Love is addictive, mind-altering stuff and some people understand how to use that to their advantage. I would ask myself why I love someone who has caused me such pain? Not trying to be cruel, I've been exactly where you're at right now. It sucks.

My advice is don't block your future happiness with an almost certain repeat offender who is probably only using you.
 
Wolfmans_BrothEr said:
if the girl you love cheated on you twice, dragged u up to a new state to live with her, leaves u for a guy she meets up there, then calls you one day saying she wants you back

ill regret posting this tm but im drunk so fuck it
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I'd be really intelligent about it. Say you appreciate what she's saying, but you really don't like her in that way anymore (She'll hate that!!). That theres another woman in your life that you really fancy, and things are looking good and your trying to get with her...

Hopefully then she'll try harder and harder to get you back... but keep insisting that you don't find her attractive... and this other girl you do, and things are working out.

Tell her "You can be my friend if you like".... just make sure you let her know that she's not attractive enough for you
 
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Dunno, if she was like epic; hot, smart, fun etc, and I REALLY loved her, then well fuck it I'd give it another go. We all fuck up sometimes.

If she's homely, dumber than brick, boring and you only moderately loved her; not worth the effort.
 
raas_2012 said:
I'd be really intelligent about it. Say you appreciate what she's saying, but you really don't like her in that way anymore (She'll hate that!!). That theres another woman in your life that you really fancy, and things are looking good and your trying to get with her...

Hopefully then she'll try harder and harder to get you back... but keep insisting that you don't find her attractive... and this other girl you do, and things are working out.

Tell her "You can be my friend if you like".... just make sure you let her know that she's not attractive enough for you
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That's a great way to get cheated on again. She might fall for that shit at first (if she's an insecure psycho) but then what? You already have an emotional connection to this girl so eventually you're gonna start being nice, and then she gets bored and moves on.

I wouldn't even respond. She doesn't deserve an explanation and if you try to be nice and put her down lightly she might take that as a sign that she just has to try harder, meaning you don't really get rid of her.
 
I was once in a similar situation. The girl of my dreams who I thought I "loved" cheated on me twice. The first time with some random dude at a party I didn't want to go to then the second with a friend of mine. Then she tried to get me to move to North Carolina with her from Michigan out of the blue. It was simple really... I told her how much of a bitch she is and that I wanted nothing to do with her the rest of my life.

She kept calling me and trying to communicate the next few months but ignoring her was key. It hurt don't get me wrong but the more I ignored her the easier it became. I still hate her but hey, life goes on. Get away from her and cut communication off with her!
 
I definitely wouldn't give her another chance. Cheating on someone once is forgivable I think, twice I'd have lots of trouble with but dragging you to another state and then leaving you for someone else there...I'd think you deserve better than that
 
I would tell her that I don't trust her. Straight up - no ifs, no buts... I'm not her toy.

I have had a girl like this - luckily enough I always took her with a pinch of salt, so I was never that bothered, just mildly irritated.

I would tell her where to go. She is using you.
 
Don't go back. She will squarely fuck you again if you go back. You don't seem to be too disturbed about the other two times that she cheated on you. I mean, you went to another state with a girl who had fucked you over--twice. If you are in to being dangled and hurt then, by all means, go back to her. However, if you want a relationship with a person who is worth a shit then do not talk to her again.
 
She cheated on you TWICE then broke up with you because she found a new guy?
So three times she decided she didn't want you?
I can ALMOST understand this happening ONCE. But three times? No way. Move on. Find someone else. There are LOTS of women out there.
She is obviously using you as her "backup" - aka the guy she likes and would settle down with BUT she wants someone else. She will always be wanting someone else. She's leading you on and manipulating you.
 
if someone ditched me in a new place for some other guy after cheating on me and then called me up to get back together i wouldn't even acknowledge them.

a response is more than i'd give
 
^ exactly, dignifying them with a response anytime soon is just feeding their drama and ego.

pontifex01 said:
This. But use her back. Take advantage of the sex and then, if you can, injure her emotionally as much as possible. Example: Film her giving you a blowjob and post it on the internet (joke, but you catch my drift).

An eye for an eye and all that.

But if you do get back together and get sucked in again you Are going to get fucked over (again), and to be honest you'd deserve it for being that naive.
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I hope that was all a joke.

I would however, if I was in an assertive and teaching mood, instead of "I want to get the fuck away from you, bitch" mood, TELL her you did this, just to fuck with her, and then say "that's how it feels to be emotionally stomped on by someone you trusted..." - then when she is all twisted up and going mad about it, tell her you were lying, because you're a decent person and would never do that.
 
Effuzion said:
That's a great way to get cheated on again. She might fall for that shit at first (if she's an insecure psycho) but then what? You already have an emotional connection to this girl so eventually you're gonna start being nice, and then she gets bored and moves on.

I wouldn't even respond. She doesn't deserve an explanation and if you try to be nice and put her down lightly she might take that as a sign that she just has to try harder, meaning you don't really get rid of her.
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I was insinuating he left her alone... but tell her he finds her unattrative... coz she sounds like a control freak.

You don't find good produce from a bad crop... stay away...
 
some people will toy with you

example.

a girl i knew at uni went to colombia with her boyfriend dumped him and shacked up with some other dude and got back with the original boyfriend towards the end of the time there. they have since split up. people will mess you about and to some its a game of ego feeding

dont be ego fodder for those who don't respect you
 
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