So, I have an amazing relationship with my boyfriend. We have an amazing sexual relationship as well as the fact that he does little things now and then for no particular occasion like brings me home a little gift or has flowers delivered to me at work. all the others gals in the office get flowers sent to them from time to time as well. Ecept one. And she is the girl who always brags the most about her great sex life. I'm wondering if girls - do you ususally get flowers sent to you at work and does that make you want him and love him even moe? I know it is that way for me. I feel bad for the girl who never gets any. It makes me wonder if she really has that great of a sex life or if she just compensates for the lack of other stuff by talking about it all the time. Guys, do you normally do this type of thing for your girl? Bring her home little gifts and send flowers to work? Just curious how common it is because out of the 20 or so girls in our office there only seems to be one girl who is left out.
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something besides sex... having flowers delivered?
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Calla
Greenlighter
Some girls just aren't into flowers. I did work with a girl who declared that she'd rather have vouchers for clothes 
Personally, I love them, but my partner never sees the point, so I don't get them often... just when he has really fucked up and knows it!
Some people also really don't like receiving flowers at work... i guess depending on the local culture it can be embarrassing - where I'm from it's seen a bit of a show-off gesture "look everybody what a great guy she has, isn't she lucky to have me!" so it's really only done on birthdays or Valentine's Day.
He doesn't buy me stuff anymore, but then we live together and have done for years, and share bank accounts - the deal is that I buy stuff I want, and he never asks how much it costs! I suppose I could look at it like everything in my life is a gift..
On the other hand when it comes to Valentine's Day and birthdays, Christmases etc, he always writes me a card, and takes the time to write a long note in it saying how happy he is to be with me, and how he's looking forward to more adventures in life over the next year, and lots of other romantic stuff. And draws hearts on the envelope. That means more than flowers to me.
Personally, I love them, but my partner never sees the point, so I don't get them often... just when he has really fucked up and knows it!Some people also really don't like receiving flowers at work... i guess depending on the local culture it can be embarrassing - where I'm from it's seen a bit of a show-off gesture "look everybody what a great guy she has, isn't she lucky to have me!" so it's really only done on birthdays or Valentine's Day.
He doesn't buy me stuff anymore, but then we live together and have done for years, and share bank accounts - the deal is that I buy stuff I want, and he never asks how much it costs! I suppose I could look at it like everything in my life is a gift..
On the other hand when it comes to Valentine's Day and birthdays, Christmases etc, he always writes me a card, and takes the time to write a long note in it saying how happy he is to be with me, and how he's looking forward to more adventures in life over the next year, and lots of other romantic stuff. And draws hearts on the envelope. That means more than flowers to me.
Maybe around the birthday/holidays it's cool to send flowers, or as someone else said, when the guy fucks up or he just wants to get laid. Other than that, there is not much point.
A guy sending a woman flowers all the time at work is just dumb. The woman will walk all over him. The guy that knows how to hump his woman at work has the right idea.
A guy sending a woman flowers all the time at work is just dumb. The woman will walk all over him. The guy that knows how to hump his woman at work has the right idea.
Hmm. Well I don't think its dumb to send flowers to your girlfriend at work. I enjoy getting flowers once in a while from my guy. He definitely knows how to "hump his woman" and the flowers only make the relationship better. Its the whole package I guess and not just part of the package. Maybe guys don't care about that stuff but I think that most girls do. Maybe some guys don't realize that or just plain don't care. It just seems like with most of the women I know their men send them flowers but there are just a few like that one girl at work that never get them. It could be like that one poster said maybe she just isn't into them but I would think it would be very embarassing to be the only girl not getting special deliveries. Either she's not into it or she hides it well. I'm glad my boyfriend sends them to me once in a while - it makes me want him even more )
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in our three years together, my boyfriend has given me flowers once. flowers are cool but they die quickly and i'd rather his money be spent on something i'd enjoy a lot longer.
a lot of times i get CDs and books, which is really cool 'cause it means he's really listening when i mention i like a new band or i'm wanting a new book. i've been taken on surprise vacations and i've received expensive clothing and lingerie.
just because he doesn't buy me flowers doesn't mean i'm not very well cared for or that my sex life is less exciting or satisfying than yours.
a lot of times i get CDs and books, which is really cool 'cause it means he's really listening when i mention i like a new band or i'm wanting a new book. i've been taken on surprise vacations and i've received expensive clothing and lingerie.
just because he doesn't buy me flowers doesn't mean i'm not very well cared for or that my sex life is less exciting or satisfying than yours.
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GenericMind
Bluelighter
I've sent flowers to someone a couple times. I wouldn't call it the norm though, as I've never done it for anyone else.
HippieChick
Bluelighter
Well, this may sound weird but my husband hardly ever buys me gifts, he says I just take them back anyway. So I have sabotaged my own self from getting flowers/roses, etc. He grew up with very cruel parents, like his real mom and dad divorced when he was 1 month old and his mother remarried a guard who worked at San Quinton Prison in California. He was beat fairly regularly for no particular reason. So he had no role models of what people do for one another when they love each other. His mother called our house (cell phone) on our son's 3rd birthday to see if her daughter was there like 6 or so times, and not once asked to speak to James (our son, her grandson). So it all kind of depends on the upbringing of the person. My husband loves me, but he really does not have a clue as to how to show it. Gosh, consider yourself lucky ... maybe next time, you give your flowers to the girl who never gets them, karma. Peace Out.
lostsoul.On.E
Bluelighter
since when does recieving flowers represent how good your sex life is? lol
i get my gf flowers from time to time but in no way does that represent how much someone loves you or how good your sex life is. it's always a nice thing to do but i can think of alot of better ways to show that i care for my gf than buying her flowers and such.
I like to deliver flowers by hand.
I've given almost all my ex-partners flowers.
I usually prefered to bring a single uncut long-stemmed rose on the random as a physical reminder of my affections. And yes, I left I would leave the thorns on for a reason.
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I've given almost all my ex-partners flowers.
I usually prefered to bring a single uncut long-stemmed rose on the random as a physical reminder of my affections. And yes, I left I would leave the thorns on for a reason.
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RareForm
Bluelight Crew
i have given flowers on several occasions to partners. i think that i finally see the purpose in a flower's beauty in it's brief sojourn and can appreciate it's importance.
i used to think similarly. but i don't think you have to be limited to purchasing flowers. find somewhere to pick an assortment of beautiful flowers and accompany it with something that you've created personally for a significant other. just an idea.
and i don't think that you should limit it to birthdays/special occasions, as you would do well in letting your special person know that you love them each day or just any other day.
i used to think similarly. but i don't think you have to be limited to purchasing flowers. find somewhere to pick an assortment of beautiful flowers and accompany it with something that you've created personally for a significant other. just an idea.
and i don't think that you should limit it to birthdays/special occasions, as you would do well in letting your special person know that you love them each day or just any other day.
prayersfor.rain
Bluelighter
I usually only get flowers when people fuck up. And I don't care much for flowers, unless you grew them in your own yard. They die, and then you throw them away, and that's it.
My current boyfriend brings me all sorts of random little stuff...veggies from his garden, hot dogs (I was really stoked about those actually), little things he thinks I'll like (stuffed animals, rocks, whatever) and once in a while a blunt. Oh and he brings me homemade dinner here and there and he'll sneak things into my lunch bag so I find them at work. I like it all, a lot. I think it's great.
I still get all smiley about when I found that kiwi in my lunch, lol. I don't know what that has to do with sex but I do have a great sex life???
I used to send my ex girlfriend flowers every month.
My current boyfriend brings me all sorts of random little stuff...veggies from his garden, hot dogs (I was really stoked about those actually), little things he thinks I'll like (stuffed animals, rocks, whatever) and once in a while a blunt
. Oh and he brings me homemade dinner here and there and he'll sneak things into my lunch bag so I find them at work. I like it all, a lot. I think it's great.I still get all smiley about when I found that kiwi in my lunch, lol. I don't know what that has to do with sex but I do have a great sex life???
I used to send my ex girlfriend flowers every month.
DrunkardsDream
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Ohhhh damn!
You know when you're a woman and you get flowers at work that ALL the other women are happy for you and wish that they'd gotten flowers!
Even the women who you don't really get along with or like but have to pretend to because u work together!
You know when you're a woman and you get flowers at work that ALL the other women are happy for you and wish that they'd gotten flowers!
Even the women who you don't really get along with or like but have to pretend to because u work together!
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jam uh weezy
Bluelighter
yea, i think actually making as opposed to buying shows a much better....uh...i dunno the word. haha. but anyone can go into a store a purchase a "thing", it takes someone who really cares to invest both their time and energy in creating something for another person.
not saying i never buy gifts, but they seem more just a novelty to me.
i think the only time my husband gave me flowers was my corsage for prom years ago. i agree with your sentiments that they just die. i would rather go to the bistro down the street and dinner on the patio or check out a concert together.
BeachBum4u
Bluelighter
It's really hard to justify the money, especialy having them delivered but I did do it once years ago when I REALLY f*cked up! Too bad to because it was almost expected at that point and was hardly worth what I spent. Overall, not a huge fan of flowers. My theory is to treat your woman like gold everyday and everything will work out just fine and flowers are a moot point.
I get my girl flowers every now and then, and I think she likes it, but we're both usually pretty broke so I like to spend the little extra money I have on doing fun stuff together and show my love by spending time with her and making good memories instead of some useless and temporary gift.
why? maybe it doesn't bother her at all. maybe she and her boyfriend share moments and gestures that don't have to be seen by the rest of the world to have meaning?
indeed. i often find that a romantic gesture carries significantly more weight if it's only seen by the two people involved. mileage obviously varies...
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