Problems with E and Friends

[ChrisCim]

Ok, I'm having this problem with my friends, and my new girlfriend.
First of all let me introduce myself, my name is Chris, I am 18, a few months out of high school, live in Coral Springs, FL, work in Miami. My parents just recently sold our house and are moving to North Carolina, but the thing is that I don't want to go to North Carolina, so I'm staying here.
Ok, now on to the problem. For the last few years, I have hung out with who I thought to be the coolest group of friends. I thought we would be close friends always. And when my parents were going to leave for N. Carolina, I was suppossed to move in with my friend who I will call G.
About two weeks ago, we all went to this hotel in Ft. Lauderdale on the beach to roll. Well at about 9, most of my friends all drop their rolls, I didn't have any because one of my friends was suppossed to go out and get some for me, but he hadn't come back yet, so all my friends are rolling, having a good time, and I'm just sitting there, it was all right, and so at about 12:30, my friend shows up with the rolls, so I drop mine at about 12:45 and it hits hards at about 1:30, so now I'm rolling my ass off, and everyone else is coming down, and they don't feeling like doing anything, so I go in the room to get some water, and then when I come back out, there was this other group of kids that were having a party, like three or four kids, and so I was like this is cool, I can meet new people and talk to them. And so we're all sitting there chillin and talking or whatever, and then this girl from the other party comes up where we all are, and she's with this other guy, and I'm just sitting there smoking a cigerette, and this girl who's name is Katie, was just like staring at me, so I was like, ok, I can do that too, so we're just staring at eachother, for the longest time, just looking into eachothers eyes, it was weird yet cool at the same time. And then she finally broke the silence by asking me if I wanted a message, I was like, that would be awesome, so I'm just sitting there, blowing up like crazy, it had to be the best message ever, and then I just feel back into her arms, and she started just messaging my arms, head, chest, etc.. and then I just turn my head and look at her, and we start kissing and kissing for the longest time, now this is at about 3:30, so we're just sitting there talking and kissing, she's still giving me a message, and so at about 5, everyone else is all worn out and had gone to bed, and I'm still rolling, so we decided to go down to the beach and watch the sunrise, which I might add, everyone should do, it is awesome. So we're sitting on the beach, just kissing, feeling, and talking, and then at about 8, we decide to go back to the hotel and see what everyone else is doing, so we go back, and we found out that the kids she was with, left her there, so I go to my room to get my stuff and give one of my friends a hug goodbye because I had to go home and take Katie home because her friends left her, and my friend says don't hug me, I'm mad at you, I was like why? And she was like because you had sex with that girl, and I told her I didn't, and I guess she didn't believe me because two weeks later they still think I did, they said they saw us on the beach having sex or some crazy shit like that, which I don't know how they came up with that. We Ok, now about two weeks later, I'm still seeing that girl, whom I like very much.my parents have sold their house, and on tuesday, they are leaving for North Carolina. So I am staying with my friend Richard for the time being, I was suppossed to move in with my friend G. But because I am seeing this girl, my friends want nothing to do with me, they think that this girl is a slut and we had sex and my friend G. says he doesn't want me living at his house because I am seeing this girl and he thinks that I'll give him some kind of weird disiese, which this girl has none, she's a virgin.
Can somebody please help me out with this, my parents are leaving tuesday and I really don't have anybody else to stay with, and the place where I am staying now, I can't live there, but I can only stay for a few days to figure something out.
I know this seems long and complicated, but somebody please help me with this.
-Chris

 

[Motorcity]

Sorry to hear about that, sounds to me like your friends are ALL FUKTED UPPED! I don't see any reason for them to give you attitude, maybe they were jealous that you left them on the beach and met some new ppl (which BTW is kewl). Can't tell ya what to do, but if it was me....bye bye Birdie!
Peace out and good luck.

 

[loupy]

Man, this is harsh. I know what it's like to have this group of friends you really depend on, but I can't imagine what it'd be like to have them so totally turn on me like that. The worst part is they're still your friends, you can't just write them off, you know? *sigh*
I dunno what to advise here, as you're at a total life-decision point here. Not the biggest of ones, but still important. You got your friends of a few years, a girl that sounds really awesome, and your family.
But... basically the problem lies with your friends. I dunno what the hell is up with them. What kind of friends are so narrowminded that they're willing to just shut you out over this thing so easily? Especially when you're depending on them. And they're so completely unwilling to hear the truth of the matter. It's not easy letting go of people that you've cared about for years, but it doesn't sound like they hold your friendship in quite in the same light as you might hold theirs. In other words, maybe you should think about moving on. At the very least it's time to review your relationship with them. No one wants to go off on their own, but... what's the alternative?
Certainly not ditching your new girl. She sounds like the good thing going on in your life. If you've made that connection, don't lose it. Your friends have the totally wrong read on her, but that's their problem. And their loss if they can't accept her. Stay with her, see what happens.
As for the friends, I guess all you can do is keep working on them. If they don't care enough to want you back, then you're probably better off finding new people who WILL care enough, you know? But who knows, maybe they'll come around. I hope so, cuz it's hard losing the people you care about and depend on.
Which is the last thing. Where you're going to live. If your friends show no signs of letting up, you gotta figure something out. Look for 'roomate wanted' stuff or whatever. You don't have to bail with your family at all.
I dunno if anything I've said has been ANY kind of help (probably not, but hey

) but just keep in mind that the only thing to expect from life is the unexpected (or some other cliche that you wanna put in here

). Living life is rolling with these things and enjoying it. Sometimes you get time to make plans, sometimes you gotta go with the gut decisions. Just have to trust yourself enough to know that you know on some level where the rights and wrongs lay.
Okay, inspirational cliche mode off. I really hope things work out for you. Peace.
Loupy
-The doctor is OUT.

 

[Butterfly]

I've had better experiences living with random people I don't know than with my friends. Even if this situation hadn't happened with your friends, living together can put a strain on your friendship and even the best of friends find they don't get along. It's probably better that you recognize now that you can't move in with them than after the fact. I'm sure you can still patch things up with them, but I think you're right that living with them is a bad call. Try looking around and see what your options are. Know what you're looking for in a roomate and investigate other possibilities. I was in a situation similar to yours about a year ago. I knew I coulnd't live with my friends anymore, so I moved in with a bunch of completely random people. One of them became one of my best friends. On the outside we seem like very different people (ie. she's never touched any drugs and I'll try anything) and I don't think we ever would have become friends if we hadn't lived together. Anyway, my point is that it might seem like it sucks that you can't live with your friends, but the situation still has potential to turn out alright or even better. You never know where life will lead you...

 

[flux]

what??? what kind of "friends" do you have if they don't want to see you because of the girl you're dating? and over her virginity? have they even talked to her? arg, i don't understand how anyone could be so narrow-minded.