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Subtle/Subliminal Clues that Person is good at Sex

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What things about a person tip you off that this person would be good in the bedroom? No, I'm not talking about someone being attractive and the sex being good because you're sleeping with an attractive person. I mean the types of qualities/traits/actions that indicate to you that someone you just met, or have known for a while but have never slept with, would really know how to make the entire intimate experience great. It could be anything from the way a person carries him/herself to how a person dresses or talks to the person's interests or favourite food. I'm looking for the subtle clues that get your mind thinking I bet that s/he really would know how to work my body over well. And again, I'm really interested in things that are done before even a first kiss (so no "she sucked my tongue the way I like my 8o done." Tell me what made you predict she would be a good tongue-sucker in the first place).

"I'm really good at sex" or the fact that the person took a pilgrimage to India to study the Kama Sutra for a year are a bit too obvious. I'm more looking for things like facial expressions or certain perspectives on society. Stuff that isn't overtly sexual.
 
Confidence, how well she kisses, where her hands go on me, and her dirty talk. Half the greatness of good sex is how well she can get me worked up and wanting it.
 
Good call on the dancing, Mel.

Never in a million years did I ever think I'd feel this way when I was younger, but I'm actually turned on if I find out that a girl's had a lot of partners. If she's honest and confident about lots of partners because she loves sex (as opposed to her using sex for manipulation or validation or something). "I've been with 100 guys and each one taught me something new" really gets me thinking.
 
Good moves on the d-floor, good moves in the bedroom ;)

On a related note, how about signs related to the whole sexual experience?
Like, splotchy skin might mean splotchy taste during cunnilingus? I don't know, and that's just a hypothetical example, but I thought it might produce more replies for the thread.
 
Unfortunately what often passes for good moves on the dance floor these days is actually wack as fuck. Same for the bedroom. A lot people are into some wack ass irrythmic moves that fucking suck, but yet they think they are pros at sensuality and passion when in fact is a fake ass attempt to be something instead of really feeling something. Americans are world-renowed for fucking up music, beer, coffee, wine, food, art, culture, dance, and especially sex.

The best you actually can hope for in America is somebody who looks good and has an open mind to explore and communicate with a partner on sex. No, I don't care what your shitty creepy redneck boyfriend used to like - I've got my own tastes, thank you, and I can show you how it's done right. Confidence backing up moves that suck is just as bad if not worse than no confidence at all.
 
It's impossible to really tell except from several sexual experiences with someone. The first few can with someone new can be awkward, but not necessarily grounds to rule out potential. It would be nice if their were clues, and we can easily get fooled by certain hints and behaviors, but you can't pre-judge on this I think. I've known some of the most passionate and moving musical instrument players to be utter failures at sexuality. How they don't translate their passions and finesse into other aspects of their lives is a mystery to me.
 
I think if they are lusty about life in general...they get excited and passionate about sensual pleasures like good food, good music, good film, etc. Also if they project self confidence and an openness to touching and being touched outside of the bedroom.
 
^ Yes!
Mel22 said:
I think the way people dance can say a lot about their ability to let go, move well and not give a fuck.

An overall air of confidence is obviously also a plus.
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Totally agree with this.

Also the way a woman carries herself - whether she got swagger or a spring to her step - lets me know she gonna be fiyah in the bedroom.

Anything really subtle? Nah man not that I've noticed. I'm gonna subscribe to the thread just in case though, so if I can learn anyting here.

When a girl bites her lip usually means they're down for a good fucking. But qualitatively - no clue mate.
 
My gf says guys that pee loud are great in bed compared to guys that sound like they`re pouring a cup of water into the toilet.

As for me, I`ve found the wider the vee, the better that woman is in bed.
 
Confidence is the first thing!!!!
Being open in general - like non-judgmental - may be willing to try more things.
Those are the first two things that popped into my mind :P
 
iheartthisthread said:
My gf says guys that pee loud are great in bed compared to guys that sound like they`re pouring a cup of water into the toilet.

As for me, I`ve found the wider the vee, the better that woman is in bed.
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LOL I've never heard of that.

I've been told I'm good, but we can chalk that up to the guy wanting a second round. ;)

I've been told I have a smirk and a snarky attitude that men like. Pretty much the snark I express here is how I am in real life. I also throw out sexual innuendos all the time. It's fun. Sex is fun, so I guess I treat it as such, even though I do not sleep around at all. I think I am good, because I don't just have sex to have sex. I have sex with someone I desire beyond my control, so when I have sex with them, I want every part of them and just love the feel of their skin on mine and can't get enough. It's hard to explain, but if I feel a spark with someone, I have an animal instinct that desires them beyond anything else.

For men, at least for me, it's all about confidence. I'm pretty picky. I like confidence, but he also has to be a gentleman, so if he's all over me on the first date, it's probably a deal breaker. Really hard to explain. I've only had an uncontrollable feeling with 2 guys, but I really liked having sex with them, and I thought they were good.
 
Jean-Paul said:
oh god it is all so subjective. i just think the dancing answers are hilarious. so , a girl who can dance well is good at fucking well, huh? how about you make your DICK DANCE and stop bullshitting?
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Well no, that's not quite what was said. If you read the first post in this thread, you'll understand why people have answered as they have.
 
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