Advice Pussy too loose?

[Dating_Meth]

Some background info: I’m a 44 year old female, and have given birth 3 times. My youngest is 14. I started smoking meth a few times a month back in May. I’ve heard and read about how great the sex is with it. I finally gave in and hooked up with a friend last night because he’s been constantly telling me how great it would be. Wrong!

He no sooner got it in and asked me “Have you been using your toy a lot?” I said yes and asked him why. He said “I can tell. You’re just really loose.” I was shocked, embarrassed, and offended. I don’t have a dildo, but a clit suction toy.

He’d been drinking hard liquor and was high also. He kept pulling out and saying he couldn’t stay in because he was going soft and I was too wet. In the middle of this he starts watching porn on his phone while trying to fuck me. I called it quits. I was so turned off.

My question is how do I know if I’m too loose, and more importantly how do I fix it?! I’ve only had sex with 4 other men and none of them have ever said that. I know that I was really wet because in the beginning I was super turned on. Every other time in my life I’ve always had to use lube. He made sure to tell me as I was leaving this morning to do some exercises to tighten up. I feel disgusting and embarrassed. It just blows because I was so excited about it! Please help.

 

[AbbeyLee]

Well it's hard to know if you have a big vagina or he has a little dick. Him on meth and booze make me lean towards the latter though. He was probably horny but couldn't blow and blamed you in frustration

 

[Pawaini]

Alum stone it’s used for that issue.

 

[Jabberwocky]

That guy is an idiot and and an asshole. Vaginas don't get stretched out by toys like an old tshirt. There is some natural variance regarding size.

But either way I honestly can't believe he would say that in the moment.

 

[Bagseed]

yeah the guy sounds like an idiot.

 

[Cheshire_Kat]

Are we sure this isn't a nicely placed troll thread?

 

[AbbeyLee]

That guy is an idiot and and an asshole. Vaginas don't get stretched out by toys like an old tshirt. There is some natural variance regarding size.

But either way I honestly can't believe he would say that in the moment.

There are big and small but yeah the thing is muscle. The fact he did go on about it suggests it *was* his problem. Confident men don't act like that.

 

[AbbeyLee]

Are we sure this isn't a nicely placed troll thread?

Not at all sure

 

[jasperkent]

Please help.

I agree with AbbeyLee and Snafu.

The guy's a jerk and the problem was with him, not you. A lot of men are notoriously insecure sexually and often blame any dysfunction on the woman.

What an asshole.

 

[AbbeyLee]

He kept pulling out and saying he couldn’t stay in because he was going soft and I was too wet. In the middle of this he starts watching porn on his phone while trying to fuck me.

Heh. I wouldn't have been there in the morning.

 

[Dating_Meth]

Are we sure this isn't a nicely placed troll Unfortunately, I’m not a troll.

 

[Dating_Meth]

Well it's hard to know if you have a big vagina or he has a little dick. Him on meth and booze make me lean towards the latter though. He was probably horny but couldn't blow and blamed you in frustration

I was married to my ex for 16 years and he never once even hinted that I’m too loose. He also never tried to watch porn on a phone beside my head while still trying to have sex. The whole thing was such a disappointment.

 

[Jabberwocky]

This is his problem. Limp meth dick.

It usually gets blamed on the drugs, though...

 

[AbbeyLee]

The whole thing was such a disappointment.

LOL. Tell him.

 

[stardust10]

Yeah he sounds like a total dickhead, he's probably just insecure. I think you can do kegals if u want to though or there's this thing you can buy that's like weights lol...I went through an insecure/paranoid stage about it lol...if they fall out then you'll know maybe but I think there's different weights like starter, intermediate etc im baked

 

[Dating_Meth]

Alum stone it’s used for that issue.

Thank you very much! I just ordered an alum stick.

 

[AbbeyLee]

I've been told by doctors I'm the opposite so never been paranoid, though I did kegels after giving birth (there are worse things that can happen down there than some limp dick complaining).

I'm trying to think of what to say to him lol.

 

[Dating_Meth]

Yeah he sounds like a total dickhead, he's probably just insecure. I think you can do kegals if u want to though or there's this thing you can buy that's like weights lol...I went through an insecure/paranoid stage about it lol...if they fall out then you'll know maybe but I think there's different weights like starter, intermediate etc im baked

I do kegels every time I pee.

 

[Dating_Meth]

I've been told by doctors I'm the opposite so never been paranoid, though I did kegels after giving birth (there are worse things that can happen down there than some limp dick complaining).

I'm trying to think of what to say to him lol.

I think for the first time in my life I was rendered speechless!

 

[RareForm]

Wow. How old is your friend? Insouciance, puerility, and ignorance all?

Perhaps you could tell him that if he would go ahead and start fucking off, he'd have a great head start.