You don't actually need to take it with the Xanax unless it's some sort of sudden depression or something post traumatic
I know most doctors would say it helps with general placebo at first, and carries on into the 2nd,3rd,4th weeks of the med, when the med hasn't really taken effect, and the Xanax isn't carried into the treatment past the first week...
You also need to be on it for at least 6 months, prior to previous belief of 1 month, to notice the actual improvement in most patients and to quit gradually after that even if it does nothing to you other than tummy issues and decreased libido... there will be W/D
For me, I tried that, I tried benzos alone, I tried hypnotics, I tried stims
out of all those, I found the benzo+stim combo to work amazing, but there sure was a debt afterwards...
Like one other person here said, talking with a therapist I know helped me more than all of those little experiments
I wasn't too eager to work with him at first, but once I learned how let out my thoughts he did help reach a better understanding, gave me different points of view on situations and just basically put a lot of shit in perspective...
Also I talk with friends, about pretty much anything that'd make the optimism come out, making them support me, not by asking, more like by navigating conversations... sure it sounds a little manipulative, but if it works and doesn't hurt anyone then why not?