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What are you going to tell your kids about drugs?

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Sturnam

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Don't think this has been done before...but i only did a quick search.

Anyways, what are you guys going to tell your kids about drugs? That they're fun and that's why people use them? To stay away and never use, they're bad? To be safe, and just let you know what they're doing/interested in doing?

I'd like to hear from the parents, as well as younger people (assuming you have kids later).

It seems like it would be easy to tell them the truth when you're only speaking hypothetically, but much harder when they're your kids and you want to make sure they're safe. Especially with those of us that have had drug problems, we would want to make sure that they wouldn't fall into the same habits.

Lastly, at what age would you start talking to them about all of this?
 
I would tell them truth about drugs,the are good drugs ( mdma,weed,2c-b,kratom...) mind expanding drugs ( lsd,dmt,mushrooms,dob...) and more dangerous drugs ( meth,crack,cocain,heroin,hydromorphone...) and shity drugs ( dusters,inhalants,piperazines,jenkem,bufo frogs,datura... ) and that they all can be good in right situation but they need to respect them becose it is dangerous to use drugs.
 
That they're illegal and if you get caught you're going to pay for it.

That if you are a drug user society as a whole will perceive you as a deviant, or in a negative manner.

They are addictive.

That drugs will alter a developing mind.

Drugs will never cure "that" pain.

That society is full of shit in its perceived notion that drugs are bad. Everyone does drugs whether they choose to admit it or not. Coffee is a drug. So everyone is a hypocrite. Welcome to the real world. :P

Check yo self when they stop being fun.

When you are an adult and living on your own you can make your own choices, but not under my roof!

LOL I never want to have that talk. 13 btw.
 
They are natural part of human nature, but not everyone likes them. they, like anything else can be dangerous unless enjoyed in very real moderation. ALWAYS study anything you are considering putting into your body.

Do not allow governments to define your morality, think for yourself while always being cognisant of legal and social ramifications.

I have already said these things to 5 of my 6 living children.
 
I'm more concerned about the context in which my kids learn about drugs. Ideally I would like them to learn about them in the context of chemistry: they're simply atoms bonded in a certain molecular geometry, and because of this specific geometry they exert effects on our physiology by interacting with receptors in our brain.

I really think that this illusory concept of "drugs" that was forced upon me as a child by American propaganda distorted my view of these substances and caused me to compartmentalize them into a single category, when in reality most illegal drugs are only similar insomuch as they are all illegal drugs.

Basically, I just want the grade-school teachers and the cops to stay the hell away from my kids (I will also not emphasize that my kids have any type of special respect for teachers or cops, not any more so than they would have for any other person. Blind respect for authority figures is a horrible thing to teach your child). I've always thought its ridiculous to introduce "drug education" to kids before they have acquired the academic knowledge to contextualize them effectively. When they talk to kids about drugs, its anything but education, its simply just propaganda.
 
I've been meaning to ask this question!

I'm there now, still undecided on how to handle it. I have a good job and a together life. But I also I have pretty solid experience with coke, mdma, alcohol, weed. Have tried just about everything else but heroine. I've been smoking daily (expect preggers) for 15 years but I quit drinking 7 years ago.

My son is 12 and it's time I address the weed issue and it has to be done very soon. I'm deeply torn about it. I don't smoke in front of my kids, but I do smoke when they are around. I always have, so did my ex. We really really meant to not do that once we were parents, we were supposed stop when they go older but the road to hell is paved with good intentions.

My children know the smell, they aren't stupid, just not yet knowledgeable. On the one hand, I prefer to be honest. Explain that it's addictive, that's why I do it and also why I do not drink and that they should be aware becoz addiction is in their makeup. That there are different drugs, some more dangerous than others but that lots of people they know do do drugs. That if you keep your shit together you can do drugs and have a good life like us...

but that's not really how it works, most of the time. Drugs can sneak up and suck you in and you never get out. My dad is a successful man but I don't think he remembers much after 5 pm for the past 20 years. I have had more than one close friend die. I did an abnormal amount of coke for 3 years in my early 20's, getting into ugly, dirty situations often... me the little private school girl. I liked to live on the edge, so there's a pretty strong chance one of them goes down that path.

So, If I were to come down hard about drugs killing you, drugs making you set yourself on fire (happened to a friend of mine) etc and push that those kids don't get anywhere in life, that the cool kids (read: punk, skinhead, grunge was what I thought was cool) in high school usually turn out to be the loosers in life...Well then just maybe my son will be scared of those kids in the park smoking weed and riding their scooters. And just maybe we can get him out of high school (he's severely dyslexic - corrolation perhaps?!) and into a decent line of work, he's very bright and active but also very much a risk taker.

Anyways, he isn't ready to hear it all. There is no reason to give children too much information. They don't understand it and cant process it properly, these are grown-up issues or should be, at least. I mean, we shouldn't do ANY drugs until our brains are developed, but I mean, how no fun is that?! I was one of those kids.

So, we're starting with the weed (and telling him that pills from kids in high school are poison garbage made by crazy pushers who just want to get you hooked. I'm sticking to that story as long as I think he's still buying it) and I'm still working on the approach with the weed. I mean, he's going to be on my ass about quitting smoking and that's a whole other thing I have to consider and figure out. I'm not prepared to quit, as much as I wish I was.

Well, I'm still torn, so no answers here. I'm open to more opinions and insight! Thanks for reading.
 
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Instead of presents, vegan's children get ayahuasca on their birthday!

although, i guess that could be the bestest present... :)
 
Lol @ Ayahuasca.

I'll never have children but assuming I become an uncle (something I'd like, but never will have), I would tell my neices/nephews (when they are mature enough) my story... how drugs like K have helped me understand myself better, how psychedelics are important to try at least once in a proper setting but not abused often because they'll turn you into a boring asshole (and relate stories of "gurus" I met), about my addictions to opiates, amphetamines, benzos, and GHB, and how speed gave me psychotic episodes (and show them the gospel I wrote during one), and ultimately how I got a heart-attack from it.

Some drugs ought to be experienced, but I think for the majority of drugs (especially stimulants), people can lead perfectly fulfilling lives without ever touching.

I feel that my sincerity would have a lasting effect.
 
that each of them has its upsides and its downsides. that they are chemicals, which affect body functions, not unlike any other...some happen to antagonise the H1 receptor and clear your hives up, others release dopamine and lift any fatigue, shyness or sorrow or cowardice that was on you.

That mis-use of any of them can lead to all kinds of really bad things, but that moderate and "safe" use can truly add alot of fun to your life...defeating the horrible feedback mechaisms built into ones brains that allow them to be only fleetingly euphoric at best.

I would share my expierences with them, from the insights of LSD, to the sheer fun of amphetamines to the utter serene bliss of opiates, ect.

I would let them decide if for them, risk/benefit is worth it.
 
im not ever gonna have kids but i would say:

Look, drugs are used by society because they are fun.. but not all drugs are good and if abused they are bad. If you are interested in trying drugs just tell me, im not gonna ground you or yell at you, id far rather know whats going on in your life than you hiding it from me and then getting a phone call from a hospital or cops telling me your injured/dead or have been arrested.
 
jpgrdnr said:
That they're illegal and if you get caught you're going to pay for it.

That if you are a drug user society as a whole will perceive you as a deviant, or in a negative manner.

They are addictive.

That drugs will alter a developing mind.

Drugs will never cure "that" pain.

That society is full of shit in its perceived notion that drugs are bad. Everyone does drugs whether they choose to admit it or not. Coffee is a drug. So everyone is a hypocrite. Welcome to the real world. :P

Check yo self when they stop being fun.

When you are an adult and living on your own you can make your own choices, but not under my roof!
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Agree with this entire list, with the exception of the bolded part. I want social acceptance to be the last thing on my kid's agenda.
 
If I'm not dead or retarted before I can have kids, then first and foremost I will tell them that I had dabbled with a few ;) substances. Then I would tell them that they are their own person and can make they're own decisions, but I would be firm with 'em about making those choices for the right reasons (e.g. not to fit in or be cool). I would tell them that if they are open with me about their usage, that I will be fair and not get on their ass about it and make them feel like shit, because I'm going through the drug/parent fued right now, and all it does is make me want to spite them and go do it some more (and I do). And lastly if they ever feel like they are in over their head or addicted or what not, I'm gonna be there for em.
 
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