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Romantic Tips For Begining Of Relationship (Preferably from Women:)

muie

muie

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I haven't been in a relationship (at least a real one) for a long time since my high school days mainly due the fact that my best friend died tragically at 19 beaten to death and with his head split open, followed by a narcotic addiction and 4 year stay on methadone. Now I feel much better having met this girl and am really determined to stop completley as I have done before (though lack of motivation/reason to live was always what brought me back to using) since I am still using a little bit of heroin mostly when I work, about 4-5 times a week I might snort or smoke 60mg-100mg and I will be more than functional (high) so I still have hopes of quitting.

Recently I met this girl whom I really like and whom I care for, however being at the begining of our relationship I would appreciate some tips for romantic and subtle ways for the lead up to sex, things to do while together and so on.

Although originality is the best, there are certain things that every woman likes; subtle little things that go a long way, not necessarily sexual....things as subtle and innocent as holding hands while in bed together, nibbling on her ear, kissing on her neck, drinking wine by a candle light, rubbing on her belly and so on..you see where I'm going..

Having said that and being as it's the begining of our relationship I would love to hear some further tips on how to please a woman, and also since we're on the subject tips on what women do not like.

Many thanks

p.s. If it helps any I smoke both cigarettes and cannabis, she only smokes cannabis though I never smoke cigarettes in the same room we do smoke pot together in the same room. She also doesn't drink much, I suppose I drink a lot more than her where she drinks 2 beers I drink 3-4. She doesn't do anything else other than canabis and the ocassional drink.
 
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1) Get nice and stoned
2) Put some sweet music on and dance with her
3) Share some of the most passionate kisses ever and then make love

^A regular practice of mine. :)

Seriously though, imo there's nothing more romantic than dancing with your partner, laughing and smiling and sharing sweet kisses.

<3
 
^ I second her! :)

Even if you're not the most badass dancer in the world (I have about two moves!:D) if you are into it and make eye contact from time to time and hold her close then let her move away and come back to you on her own at a natural pace....combined with the endorphins from moving your bodies in a way that is oh so similar to fucking...its a winner.

I also whisper lines of poetry into her ear when we are standing together somewhere outside. It has to come from the heart. I feel taken over by the imagery we are seeing. Smoke in the air. Moon halo. Black trees against black mountains. Stars. Whatever is around can be recreated in words and made even more beautiful than before. You can transport yourselves to other worlds with words.

Then make love to her and learn to be a lover that puts her pleasure before your own...not out of some duty or respect for her...but adapt your mind to WANT and DESIRE hungrily that she get pleasure...oh she needs pleasure...now...your baby needs pleasure.
 
You also need to work on quitting the heroin completely. You cant have both sad to say (heroin and intense love). They are mutually exclusive in my experience. The same chemicals that love utilizes, the heroin will beat those systems in your brain into submission and an inoperable status.

So its up to you to decide where you want to go in your life. A 4-5 time heroin user/week is a person that has a serious problem.
 
One of my favorite things when the relationship is somewhat new is a candlelit dinner and conversation, so I can get to know the person better. For me, when I am really interested in someone, I like to ask a lot of questions and just talk to the person. Even after a longterm relationship, I like to sit, have a nice meal and talk about one's day.
 
Matsuo Munefusa. said:
I also whisper lines of poetry into her ear when we are standing together somewhere outside. It has to come from the heart. I feel taken over by the imagery we are seeing. Smoke in the air. Moon halo. Black trees against black mountains. Stars. Whatever is around can be recreated in words and made even more beautiful than before. You can transport yourselves to other worlds with words.
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Listen to this man he's the most romantic guy I've ever met. <3:)
 
Im not very big on poetry as in reciting from famous poets and so on lol, and I dont know if my own thoughts can be considerd poetry so that kind of fall out of the list for me.

Regarding dacing, I haven't done this before with a girl and also I generally do not dance, even when I used to go out on MDMA to clubs and raves I would dance a little bit maybe due to the drugs but I really don't know how to dance. From what you described you don't need to know much other than a few subtle moves which I think I can handle.

I can put some music on in my room where there isn't much room to move around or in my basement where I can do this better with more room. What kind of music do you ladies like to listen to on a romantic night? I have lots of stuff like Sinatra, Dean Martin, the Rat Pack.

I appreciate everything so far, keep it coming!

p.s. I forgot to mention that I'm not a great dancer, as for the candlelight dinner and for the heroin use to stop I appreciate it also. I would much rather choose this relationship than any amount of heroin.

Peace
 
Also what would the ladies preffer, a candlelight dinner at a restaurant or in the 'confort of ur own home'?
 
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sjPWqB5VHXo

Put this song on after smoking some weed. glance over at her when he says "there was only you and me." look her in the eyes when he says "you keep me coming back for more" jump up enthusiastically when "baby you're all that I want" put your hand out and get her up after first "finding it hard to believe we're in heaven." (or sooner) Just kinda smile at her til the end of the chorus and touch her hips or something. Give her a hug during the quiet part after the course. Then u guys can make out and/or slow dance the rest of the song and make love after. That's what I'd do. I just came up with this idea right here right now, so its not 100% defined yet.
 
^I heart that song.

I really don't know how to dance. From what you described you don't need to know much other than a few subtle moves which I think I can handle.
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The romantic part is a guy who isn't afraid to have fun, even if he was the shittiest dancer ever. :)
 
Get out and actually do stuff. It makes a world of difference and you won't depend on a TV or whatever as background noise. A lot of people resign themselves to couch surfing in the beginning of a relationship and that gets boring oh so quickly. It's especially bad because people do this without even thinking twice. If you're in your prime, you should be making the most of it! Experience things you've never experienced before and do them together as these times are especially meaningful. Hell, go skydiving together (I know I always recommend this throughout BL but seriously, it's the best high you'll ever have for a few minutes' time).
 
I think it depends on the girl. Whereas one girl might like hearing poetic lines about scenery, others might find it cringey.
 
Some suggestions are for teenagers who are in love.

1. Watch the sunset together.
2. Take showers together.
3. Back rubs/massages.
4. Listen to classical music and cuddle in the dark or w/ backlight
5. French Kiss.
6. Hold her w/ hands inside the back of her shirt.
7. Whisper to each other.
8. Cook for each other.
9. Skinny dip.
10. Make out in the rain.
11. Dress each other.
12. Undress each other.
13. Kiss every part of their body.
14. Hold hands.
15. Sleep together. (Actually sleep with each other-not sex)
16. One word- Foreplay
17. Sit and talk in just underwear.
18. Buy gifts for each other.
19. Roses.
20. Find out their favorite cologne/perfume and wear it every time you're together.
21. Wear his clothes.
22. Find a nice secluded place to lie and watch the stars.
23. Incense/candles/oils/blacklights and music make for great cuddling/sex.
24. Kiss at every chance you get.
25. Don't wear underwear and let them find out.
26. Kinky is bad- Blindfolds are good.
27. Lightly kiss their collarbone and their jawbone just below the ear, then whisper I love you.
28. Bubble baths.
29. Go for a long walk down the beach at midnight.
30. Make love.
31. Write poetry for each other.
32. Kiss/smell her hair.
33. Hugs are the universal medicine.
34. Say I love you, only when you mean it and make sure they know you mean it.
35. Give random gifts of flowers/candy/poetry etc.
36. Tell her that she's the only girl you ever want. Don't lie.
37. Spend every second possible together.
38. Tell her that she doesn't have to do anything she doesn't want to. And mean it.
39. Look into each other's eyes.
40. Very lightly push up her chin, look into her eyes, tell her you love her, and kiss her lightly.
41. Talk to each other using only body language and your eyes.
42. When in public, only flirt w/ each other.
43. Walk behind her and put your hands in her front pockets.
44. Put love notes in their pockets when they aren't looking.
45. Clothes are no fun.
46. Buy her a ring.
47. Keep one of her bras somewhere where you see it everyday.
48. Sing to each other.
49. Read to each other.
50. PDA =3D Public Display of Affection.
51. CAPTURE HIS HEART AND MAKE HIM LOVE YOU FOREVER
 
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