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Top five most valuable qualities

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I searched but didn't see this thread, and I wanted to post in it.

Therefore I made a thread. I hope this is ok, mods. (Maybe it will lend itself eventually to a poll?)
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My top five most valuable qualities, not in me but within the limits of my existence.


Night swimming. In my top five favorite things about life. Right under "moon" because it is gentle and quiet. "quiet" and "gentle" are my top one and two most valued qualities of life. Love is my third favorite thing. It isn't #1 because love causes problems. That which is gentle, that which is quiet, the quiet, gentle, perfect moon, and night swimming, ideally including my first four. Tonight I have all five. I wish I could freeze this moment in time, and exist here.

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  1. Gentle
  2. Quiet
  3. Love
  4. Moon
  5. Nightswimming
 
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I think depending on the circumstances and scenarios one is put in defines what the most important qualities should be.
I'm sure in some cases only one good quality is really even needed.
 
Are ANY qualities needed?
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Of what or whom? By what or whom? I'm assuming you're referring to other people and/or life circumstances.

1. Empathy/compassion
2. Sincerity
3. Rationality
4. Humility
5. Tranquility
 
I was making reference to individuals.

cuz we're all different.
 
I think one thing I like is an open mind. People often cling to preconceived notions and cultivate disdain for opposing views, fear for the new or unknown, disregard for the taboo, acceptance without thought/analysis, etc.
Frivolous. People fool themselves into thinking life is a divine gift full of purpose and worth to be taken seriously.
Down to earth.

I think that pretty much covers my criteria. Of course this isn't needed, as I get along with most people who are friendly enough. I guess I should mention sincerity, as people who act in the manner they think you'd want them to and then slander you whilst your absent don't get any respect, their actions no credence, and their attempts to bond otiose.

I can't really talk though, as I do censor/alter my expression to comfort the ignorance of others, make little attempt to inform those with opposing views, and just generally try to create lots of laughs with a tranquil/peaceful environment, appeasing the majority without consciously harming the minority.

I guess I just like good vibes and a nice smile to look at?

I don't even know. I had my first day of TAFE today, and everyone was quiet and reserved, so during the first break lots of us sort of just congregated in a circle in the foyer. I started talking shit and got a few laughs, and tried to question others and encourage conversation even though I tend to be averse to small talk, I'm just used to every class being talkative or at least having a social/popular? I can't think of the word, but I'm used to there being a 'life of the party' type person, or at least a 'class clown' sort of guy. Needless to say, when that role isn't filled I'm happy to talk shit and get a few laughs going, because that's the kind of guy I am I guess. /OT rant
 
I'm surprised by SideOrder's "confrontation" showing up on the list. SideOrder, could you explain that to me? I don't understand, because I don't do confrontations and when I am forced to, I'm horrible at it. Can you explain your thinking about confrontation as being a valuable quality? I'd like to understand you better.

Death, I am with you about open mindedness. I think a closed mind kills peace, kills freedom, kills love, kills progress... I don't do well around closed minded people. One of my daughters has a grandma in law that is positive that her life is right and her choices are right. She considers herself a loving, nonjudgmental born again Christian, but she is fiercely judgmental. Anyone who does see things her way is just wrong.

I think thinking other people are just wrong is just wrong.

I agree with Lostego about curiosity. It is a natural gift that children have, but school beats it out of many people. People who are in their 60s and still curious about something are interesting and fun people. People who have lost their curiosity have by default accepted whatever it is, and no longer wonder, which is a kind of death of the mind imho.
 
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I'm surprised by SideOrder's "confrontation" showing up on the list. SideOrder, could you explain that to me? I don't understand, because I don't do confrontations and when I am forced to, I'm horrible at it. Can you explain your thinking about confrontation as being a valuable quality? I'd like to understand you better.
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Confrontation addresses situations in a very direct manner so that one can easily move to the next situation without the stressors of unresolved conflict. Take your post for example. You felt inquisitive, and you went with it. Subsequently, you are now receiving a response, and furthermore do not have to wonder. Had you not said anything, you may not have garnered any sort of information on what I meant by that. If you have read enough of my posts, you will see that I have clearly been through a lot. Such experiences made me realize that life is far too fragile to let problems or questions take the back seat. If I want something, unless it is a romantic relationship, I speak up as soon as I know I want it. If I question an individuals motives, I speak up as soon as I see that there is reason to question. Although my life is not ideal, and much of my confrontational approach is inherent to my core being (I'm not a people pleaser, so that makes confrontation much easier, haha), I have found that being confrontational has given me much of what I desire in every area of life. Due to the fact that I am confrontational, I value having the quality reciprocated. I feel this way because as playful as I am, when it comes to certain areas of life, I do not fuck around. I have found that by being confrontational and bringing out the confrontational element within others, I omit bullshit from my life and make it less complicated. The attainable and the unattainable, the desirable and the undesirable, all become much more evident. I find that the isolation of these things makes life much easier.
 
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1. Honesty
2. Empathy
3. Tolerance
4. Tenacity
5. Initiative
 
1. Inquisitive.- Asks why and how.
2. Skeptical- demands to see evidence, questions assumptions.
3. Aggressive- not willing to accept that which is wrong simply to avoid the fight.
4 Empathy- Can understand someone else's subjective perception .
5- Objective, can remove oneself from a scenario to analyse it, can view it from other frames of reference.
 
i would have chosen differently not three months ago, but due to recent studies, i put the following forward, in order of importance.

1-critical self reflection
2-patience
3-decisiveness
4-humour
5-passion
 
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