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Should I, and in what manner, have my gf enhance my external image?

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laVoix

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Here I am referring to having a girlfriend accompany me to social events, dressing up beforehand, acting in a certain ways to provoke positive reactions from others, knowing how to enhance my value and general awareness other people have about myself (but without it appearing as a straight-down bragging), getting through a tight competition (i.e. it's tough to dress up exceptionally when everyone else is dressed up exceptionally) with a winning spirit and confidence...

Well I already have some serious doubts my gf is a right person for this, even if I persuaded her in doing all that, she'd be still doing it halfheartedly since simply her views and reasoning are not aligned to my strategy. This brings me a lot of grief, since I can't really figure out with what kind of incentive I could possibly align our goals and reconcile the ways how we see the world?

But, should I really be doing that in the first place? Should I rely on another person to boost my appearance and impression I leave on (often random) people?
However if relying only on myself, my qualities and myself promoting them, I then don't actually see a need for an another person around me, beside cooking me lunch and an occasional sex.
 
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The impression you want to leave on other people via your external image, in my opinion, should be all your doing if she's reluctant to help you and disagrees with the way you're trying to present yourself.
 
stormcharger said:
Are you a social robot?
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Good question, but how not to be? I mean, I'm not profoundly interested about gossips and the stories going on there...most of the conversation topics actually bore me...if I hear gossip, I say 'Guys, we are here wasting our time on someones else life...' and they think 'what a dick.' Or listening to other people' internal jokes I don't really get. Or repeating for the nth time how this or that is difficult and boring and this other thing is interesting and fun, or stating elephants in the room just to fill the silence...It's just all meaningless.
I'm there because I simply prefer not to sit alone, I'm scouting for future mates for next party or adventure sports or trips, eventually shag someone and that's it. In this sense, loud places are the best, since it's mostly music and body language and no shitting around the bush with some witty comments and thinking, oh my god, what do i say next and how do i introduce from here the topic i want to talk about...

Other thing, penetrating existing social groups is damn hard. It's like you need to prove yourself, like in entering a fraternity. A girl or another skilled person can easily break the ice since everyone likes talking to a cute girl, no? :) And I get better initial information to base my subsequent conversation on and achieve some pre-determined goals.

p.s. Regarding my other topic involving commodities and stocks, google this site: RentAFriend
 
Just be your self and express your self and what you find interesting.

Who cares about all that other shit. Sounds like your making your self miserable.

These people will mostly be fakes and cheese cakes just as your doing. Having friends usually come from common interests.

In short my answer is no you shouldn't. All these things your leaving up to some one else to pick are what make you unique as a person.
 
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