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The recluse...?

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solskinnzombie

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I have been feeling depressed, but I recall times in my life where I felt more depressed than I do now. My self esteem has been down, but same thing, it has been worse...

When company comes over for housemates, i sit in my room, i stopped talking to my friends, i stopped going outside... I have been trying to keep the lights off more in my room... I just dont want to talk to anyone or see anyone.

This has been going on for about two weeks now and I cant figure out why... any ideas?
 
This is too broad so I don't want to speculate, but I highly recommend talking to someone about it (counselor, therapist, etc) who can help you get to the heart of the problem and figure this out.

I am pretty reclusive myself... really I am just very introverted, people often exhaust me and I like time to myself to read, think, introspect, analyze and there is nothing wrong with that. I do have to balance it and make sure I am not secluded in a room for days so I maintain a small circle of friends, take classes, work, etc... but I always need that time to myself to 'recharge'.

Most of us live in extroverted societies where people judge based on amount of facebook friends and how active our social life is but half the people out there are introverts and need time to themselves. So don't feel bad about this. If you feel its excessive or unwanted, as I said, I recommend consulting someone to get to the core of it.
 
^I agree. You should reach out to a professional.
If you'd like to go into more detail on why you are depressed we're here to listen.
I too am a recluse but I don't find it too terribly unhealthy as I do function still-
If you are sitting in the dark and completely isolating yourself, it could lead into even worse depression. Try forcing yourself to get out of the house a bit or make a phone call to a friend.
You may not feel like it, but forcing yourself is going to help you get out of it.
 
I would get reclusive at the height of my addiction -- it was a combination of low self-esteem (because of the track marks), shame and just not wanting to see anyone...but I would FORCE myself to walk somewhere, do something -- I still did these things by myself but just being in the company of other people (those I could tolerate) made me feel a little better...sometimes you just have to go through the motions to feel better (but you don't necessarily need to socialize -- just be in the presence of the type of people you like -- if you like to read, go to a bookstore and read there -- there's people around that have similar interests but they won't bother you..)
 
Sounds like some hardcore depression to me.

Sometimes though, you just need your downtime and that's that.

Perhaps there is a bit of both coming into play.

What is your appetite like? Moods, libido, sleeping habits, worklife? etc

all of the above should be assessed when considering the presence of the former.
 
Cane2theLeft said:
This is too broad so I don't want to speculate, but I highly recommend talking to someone about it (counselor, therapist, etc) who can help you get to the heart of the problem and figure this out.

I am pretty reclusive myself... really I am just very introverted, people often exhaust me and I like time to myself to read, think, introspect, analyze and there is nothing wrong with that. I do have to balance it and make sure I am not secluded in a room for days so I maintain a small circle of friends, take classes, work, etc... but I always need that time to myself to 'recharge'.

Most of us live in extroverted societies where people judge based on amount of facebook friends and how active our social life is but half the people out there are introverts and need time to themselves. So don't feel bad about this. If you feel its excessive or unwanted, as I said, I recommend consulting someone to get to the core of it.
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Couldn't have said it any better myself sir.
 
I also have a small circle of friends and their all pretty much extroverted people and they bug out when I'm just chillin in my downtime and don;t want to do anything. It's all good though I love my friends and they keep me on my feet, but I feel you on the downtime.
I very much treasure my alone time to 'recharge' as Cane mentioned.
Peace and Love.
 
ive come to realize that where as a lot of people lack certain motivations, i literally dont care. and i dont really think that it is an issue of depression. i dont feel depressed. i really think it is a very large case of "I dont give a fuck" been doing a little better socially. and it is mainly because i am now homeless. and it seems constantly being outside and dealing with people forced me out of it. definitely still hate people just as much, guess i am just like learning to deal with it. haha
 
Sorry to hear you're homeless dude, what happened?? It's good you're feeling a little bit better, but do you wish things were different? If you're happy I guess there's no reason to change, but if you wish you were happier and more motivated, there's still time to get help. Most cities/towns offer free counselling services if you want to look in to that.
 
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