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What is the best age to marry?

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Is one age better than another when it comes to marriage? Many young adults and some of their parents seem to think the late twenties is the best time, giving them the chance to secure their careers. Contrary to that thinking, some studies and our own empirical evidence show that marrying in your early 20s may be the best age. Having a partner as you work your way through college and up that career ladder can be fun and helpful.


We married when we were in college, at a young age. We just simply fell in love and wanted to be together forever. It was as simple as that. We believe it can be simple now. Many young couples are proving that marriage can be enjoyable and lasting if they work at it. A happy marriage isn’t automatic at any age, so if you’ve found someone you love, who shares your same values, take the leap. Here are some thoughts on why marriage can work at a young age — and by young we don’t mean teenagers.
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I would say at least a few years after highschool up until you die. As long as you're not too young, then fuck it, age is irrelevant.
 
Good to know Im being taken seriously around here, but since you seem to want a serious answer (to this question? Really?) I'll give you my honest opinion on the subject.

I don't believe one can be too young for marriage. You can, however, be too imature to make the decision on whether to get marriaged or not in the first place and even though the maturity of an individual has some connection to their age, it has much more to do with the persons level of experience in different aspects of life.
 
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When you're an adult. For men that's like 30 and women maybe 25. :D But it varies.
 
I got married at 30. Wife was 28 at the time. I don't recommend anyone doing it before they have at least established themselves as individuals.
 
Marriage is one thing, having kids is another.
There is increasing evidence that it's better to have kids when you are young. Your kids are less likely to have genetic defects and you have more energy and resilience.
 
augustaB said:
Marriage is one thing, having kids is another.
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Very good point, especially because they don't always come in the same order.

To the original topic, there really isn't a right age but there is a certain maturity level I think. I certainly don't think I was mature enough at 19, 20, or 21 to get married. I'm 24 now and engaged, I know who I'm going to marry, and I know I'd be fine getting married now. But it's different for everyone. I know a lot of people my age who probably shouldn't be married. At this age, you're still establishing yourself. I think people should make sure they learn about themselves first. You're always going to grow in life. But people need to know themselves and understand themselves first. I don't think there is a perfect age and not everyone is going to be "ready" for marriage. How do you even figure that out? :P
 
Marriage. I have been with the same woman for four years now and feel as though we are pretty much married legal confirmation aside. Why make it official by involving the government? Trust me they already know enough about me as it is. We dont need the title the love is there. Feel me?
 
I wonder if it might be better to encourage families/reproduction starting around 23. 26 is said to be a good age to have children. I don't feel like sourcing that at the moment, and I'm open to another idea, but as we age, the chances of passing on mutations increases. This is my general idea. I think marriage and starting families should happen sooner (earlier 20s). Society should be geared with society in mind. Survival. But we have so many people, and we move away from this equilibrium. We have the stage we are at.
 
My opinion is the most important thing is to get your fun and "sow your oats" out of the way for both of you, first. This way you've both got some experience in the sex dept, you've checked it all out, so you're not missing anything and learned what you like and dont like in a person. If you jump in too soon, you dont experience enough and that ends up leaving many people wondering what they missed out on and there comes a desire to want to explore (the 7 yr itch), didnt learn what they're really compatible with. You dont want to start to late if you're doing the kid thing, you want the kids grown and not be to old to enjoy your life after that. Although I married the totally wrong person,I pretty much did all that, got hitched at 25 had kids right after that, I was 45 when the 2nd one turned 18 and was ready to rock and roll :) You dont want to start at 35 and be 55 almost 60 when you get your freedom back. OH and word of warning, your life WILL change the day you have a kid.
 
I don't see the appeal. You meet someone, fall in love, and are happy with them for a few years. Then they change, you change, or sometimes even worse, they DON'T change or try to improve themselves. However it happens, after several years, you realize that you have very little in common. And then it's time to move on.

I personally have been plagued by prospective partners who saw that I was going somewhere in life. They were looking for somebody to latch their claws into and get a free ride. I have no idea how to avoid any of these problems and find a good, long-term match. Judging by divorce rates, most people don't.

So I go by the philosophy of "Love 'em where you find 'em and leave 'em where you loved 'em."
 
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I would have said never a couple of years ago, but then 2 years ago I met a good one.

He proposed this year, we'll be married next year 27 and 29 respectively, planning on kids when I'm 28..

I think the best age to get married is mid 20s or older, that way you've had a chance to party like there's tomorrow, you're starting to figure out where you want to go in life and what your limits are.

But it really all depends on the level of maturity for each person.
 
Cosmic Giraffe said:
Marriage. I have been with the same woman for four years now and feel as though we are pretty much married legal confirmation aside. Why make it official by involving the government? Trust me they already know enough about me as it is. We dont need the title the love is there. Feel me?
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Precisely.
Why do people "need" the title so much?

Although my boyfriend and I are still getting married sometime, it's not like we're rushing anything. Mostly it's just then it's all legal and stuff. I mean, commonlaw marriage, there are different laws than actual official marriage.

But after that long, marriage doesn't change anything...
 
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