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The thin line between being a gentleman and stomping someone out

Speed King

Speed King

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I am smart enough to know " right from wrong"' but where is the line from putting a person in their place? To mess with you all, swim, cought a punk in his tracts. Swim( jk, it's me) feels like letting loose and teaching a lesson , but damn it , I know better. How do you ( anyone ) deal with the thought of using illegal meAsures, to handle a chump punk?
 
Be be the bigger man. If that cliche doesn't work, what will you gain if you do this? I've learned that most of the time when we give in to our instincts/impulses without thought, we do stupid shit. I used to react violently when I was younger, and I taught myself not to by realising that I think violence is wrong and ignorant. Mainly, it is pointless and doesn't achieve anything except some bullshit feeling of brief, useless-when-you-are-dead power. It is not right to hurt someone ebcause they hurt you. That legitimises their actions and also completely scuttles the integrity of your own. Two wrongs are two wrongs. Enough with that, but why do you think the only solution is physical violence?

I wouldn't bother. Fuck this dude, whatever he did, I do not know what your tracts are so....:D
 
I tend to agree that violence is not the answer. More often then not if you distance yourself from the situation you won't care as much as time passes. This is why it's important not to act when your in a rage because you may regret it later.

Believe me I understand the feeling. Events recently set me into a rage and yeah it wasn't a big deal realistically but it was a matter of respect and pride this kid fucked with. Never in my life had I wanted to prove that although I'm very nice and forgiving if I feel disrespected I have it in me to pound someone into the ground in the middle of a crowded street. It was cool I hadn't felt so determined to make a stand physically since I was a teenager. I'm over it now and realize it wouldn't have solved anything. Far better to burn the bridges and the past where they are and move forward. Any vengeance is best found through self advancement.
 
idk what the conflict is here, but you must confront them, and in the back of your mind be ready for a fight, always assume he is going to hit you out of nowhere, that way youl have the edge
 
One time these kids owed me money but wouldnt pay but had drugs to sell. So i robbed em with a kitchen knife. A week later they robbed me and as i was wrestling the hammer off one the other stabbed me in the back. Thats a lesson i really did learn. Violence sucks and its cyclic. It all comes back in thr end
 
It is all a matter of ethanol.

And of the rationale, that you cannot flee from everything your whole life. Because some day, you will end up behind bars. Try to flee, then. =D
 
Always let it slide, unless obviously you need to defend yourself. prison aint worth anyone, especially over a couple hundred bucks. Ive had a gun to my head on more then one occasion, I knew who it was, where they lived I could have easily went there and killed them, but id be sitting in a cell right now. If there robbing there eventually gonna hit a big dog and get shot. Shit always comes back around, most of the stick up kids I knew are dead or in a wheelchair now. Just dont front anyone or lend money out, people dont throw hands anymore even if they do they buddys gonna jump in if u winning. It may feel good for that second but damn when u sitting in jail it wont, my cousin got 3 life sentences 2 for murder, a dude started messing with his sister gave her a black eye, he drove by his house while he was out on the street, pulled a 45 out and shot him in the chest, and the other was when a stickup crew tried to rob him after picking up money from a crackhouse he shot 3 of them killing one of them. It took awhile to get back to him because they had him in a rico investigation, but he regrets all the shit he did he just wants to come back to his kids but it never gonna happen. Just always think before u act its tough but itll save ur ass
 
swilow said:
Let them all slide them.
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I like your style swilow :)

The only kind of physical violence that is appropriate (in terms of interpersonal relationships) is disabling restraint, which is a very specific skill set. Krav Maga has some great skill sets if you want to learn the marshal art of self defense :)
 
Thank you all for the eye opening replies. I am not a violent man, in terms of picking fights or even having a short temper ( that's why I posted, instead of reacting incorrectly).

I have found all replies to be of a help to my understanding, but also to my spirit.

Real self defense aside, I have to be the wiser, mature man and take care of any perceived wrong in a non violent matter, including keeping myself from situations that are known to be breeding grounds for trouble.

I am going to let my spirit soak this in. Thank you all!
 
Glad you found this helpful.

Keep in mind that the best self defense is learning how to defuse a situation without violence.

You can mess up real bad if you don't watch yourself.

"Check yo self fo you wreck yo self fool!"
 
I admit, I still find it difficult to settle my temper if I've been treated poorly but much less than I did as a younger man. If anything, its been age that has taught me otherwise, and laziness. But, I think that its something you need to be able to do ONLY if being attacked, and only then to give yourself time to get away. If you get in a situation that you cannot talk your way out of, you are stupid for getting into that situation. For me, I am pretty shit at fighting and really do not like it. The last physical altercation I was in was about 6-7 years ago. I had picked up my methadone and diazepam from the pharmacist, some dodgy as fuck guys were eyeing me off during the whole proceedings- I stupidly left the pharmacy, headed down a lane (even whilst I worried that I was going to be jumped!) and I got jumped. Pretty rough, I got punched and kicked but I got away by smashing a beer bottle on one of the guys heads (fuck) and ran like hell to my father who was waiting in a car for me. I should have trusted my instincts and never gotten in such a situation and I should absolutely not have broken a bottle on someone; that is really dangerous and brutal. I got away and have really learned to avoid that shit. Its certainly something that can be avoided. Its interesting that physical violence seems to be very much present in hard drug scenes. Its a shit part of the whole thing.

Nowadays, I work in a library. :)
 
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