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southflguy24

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My gf has been on birthcontrol for 8 years. Over the past few years when she starts her new monthly pack she gets severally sick. Her pack is almost out and she told me she is not gonna go back on the pill for awhile. We've never used condoms and it creates a huge discomfort for her. She told me I should start stocking up since sex for us 4 or 5 times a week is normal. I've informed her that I will not be buying any condoms and that we can just take a break from having sex ( oral play back door play and any fooling around). Just wondering how to replace sex in our relationship and if what I told her was the right thing. Thanks for any help.
 
My lady is on the pill and she says it not only kills her sex drive, but makes her sick and makes her gain weight. I don't blame your lady. However, she might get REALLY horny once she's off it, so be careful. Be mindful of her cycle and talk to her about being conscious of when she knows she's ovulating, and abstain during that time. Even while she's on the pill, my fiance and I practice caution when she thinks she's extra susceptible. Takes a lot of willpower on the woman's part though, because when they're ovulating, they're at their horniest, and when humans are horny, they lose inhibitions.
 
She might want to get blood work done to figure out the proper hormone ratio for her prescription. If her body has changed and the ratio is off, that could be what's making her sick.

Could also be that she's been on the pill for 8 years and some other imbalance is being masked by it. The pill has insidious side effects on women over time. Most women I've worked with who were on the pill for 5+ years have irregular periods or no periods after stopping it, often for 8+ months.

There are different kinds of condoms... some are super thin (by still strong), so they're not as uncomfortable for either of you.

I don't think you can really replace sex if either of you wants to be having it.
 
She needs to talk to her doctor and figure out another form of birth control, there are hundreds of combination birth control pills she could get on, or another form all together.

If you're having sex that often, I can't imagine you will last long without it just because she doesn't like condoms.

No one likes condoms, they suck. But they're a necessary evil.
 
you've "informed" her that you won't be buying condoms? Does she have any say in this at all? God, I feel sorry for her already.

Use the Today sponge. Don't worry, you won't be able to feel it (I have a feeling your pleasure is paramount to anything else) and it works pretty much as well as the pill.
 
just do so many drugs that sex will become insanely difficult ! its cheaper then 18 years plus of your life ! or grow up and have safe sex ! safe sex can be as simple as knowing when you GF id ovulating ! there is a window ! its not that bad to where condoms for 5 days out of the month just to be responsible 5 days ! or no ill just poison my women all year round just so i do not have to worry about counting ! what a stupid world we live in !
 
You two should try being celibate for a year. Work on communication and your relationship without thinking of your genitals. Take up painting or singing lessons. Start going to church.
 
Horomones are terrible for the body IMO
They take away the libido and and make you gain weight

We've used withdrawal for like 10 years. If a guy is good it is foolproof.
Fuck those hormones, rubbers, diaphragms, IUD's and bullshit
If I know I am close to my period, I tell him to let it rip
My gyno says it's fine with him
Never failed
 
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southflguy24 said:
My gf has been on birthcontrol for 8 years. Over the past few years when she starts her new monthly pack she gets severally sick. Her pack is almost out and she told me she is not gonna go back on the pill for awhile. We've never used condoms and it creates a huge discomfort for her. She told me I should start stocking up since sex for us 4 or 5 times a week is normal. I've informed her that I will not be buying any condoms and that we can just take a break from having sex ( oral play back door play and any fooling around). Just wondering how to replace sex in our relationship and if what I told her was the right thing. Thanks for any help.
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@harmacologist,what sort of advice is this? you must be joking man!!

Well back to my post.
First of all, welcome to BL!:)
Can we live a marital life without sex?
 
Try different condoms.

Also, try different birth control pills. My first type made me moody and gain weight and it was terrible. I was on it for a year. Switched to low hormone stuff and I have less of a sex drive but I am not as moody and I don't gain weight so that works. Anyway, there are tons of different types of pills and she should go to the doctor and see what could work better for you. It's completely normal for it to take several types of birth control pills before a female finds one that works for her.
 
Either that or you can make some tests in order to find out what´s gonna be more compatible to your body..
 
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