The girl I want

[TCMVegas]

I'm gone from college at the moment, left at the beginning of the summer. There's this really attractive, dark-eyeliner wearing girl who moved to my hall. I'd had a crush on her for months, since I saw her shirt one day that said "make peace with imperfection". I was like and complimented her on it a week or so later. I saw her at a party near the end of the spring semester and talked with her a bit. But I was really tired, had been drinking, and on the tail end of some Adderall, so was kinda self-conscious and didn't have as much to say as I would've otherwise. I said something that was either cute or lame sounding, like "I can tell we like each other from the way we've been ignoring each other". Later on I sounded potentially lame by asking to "give her a hug goodnight" . I'm afraid I've already killed my chances with her and made a needy idiot of myself. But I also hope we'll date for months, and open up emotionally, and love each other, and fuck each other's brains out.

I need to decide how to handle it when I move onto the same hall as her. Do I tell her that I'm not interested to avoid hall awkwardness, or tell her that while deciding, or not bring anything up and just see, or open up, or what. The only thing that bothers me is that I know so little about her and don't know how she feels about me.

 

[Pagey]

The one thing I've come to learn recently is that people never remember all the stuff you said months or years ago that you're obsessing about. You might think 'oh man, I said this this or this, now they're gonna hate me forever, I bet they'll never get it out of their heads, I sounded like such an idiot' etc etc but truth is the person'll probably have forgotten already. So it's very unlikely this girl remembers you sounding 'lame' or that you didn't have much to say to her at the party.
Since you didn't make hugely obvious moves I would advise you to play it cool and see how things go. Don't be obvious about it, hang out with her as friends, and if you guys get along really well then maybe you can make a move at that point.

 

[Serotonin101]

^^^this.
I found especially at parties people rarely remember what others say. I've said some really ridiculous shit to women at parties (hey let me take this shot and do a line off them nice titties! XD) and managed to still be alright with them. some people are able to "get away" with more outlandish things due to their personality. I'm naturally a really goofy guy especially when high so I could get away with pretty much anything. the joys of the gift of gab. as long as you didn't give her a reason to despise you, she might chalk it up to "a drunken night" for you if she even remembers it. just kick it with the girl forreal and see where it goes. if she smokes, goes in for a shotgun hit if you can do them decently. ultimate ice breaker and way to enter her "intimate/personal zone".

 

[SkagKush]

start hanging out with her... let her know you like her, without actually saying it... look at her with adoring eyes, and flirt, but do so in a manor where you still come across as the good guy.

if you start out in friend zone, theres a good chance you will get stuck there....

good luck

 

[llama112]

Just ask her out on an actual date!!!!

 

[Care]

What you say matters less when you feel and act confident about it. Girls pick up on that.

Its better to say something stupid, realize it, brush it off, and continue being yourself than to be afraid of saying anything at all for fear of sounding stupid.