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What do you girls like to talk about?

Survival0200

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Hello!

I just wanted to ask the girls on Bluelight, that what kind of topics do you/would you like to talk about with a guy, when you're on a date (having a cup of coffee with a guy or so)?

Thanks! =D

Guys can also answer: what have you usually talked about when you've been out with a girl?
 
Friends, family, work, hobbies, music, tv/movies, school, food.
I don't know, just some things I thought of off the top of my head. There are tons more.
 
hopefully common interests!

the last date i went on was with this pro-hunting vegetarian chick who liked to go into the woods and track animals for days for fun, that was definitely pretty cool. as long as the person has communication skills and is passionate about their hobbies, the conversation should be able to flow well.
 
Every common interests, of course!
Drugs and experiences with drugs, the life itself and sex; most girls like to talk about sex!
 
^Be careful with the sex thing, if this is a first date OP I wouldn't bring it up so soon ;)

But yeah...hobbies, interests, stuff you have in common and/or can debate about, what you've been up to lately...
 
It really depends on the girl. You can't just lump us all in the same category. ;) See where the conversation goes. If it flows well you might be a good match. If it doesn't, it still might be worth trying again...people have off days.
 
I've always dated very odd girls, but here is some of the more common themes from my many, many conversations with girls I've dated or been close friends with.

Science (mostly life sci and physical science, but a smackling of all of it. This might seem odd, but every serious relationship I've had, and most of my less serious ones too, have been with a person doing university level science.)

War and international geo-political issues related to that. (Everyone likes to hear war stories it seems)

Partying, mad drugs, raves, etc.

Philosophy, abstract mathematicsand logic.: As I noted above, I tend to pick intellectuals for my romantic partners and friends.

Sex.
 
A lot of people get so wrapped up in making a good impression that they forget the most basic conversation skill to keep things flowing : ask questions!

In fact, you could even ask your date "so, what do you like to talk about on a first date?" just like you've asked here. There would be nothing wrong with that at all, then you went straight to the source to get the info you needed.

Seems simple but if you look around some times you will notice that, surprisingly, MOST people are so self-absorbed they never even think to ask their conversation partner questions. People love talking about themselves. I'll bet that, even if all you do is ask questions about the other person and never say a thing about yourself, the other person will remember you as a wonderful conversationalist. The sad truth is, most ppl engaged in conversation are just waiting for the other person's mouth to stop moving so they can talk more about me, me, me.
 
everyone is different and people like to talk about different things.

its more important what not to talk about

ex's, emotions in depth, times that you cheated on someone (yes i did ramble this out- oh dear), a drug habit, anything to do with you hating something, commenting on your dates tits

cant think of any more at the moment
 
^

I've always actually had really good experiences talking about ex's, drugs, hating shit, etc.

Granted, it really does depend on person you're talking to, your manner of presenting it, the environment, etc.

It's ok to talk about drugs when you're talking to someone at 5:30 in the morning at an all-night party and it's probably fine to tell her about how one of your ex's who no longer lives in the country use to go this same venue with you back in the day and then diverging into how much you hate the shitty public transit service as you are now standing at the bus stop waiting and it's fuckin cold out.

Ya know what I mean?

Anything can be said in the correct way to the right person and come off as charming/cool/etc.
 
rangrz said:
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I've always actually had really good experiences talking about ex's, drugs, hating shit, etc.

Granted, it really does depend on person you're talking to, your manner of presenting it, the environment, etc.

It's ok to talk about drugs when you're talking to someone at 5:30 in the morning at an all-night party and it's probably fine to tell her about how one of your ex's who no longer lives in the country use to go this same venue with you back in the day and then diverging into how much you hate the shitty public transit service as you are now standing at the bus stop waiting and it's fuckin cold out.

Ya know what I mean?

Anything can be said in the correct way to the right person and come off as charming/cool/etc.
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No matter how cool you think you are, bitching is not attractive.
 
llama112 said:
Friends, family, work, hobbies, music, tv/movies, school, food.
I don't know, just some things I thought of off the top of my head. There are tons more.
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Do you feel comfortable talking about yourself? Because those are peripheral.
 
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