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Want to let her know.

chaseconroe

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I have this girl im really attracted to, but im just not into her personality type we've been fucking for awhile now but shes starting to not want to hook up as much because she really wants to date. I like her just not enough to date her i want to let her know without hurting her feelings and also losing a fuck buddy but if i dont do something i feel like thats exactly what will happen. Shes a lil slow so i might be able to make it work a while longer before she just gets mad and doesnt let me fuck anymore.
Any suggestions on a win win scenario?
 
Tell her, then don't see her for a month. Make sure there is a decent break of 4-6 weeks otherwise she will keep pushing for the relationship. Then if she is interested, carry on as fuckbuddies. If not, too bad.

Meanwhile you can be carrying on looking for a girl you actually like.
 
You should just tell her, seriously just tell her. If you lose her asafuck buddy then sorry but you can o look for a girl you like.
 
Just end it man! If you do not like spending time with her, why fucking bother? I can feel equally good from wanking off, and far better from smoking some tina, as I can from sex without a connection. Really, its the interpersonal dynamic that makes it so special, there are easier, faster and stronger ways to induce a coarse release of dopamine if thats what you are seeking.
 
fucking man up, be honest and find a new goddamn pokey hole - seriously, how hard is it to find someone who's after the same thing as you - eg a fuck friend only? if you piss this girl off even more, god knows how she might react at being strung along further 8)

getting your dick wet should not override simple human decency - period
 
You can't have your cake and eat it too...well a lot of the time. THis for you, my inexperienced friend, is when you're just going to have to tell her you don't want what she wants, and you think you should go your seperate ways because you don't want to hurt her.

Best case scenario - she will still want to ride your dick because you were honest, and she doesn't actually like you that much anyway.

Worst case scenario - you piss this girl off, but you don't really like her that much anyways...so, you live and you learn.
 
I could just tell her but i think its getting to the point to where she knows thats all i want. But dont get me totally wrong i like this girl shes cool to hang around with she just doesnt have all the qualities i look for in a girl we have fun together, i just dont want to date because i feel i cant trust her and other reasons as well. but im going to try and hint harder to the fact that i dont want to pursue anything further than sex, (masturbation feels no where near as good as the real thing). ill see how that goes; if not so well then ill try the 4-6 week break thing that sound like a good idea too.
 
I agree moonyham. No one likes to be toyed with and/or strung along.
 
If you can get one fuck buddy, you can get more fuck buddys. Most guys would love to be able to get into your situation, but most guys can't. Obviously you have what it takes. Tell the girl upfront and then cut off all communication and go find a more compatible girl.
 
I could just tell her but i think its getting to the point to where she knows thats all i want. But dont get me totally wrong i like this girl shes cool to hang around with she just doesnt have all the qualities i look for in a girl we have fun together, i just dont want to date because i feel i cant trust her and other reasons as well. but im going to try and hint harder to the fact that i dont want to pursue anything further than sex, (masturbation feels no where near as good as the real thing). ill see how that goes; if not so well then ill try the 4-6 week break thing that sound like a good idea too.

I'd slap you for leading me on so long.
 
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