MyFinalRest
Bluelighter
Ok, there's the "what really turns you on thread," now we just need a "what really turns you off thread." here it is. What really "turns you off?"
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What Really Turns You Off?
- Thread starter MyFinalRest
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Having vanilla sex in the same position and the same routine every night with a partner who won't explore any kinks or try new things with me. Even if the basic sex is good, I just get bored and resentful. I'm a very sexual person but hardly slept with my ex hubby for the last 3 years of our marriage because the lack of adventure/ playfulness/spontaneity made me lose my sex drive completely!
GenericMind
Bluelighter
-Excessive tattoos and/or piercings
-Selfishness or a lack of consideration for other people
-Lack of a sense of humor
-Selfishness or a lack of consideration for other people
-Lack of a sense of humor
rocketqueen
Bluelighter
Men that do not manscape. Women that do not groom certain areas. And, finally, (and to noones great surprise) pubic hair, esp. pubic hair gone wild. Gross.
People that are unkind, esp. to animals.
People that are unkind, esp. to animals.
MyFinalRest
Bluelighter
There's probably lots to list, but I'll try.
1. lazy, skanky, junkie types
2. Overconfidence and also total lack of it.
3. Girls who let their dogs shit in their house and don't clean it up.
4. Girls who stay up all night and sleep all day.
5. Bartenders
6. Tattoos.
7. Excessive Piercings.
8. BDSM
9. Girls who demand too much planning or expect too much spontenaity.
10. Inability to ever be serious in real life (internet doesn't count)
11. Giddy, Screaming, Jump up and down hyperactive types.
12. Lack of sexual openness
13. Too much sexual openness
14. Poop Sex
15. Meth
16. Alcoholism
17. Lack of bathing, dirty clothes, dirty house
18. Facebook/Twitter and lots of texting
19. Short hair
20. Inability to watch TV or movies that they don't choose.
21. Won't let me indulge fully (except anal) in her naked body/not physical enough/ no sexual appetite or passion.
1. lazy, skanky, junkie types
2. Overconfidence and also total lack of it.
3. Girls who let their dogs shit in their house and don't clean it up.
4. Girls who stay up all night and sleep all day.
5. Bartenders
6. Tattoos.
7. Excessive Piercings.
8. BDSM
9. Girls who demand too much planning or expect too much spontenaity.
10. Inability to ever be serious in real life (internet doesn't count)
11. Giddy, Screaming, Jump up and down hyperactive types.
12. Lack of sexual openness
13. Too much sexual openness
14. Poop Sex
15. Meth
16. Alcoholism
17. Lack of bathing, dirty clothes, dirty house
18. Facebook/Twitter and lots of texting
19. Short hair
20. Inability to watch TV or movies that they don't choose.
21. Won't let me indulge fully (except anal) in her naked body/not physical enough/ no sexual appetite or passion.
rocketqueen
Bluelighter
Well, that is just great. I fit 7 things on your list. Guess we won't be dating. :-(
MyFinalRest
Bluelighter
^number 20 bothers me the most! Can't you just at least try to shut up and watch it with me!?!
GenericMind
Bluelighter
Also, chicks that are big pot heads.
ebola?
Bluelight Crew
MFR said:
Er...this'd be a deal-breaker for me being friends or possibly acquaintances with someone, lol. There have to be some mutually shared behaviors assumed for meeting as 'humans'.
ebola
MikeRWK
Bluelighter
Stuck up bitches that think theyre all that but look like a fucking monster when the makeup comes off.
Needy bitches that everytime they open thier mouth you just hear "whhhiiiiiiinnnnnneeeeeee"
Bitches that post slutty pics on fb and then complain about other sluts.
People in general that bitch about drama, but deep down they thrive off it.
Needy bitches that everytime they open thier mouth you just hear "whhhiiiiiiinnnnnneeeeeee"
Bitches that post slutty pics on fb and then complain about other sluts.
People in general that bitch about drama, but deep down they thrive off it.
LilbabiC
Bluelighter
Men who count while fucking!
I had an ex who would count (out loud) how many times he pumped in and out during sex. He was such a sweet man and we had alot in common. I finally couldn't take it anymore when he asked me to count with him so I dumped him. Such a turn off.
I had an ex who would count (out loud) how many times he pumped in and out during sex. He was such a sweet man and we had alot in common. I finally couldn't take it anymore when he asked me to count with him so I dumped him. Such a turn off.
citizen cained
Bluelighter
making a big issue out of the smallest of things.
being boring/selfish in bed and not even trying to change
being rude and insensitive
putting me down all the time over the smallest issue i.e. my inability to dance
expecting me to do things like make drinks but never doing it in return.
saying "I don't care about..." when i am in mid conversation about the topic in question (like I give a shit about some of the things you say but I am nice and listen anyway)
people who don't show affection i.e. holding your hand in public
people who have no consideration to your feelings or opinions.
I am aware I just described my recent ex but we only broke up yesterday so cut me some slack
other generals things:
Attention seeking,
guilt tripping i.e. saying "it's fine, I'll sit at home on my own whilst you have fun" coz your'e going out with mates.
Poor general hygiene.
someone who doesn't trust me when i give no reason not to be trusted.
too much make up/fake tan
Essex accents (sorry to anyone affected)
stupidity (in terms of general intelligence)
cheaters (this one is top IMO)
girls who dress "slutty"/leave nothing to the imagination
girls who have a reputation of sleeping around.
girls who are overweight (above 12 stone unless they are tall)
overly skinny girls (below size 8ish unless they are "petite")
Girls who wear way too much perfume.
smokers (as in full time)
drug addicts (again proper addicts, use i have no problem with)
girls who don't trim/shave at all
Girls who don't look after themselves i.e. dont care about appearance for example wearing awful boring clothes (unless indoors or for lazing around in)
Boyish girls (tomboys, baggy jeans and t shirt types)
large visible tattoos
piercings down below
large ear rings or stretchers
more than 3 face piercings
nipple piercings
immature girls.
very short hair (above the ear lobe in terms of length)
well that's it really, I'm sure I can think of other things... Yea..I am picky.. any takers?
p.s these things turn me off but won't be a deal breaker apart from a few such as cheating and slutty girls
being boring/selfish in bed and not even trying to change
being rude and insensitive
putting me down all the time over the smallest issue i.e. my inability to dance
expecting me to do things like make drinks but never doing it in return.
saying "I don't care about..." when i am in mid conversation about the topic in question (like I give a shit about some of the things you say but I am nice and listen anyway)
people who don't show affection i.e. holding your hand in public
people who have no consideration to your feelings or opinions.
I am aware I just described my recent ex but we only broke up yesterday so cut me some slack
other generals things:
Attention seeking,
guilt tripping i.e. saying "it's fine, I'll sit at home on my own whilst you have fun" coz your'e going out with mates.
Poor general hygiene.
someone who doesn't trust me when i give no reason not to be trusted.
too much make up/fake tan
Essex accents (sorry to anyone affected)
stupidity (in terms of general intelligence)
cheaters (this one is top IMO)
girls who dress "slutty"/leave nothing to the imagination
girls who have a reputation of sleeping around.
girls who are overweight (above 12 stone unless they are tall)
overly skinny girls (below size 8ish unless they are "petite")
Girls who wear way too much perfume.
smokers (as in full time)
drug addicts (again proper addicts, use i have no problem with)
girls who don't trim/shave at all
Girls who don't look after themselves i.e. dont care about appearance for example wearing awful boring clothes (unless indoors or for lazing around in)
Boyish girls (tomboys, baggy jeans and t shirt types)
large visible tattoos
piercings down below
large ear rings or stretchers
more than 3 face piercings
nipple piercings
immature girls.
very short hair (above the ear lobe in terms of length)
well that's it really, I'm sure I can think of other things... Yea..I am picky.. any takers?
p.s these things turn me off but won't be a deal breaker apart from a few such as cheating and slutty girls
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citizen cained
Bluelighter
tell me about it, I wanted to watch "the green mile" with my ex but she didn't want it purely because she hadn't seen it before and wasn't interested, god we were so mis-matched can't believe i let it go on for 4 months.. lol
rocketqueen
Bluelighter
You would have to be more specific as to what you want to draw me in to. I ain't with wrestling, Colombo, old Westerns, the jewelry channel, and Murder, She Wrote. My ex old man watched that shit and I suffered. I am with any true crime, all things freaky, kinky, torture porn, horror, extreme horror, documentaries, drama, thrillers, and Golden Girls. lol jk on that one!
rocketqueen
Bluelighter
Well, that is three I fit to the "T" - my dating pool is shrinking by the second! WTF? I thought guys liked chicks that were sluts in the bedroom, low maintenance (I can be ready to leave the house after waking in about 10 minutes) and enjoyed having someone to get high with! I can't help but feel a little defeated.
FYI, The Green Mile is an excellent book and a damn good movie. So there!
xstayfadedx
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-guys who complain about girls having tattoos (lol)
-ones who don't at least trim down below
-stuck up/conceited
-guys who just talk about drugs and care about drugs
-people who can't hold a conversation
-one worded texts, its like -____- fuck off then
-guys who can't make up their minds
-a guy who can't show some amount of affection.
-bad hygiene
-no self respect
-obsessive/controlling attributes
-overly clingy
-a bad haircut (lol sorry but damn.... Hair can sometimes be a deal breaker. I mean if I like you and already am seeing you then its not but if I see you on the street or somewhere....and your hairs fucked up then its just like![:\](https://bluelight.org/xf/BL_Images/Orig_Emoji/wrygrin.gif "wry grin :\")
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-creepers
-and of course axe murderers
-ones who don't at least trim down below
-stuck up/conceited
-guys who just talk about drugs and care about drugs
-people who can't hold a conversation
-one worded texts, its like -____- fuck off then
-guys who can't make up their minds
-a guy who can't show some amount of affection.
-bad hygiene
-no self respect
-obsessive/controlling attributes
-overly clingy
-a bad haircut (lol sorry but damn.... Hair can sometimes be a deal breaker. I mean if I like you and already am seeing you then its not but if I see you on the street or somewhere....and your hairs fucked up then its just like
)-creepers
-and of course axe murderers
MyFinalRest
Bluelighter
hmmm...I do like some of those ol' Westerns, but your love of torture porn is major deal breaker. I'd rather watch one full day of Murder, She Wrote and another day of Golden Girls!
Here's some more:
1. Girls that wear baseball caps
2. GIRLS THAT WEAR FUCKING BASEBALL CAPS!
3. Girls that watch Family Guy or its spinoffs. I am not wasting anymore of my life dealing with people who watch that shit.
4. very picky eaters
5. adverse to any sort of exercise or physical fitness, but I don't like women who are into sports though.
6. Girls that talk about "axe-murderers" and serial killers and fear/indulge in being one of their victims
7. anti-intellectual
8. unwilling to try new experiences that are "decent," i.e. not "cleveland steamers"
xstayfadedx
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^i was being sarcastic about the axe murdering... Lol well of course its not a turn on though but it was a joke