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Mental Health What is a loser? (people terms)

We're all a little broken folks. Hardest thing for me is taking that into consideration before I judge, let alone respond or label. Hows that old song go?
Nobody knows the trouble I've seen, nobody knows my sorrow.
 
I think that's a very judgmental word to use. In life, we win some, we lose some. We're all human. I wouldn't denote someone as a loser, but I will say that people who don't keep their goals in mind and continue to strive for those goals, despite hardships, end up less happy than those who aren't true to what they want. It's so individualized. Society says be that way or this way, but it's really just about your true calling, in the heart of your hearts. Hope this helped.
 
Me, bro. How u doin?

What makes someone a loser?

The inability or lack of desire to "win."

It's really a rather perspective based assertion.

What is it to have "lost?"

What game is it exactly, that we are playing?
 
I used to judge everybody and apply the category of ‘loser’ to many. Then I went to rehab a few times 😏 and learned to reflect on my own limitations. Since then I see people not as “losing” but maybe as “struggling” with whatever shit life served up to them and recognise that i only see a fraction of who they really are.

That said, I’m uncomfortable with people whose egos are so strong that they have no capacity for self-reflection or empathy - even though they are often perceived as “winners”.

I do also wonder about young “stoners” 18-30 years old living with their parents and still making no effort and accepting no reaponsibility in life. Totally not giving a fuck about the world, the community and family is, let’s call it “unattractive”.
 
For men
Loser is someone who doesn't have it all under control. Someone who doesn't have self-discipline, who doesn't have his thoughts and feelings under control. Someone who has all the potential to better their situation but decide not to. Someone who doesn't even try. Someone who is weak and decides to stay one. As i have said before, it's OK to be weak but it's not OK to stay as weak if you can change the situation. Someone who doesn't let go of old things and things that don't lead to anything (man who are said that the woman wants to be just friends so he stays in the friendzone hoping for something.) Someone who doesn't mean business.
You need to mean business. Most great men were dangerous, but they didn't use it in wrong ways. Being not dangerous because you're not capable of it makes you weak. Being dangerous but not using it wrong way is virtuous.
Think about men you respect most. Would you fuck with them for no reason? Challenge them intellectually, physically or some other area they shine in?
For women
Not offering anything else in relationship but pussy
Looking their phone 24/7
Not even trying to learn anything useful
Using sex to get out of shitty situations, like not having money or using it to get forward in career etc.
Entitlement
Ignorance
Use of "A real man would X" phrase
Thinking men are oppressing women and claim their lack of success on that.
 
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